“Ignoring The Illusion” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Ignoring The Illusion” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Ignoring The Illusion

June 27, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody. Welcome, welcome, welcome. You should see the hoops we're having to jump through in order to be able to do this today but it makes us happy to be able to get to you. The topic for today is "Ignoring The Illusion." You know folks, in life, you often heard me say that: Life is nothing more than an illusion. And I preface it by saying: You know, there's nothing going on in your life that you did not create. The mind, however, is an entirely different entity and it actually believes that these are real problems... that these things that you're going through you need to be concerned about, you need to be worried about.

This month I asked my dear friend Melinda to please write about this subject. And I have to tell all of you, she's done a terrific job and you'll see it in the Newsletter which will be coming out when, Alfred?

ALFRED:

We usually do them in the first week of each month and there's about 2 or 3 years of Articles and Spiritual Topics specifically for women. You can find those in the Newsletter, or you can go to HansKing.com and under "Free Resources" you can find the "Free Articles for Women."

HANS:

Life, as we know it, is based on what each one of us is busy creating. Okay? That's something that's very, very hard for people to grasp. They believe what they're seeing is real. But folks, everyday in your life you pass through other people's emotions, other people's creations. So nothing is actually planned folks. Spirit has an overall plan for all of us and we stay on that. But everything else... how you arrive at your destination is entirely up to you. Okay?  

And so having a quiet understanding that: Oh, wait a minute, this isn't real... I had a dear lady friend of mine email me the other day and her life has just gotten so complex. She's worried about money, she's worried about being alone, she's worried about whether she'll lose her job, she's worried about whether she'll make her mortgage payment, her light bill was too high... this and that. It's just non-stop. But none of it is "real" and none of it is "true." But the mind chatter continues to invest in the appearance of it. And the more the mind chatter invests in the appearance of it, the larger it gets and seems to become "real."

This is why I say to you... You know I did a lecture at Agape some years ago and one of the questions that I asked was... about 1,400 people in the audience, I said: Can anyone in this room tell me what's going on in their life that they did not create? And nobody raised their hand... nobody. But you also don't sit around and sit that I'm making up this stuff either... for yourself. You know you're having these fears and doubts but you normally don't say: Am I just making this up? Is this real? Why am I lending energy to this?

So one of the things that Alfred and I teach is when you learn to start to pull yourself back from the appearance of what you've created, your whole life as you have known it, changes immediately. Alfred, any words on this?

ALFRED:

One thing about ignoring the illusion that we want you to understand is how much your mind tries to trick you into making what it thinks is "real". It's not just that mind chatter reminds you of the past or makes you worried about the future. But it makes you "feel" as though those things are actually "real." And the truth is - it's the past, it's gone, it doesn't exist. But your mind will not just simply remind you of what happened. It will remind you of the emotion, or it will remind you of the pain like it was yesterday. And you need to ask yourself when you're feeling something that's in the past to say: How real does it feel? But how long ago really was it? Was it last year, five years ago, ten years ago, twenty years ago?

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

But your mind is making it "feel" like it was yesterday. That's not the truth. That's an illusion. And the same thing also with the future is if your mind is making you worried about something that does not exist, because the future does not exist yet, it feels like it is "real." What if this could happen? What if that happens? And your mind makes you start freaking out and worrying like it is the truth. Like it is actually happening. And you're getting all stressed. And the reality is it's an illusion. Your mind is making you feel stressed about something that doesn't exist.

HANS:

And I've noticed, Alfred, that through the years when Spirit and I in our sessions try to remove those fears and those doubts from the people, they try desperately to hang onto them.

ALFRED:

And that's what we're trying to say is just because you "feel" something is real, doesn't mean it is real. It is an illusion. Okay? So it's not just that your mind presents you with false truths in its speaking but it makes you "feel" things that are not true also. And it really detaches us from a state of ease, it detaches us from our peacefulness, it detaches us from who we really are.

HANS:

And as we've always taught you - No two things can be in the same place at the same time. So when you're busy running all of this stuff... How often, Alfred, have both of us heard: I don't think Spirit hears me. They hear you. You have no place to hear Them. You're too busy manufacturing all of these illusions and not only, children, do you manufacture them, you spend time and effort investing in them, re-creating them over and over and over again.

So it's really important to sit down and ask yourself: Wait a minute. Is in fact any of this true? And what you're going to find out is: No, it's not true. But your mind chatter will try to tell you that the illusion is real because it created it. And like Alfred said earlier, it's always a matter of what "could" happen.

ALFRED:

Yes. For things in the future, things that "could" happen, there is a difference between thinking about something in the future that "could" happen and what your mind does to you which is making you believe that it is "real" and that you should actually prepare yourself and feel for that thing that is real that doesn't exist in the future.

HANS:

(Laughing) I know that if you're listening to this now. Alfred's smiling. It does sound funny - but it's true. Have you noticed that most of the questions that come into this Show are questions about what "might" be going to happen? And them some of them are about "why did that happen"... which used to be a "what if this happens?" Because being in the human form we tend to take the improbable and turn it into the appearance of reality. Have you noticed that, Sir?

ALFRED:

Especially if something has happened to you in the past, your mind wants to protect you. It wants to control the distinct possibility that what it's telling you is the truth and it's going to happen again and you need to protect yourself. And it needs to remind you of what happened, so that you can remember what happened, and you can feel what happened, in case it happens to you again.

HANS:

Exactly. It tries to reinforce itself.

ALFRED:

So the funny thing is that your mind is actually bringing to you that which you're trying to avoid.

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

How's that one for a "why?" So you're trying to avoid the thing. But in the reality, your mind is bringing it to you every single day by you thinking about it and the mind makes you "feel" like it actually is happening. So if you think about that, your mind is actually really convoluted. But it's so hard and that's what we're trying to tell you, is to tell the difference between something that isn't "real" - the past and the future... in this case the past, something that happened. It's over.

Now we do have a lot of Advanced Meditations in the Intuitive Development Class that help you separate who you are from things that happened in the past. We're trying to tell you right now just to be "aware" that your mind is doing these things "to" you. It's much more advanced to say: Okay, now that I'm aware that these things are lie, what do I do with the lies? How do I handle them?

So what we're talking about is whether your mind chatter is making you believe or feel something is the truth is really to dissect the matter and determine: Is this truth? Is this real?

HANS:

That's the key point, Alfred, right there. Is it truth? No fear is truth. Now there are moments in our life where somebody may cut us off on the freeway or there's a close call with another person in some sort of endeavor you're doing where fear will come up.

ALFRED:

Or your child is running around the house with a knife.

HANS:

Yes, well that would do it.

ALFRED:

Yes, that's real fear.

HANS:

Did you ever do that, Alfred? Or was it a broomstick or a baseball bat?

ALFRED:

We used to play with elastics. Like shoot elastics. And my parents would always scream: Be careful! It's going to hit you in the eye! And one day it did. The elastic went in the wrong direction... That's real. Okay? But the majority of what your mind tells you we want you to take a look at and dissect it calmly and say: Is it real? Is it really appropriate that I'm on high alert feeling these emotions.

HANS:

So basically what we're saying to you is investing in the illusion of what the mind chatter is creating takes you directly away from your ability to engage Spirit. And the more you do that, the more you invest, the less and less and less... And then you wind up emailing Alfred and I and say: Where has God gone? Where has Spirit gone? They haven't gone anywhere - you have. The adage is that: No two things can be in the same place at the same time.

ALFRED:

And what we're trying to tell you is: God is always there. Guidance is always there. Spirit is always there. Universal energy, abundance, love - that is always there. The question is: Are you allowing your humanness to separate you from that which always is? Okay? Let me say that again: Are you allowing yourself to separate from that which always is? Are you allowing your mind chatter, are you allowing these feelings to come in and take over you and separate you and block that which always is around you?

HANS:

We do that ourself, children. We simply do it ourself. Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.

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“Judgment and Opinion”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Judgment and Opinion”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Judgment and Opinion

April 6, 2015

HANS:

Good day everybody. So glad to be back with you today. "Judgment and Opinion"... Wow, can you imagine going through your life with no judgment or no opinion? You know, that's what we were supposed to do. That's what Spirit, that's what God lined us up for. No judgments, no opinion.

But unfortunately, we live in a society that points out to us, every single day, what's wrong. What “could” happen, what “might” happen, what “has”  happened... every day. And then we have all the pundents on TV and all the reporters and the writers for the magazines who all have their opinion, which is nothing more than a judgment. They don't know. I'm watching, right now, the country go crazy with this nuclear deal with Iran when nobody knows the truth but the President and Secretary of State and his staff. But all these judgments, all these opinions, all this fear, is pouring forward. Whether you like Mr. Obama or you do not like Mr. Obama, he has the best interest of our country at heart... and always has had. 

So when you come into this world, you come in with no judgments and no opinions. Well, where do you get judgments and opinions from? Well, it starts with your family. Because each member of your family has arrived and wherever they are in their life, having gone through multitudes of pain and upset-ness and not knowing, and most people don't have really peaceful times anymore, and so they sort of built up this wall and they make it somebody else's fault. Oh, well your grandfather did this, and you know if your grandfather had just taken his money and put it in here we wouldn't have this problem we have today with money, and your father lost his job and nothing's ever been the same since. 

That's what we do. We start forming judgments and opinions. True spiritual performance for the self is when you say: It is that it is and it is fine. Because every single thing, kids, that you come across in your life is meant to help you. Every relationship, every child, your parents, are meant to grow you. Therefore “nothing is wrong.” 

I remember when that Buddhist Monk said to me... He said: Well young man, what if you found out that absolutely nothing was wrong? And I couldn't... I couldn't, kids, get my head around that thought that actually nothing was wrong. He said: It's only your perception of what is happening that makes it look wrong to you. Okay? Only your perception. And that's where your spirituality comes into play. 

Because when we have a perception, it says that we have a knowing. No we don't. We have an idea of what we think should be right. But someone once said: There's your opinion, my opinion, and the truth. Interesting, isn't that? In every argument there are two sides who believe they are correct. In every war both sides pray to some kind of a god. 

Simplicity, always children, is truth itself. And the simpler you make your life, the less turning on FOX News, or listening to pundents, the less you do that, the less you set yourself up to hear discord, anger, resentment, the purer the energy around you becomes. And as that energy becomes purer, your life becomes sweeter, it becomes kinder, it becomes nicer. But when you allow the mind chatter to rail on and on and on about this is wrong or that is wrong or why did this happen... It just “is.”

You will always be taken care of by Spirit - always. God knows you're here. Yeah, for some of you you've chosen what appears to be little more challenging lives. I did. Alfred did. But does that mean... And this is what I want you to really all hear - does that mean anything is wrong because you have a more challenging life? No. It's just that you chose very challenging situations to grow your character. And it is your character that you take back to Spirit when you leave here. How you did, how you handled... Remember, Spirit never looks at the deed - ever, ever, ever. They only look at the intention behind the deed. I've been telling you kids for years now.

We set ourself up in a situation that says: If only I had this... Or if only I could do that... If only I had a partner I know my life would be perfect. But that's not true and you all know that's not true. If only I had enough money, everything would be perfect. Well, there have been times where you've had plenty of money and then you worried about not having it.

Learning that you are enough, learning that you have enough, learning that fear is about the possibility of lack, fear is about the possibility of not finding love. I'm counseling a dear friend of mine and she keeps talking about a relationship... not having a relationship. And I said: It's not about the relationship. It's about the relationship you have with yourself. And on Saturday, we spent 3 hours helping people to understand that it's not about the love out there, it's about the love in here, the love inside of us. 

We present ourselves to Spirit and to God as very needy and very sad because we don't have something. When we have surrounding us, every day, love... every day, love. But we don't look at that as an asset. We look at it as: Yes, we have love but it's us, where's my partner? That's not what it's about. Love always comes when you're not looking. Stop looking for love. It never happens that way. Only when you're not looking, it shows up. And it shows up in the most unusual ways. Okay?

Judgment, anger, resentment, are all products of a sad place in our heart. We need to blame people, we need to become victims of people, and we need to become victims of situations. When if we would stop one day, sit down and say: I'm done; It's over. I'm going to listen to Hansie's "You Are Enough." And I'm going to follow my life from that point. I absolutely refuse to be intimidated, I refuse to allow myself to be fearful, and no matter what negative thought comes into my head I intend for it not to be able to stay any longer.

Alfred?

ALFRED:

A lot of people try to understand what happened. Where do these judgment and opinions come from? Why are they so prevalent? A lot of it is because of the way we grew up. We looked towards others who we thought knew more than us. Thus we took on their judgments, their opinions of life, whether they're family, friends, or media. And part of spiritual growth is to understand that you are unique. There is absolutely no need for you to take on anyone else's opinions and judgments. And in reality, any judgment, any opinion, is simply mind chatter because you understand the universal truth - that it is impossible to have a proper judgment or opinion.

Because you don't  know everything. You don't know complete dharma, karma, experiences, attitude... anything. So quite simply the simple spiritual practice is by doing the inner work you're letting go of all of those judgments and opinions. That is a huge part of letting go of mind chatter, that is a huge step towards getting inner peace is letting go of all of those things you picked up as you were growing up.

HANS:

And Alfred, I think it's important for people to remember they didn't do it deliberately.

ALFRED:

No.

HANS:

Nobody set out to be in pain, nobody set out to be unhappy. It happened along the way. Okay? It happened along the way. I was watching a movie on TV and the young man about 13 or 14, he found out that his girlfriend really didn't like him very much and she gave him back his ring. And he came home and his dad sat him down and said: What's going on, son? And he told him. And he said: Ah, growth. And the kid said: Well, what do you mean? He said: Now you're growing. Remember something, you're more important than the ring. You're more important than the person that you love. You are enough for yourself. And it was just like somebody took a page out of a book of mine. And I thought: Isn't that wonderful that this is going out?

Knowing that no matter what appears, it's only a lesson. It's not going to do you in. We pick our lives, we pick our partners, we pick whatever lessons that we choose to learn. But judgment shows a weakness in the soul itself. Judgment, blame, victimization, all of these things show a lack of understanding of the principles of truth. So sit yourself down and say: From this point forward, I will no longer live in the space that I have been in that is causing me such sadness. 

And children I know people who have more than enough abundance who God has blessed unbelievably who still struggle every day. So having funds, having good health does not mean it brings happiness. Happiness is a place that resides in your heart when you touch the Godforce within.

And Alfred, I think that will conclude the lessons for today.

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“What If Nothing Is Wrong- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“What If Nothing Is Wrong- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: What If Nothing Is Wrong

February 7, 2015

Hans:

Hello everybody. Thank you for being on-board with us today. Today's topic is "What if Nothing is Wrong?" I've noticed with the questions there is this sort of flow of concern that comes with almost every question. And I've addressed this before but I'm going to try to see if I maybe work it a little differently to help you out. Every time you send in a question, I want you to notice the manner in which you send the question. I am always here, along with Spirit, to answer any question, no matter what. Always happy to be so, without having a judgment of where you're coming from or what's going on. But Spirit is taking this opportunity to maybe give us a little lesson on love and acceptance. In other words, knowing that everything is okay. It is only our perceptual mind that is taking an unknown and making it a wrong for us. Making it scary for us. 

For instance, someone says: this person isn't responding to me the way I would hope that she would respond to me, can you tell me if she's going to respond to me? Spirit will say, at that point: Now, now. What's the importance? Why do you need this to happen? And why are you making it sound like there's something wrong if she doesn't respond to you? Because in the Spirit they operate out of "exactly's," as I call them. Something either "is" or "it is not." They don't have a gray place, like maybe it could be or maybe it could happen. So right now, what they're trying to help you all to understand is, coming from a basic place of spiritual reality, that nothing is really wrong. And if you want answers to the question, it's just out of curiosity, nothing more. But so many people, when you listen to their questions... Now we have 2 groups of questions that we're going to be answering this week because we were traveling. And so everyone listen to the questions and feel the concern from the individual. If you remove the concern of the situation from you and simply have a quiet knowing, it is what it is and will be what it's going to be. Without having expectation, all the concern, the worry, the fussing, starts to disappear. 

I know a lady, who I'm very fond of, who is worried and concerned about every single solitary thing in her life and she does it every waking moment of her life. What if the coffee maker is broken? What if I can't make coffee? What if there's ice on the step and I can't go get my mail? And she starts with this the moment she wakes up. And her life, for someone who is financially as blessed as she is, her life is simply miserable because of the concerns. So her questions are always directed at: is this going to happen, is my mother going to understand what I'm saying, how long do I have to wait for an answer from this company. She just never stops it. And therefore she disturbs her ease. And she's constantly ill. 

When you're asking a question, try not to make it sound like your life depends on the answer. Because it really doesn't. And I know about those heart ones, those love questions, I understand those. But sometimes you get questions from individuals who already know the answer to the question but they're asking it anyway. And all of you can see where that comes from. Does he love me? Well now you know the answer to that. Because if he loves you, you know it. Does she want to stay with me? You know the answer to that question also. Because if you're asking it, there is doubt. And if there is doubt there is a problem. You see? 

So the way our world operates is in a constant flux of survival. This constant flux of: will I get this job, is this going to happen, is that going to happen, does my partner love me, are my kids going to be okay... It's a non-stop flow of fear and uncertainty. So I want everyone to start going back to a quiet, simple place. So I think a good place, Alfred, for everyone to start and graduating to that peaceful place is for them to listen to "You Are Enough." 

Alfred:

Yes. A lot of it has to do with you understanding that you don't need anything. Everything that you need is available to you in the moment.

Hans:

Yes, you already have it.

Alfred:

And it is through things like worrying that you separate yourself from that which you have and place yourself into a place of limitation, a humanness place, a place of suffering, pain, by worrying about it, by trying to find that which is already available to you. By focusing on the You Are Already Enough and everything you need is available to you if you simply have faith, have trust, believe in what we're telling you, then all of a sudden that which you're looking for will appear.

Hans:

Yes. So asking questions to clarify things that you already know is you trying to change the outcome of what you already know to make it what you would like to see and hear. That doesn't work well. You know, you can fit a square peg in a round hole if you shave the peg to make it fit. But does that mean that's supposed to be in that hole? A whole other thing entirely. So what I want all of you to understand is that you have a resource here with Alfred and I that can basically change the outlook of your life. And when you change the outlook of your life, you change the direction of your life. You see? So when we say: What if you woke up tomorrow morning and found out that nothing was wrong? It's really hard to wrap your head around that. When I first said that to Alfred he said you're full of prunes. So the more he worked on that, the easier it got. Yes, Alfred?

Alfred:

And it is something that can be worked on. It is part of the inner work. It really is removing those aspects of you that think you have to be in control, that you have to protect yourself, that the outcome is up to you, you get what you negotiate. It's by removing the things that protect you by focusing on your goals. All of these things were beat into us. We all know what they are. And it is through the inner work, by removing them piece by piece, brick by brick, that you're much more able to be in the moment. To understand that there's nothing more important than to be connected with universe, to be in-sync with your Guidance, to just simply be in bliss and listen to what the Other Side has to tell you. Even if they tell you: Everything's fine, everything's okay. Your job is to "not to understand," to just have faith that what they're telling you is the truth. By questioning, by trying to understand, you separate yourself from that which you're trying to get. If that makes any sense at all.

Hans:

It makes sense. Thank you. Try to write that down will you?

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

What I've noticed throughout the years we've been on the radio with you is that questions from a lot of people come in to us from a place of fear, a place of doubt, a place of unknowing. When if we could teach you to simply know that there wasn't anything wrong. Only our perception of what is going on. That's what's telling us. Our perception is telling us something is wrong. You see? So just look at this as a new way of being, a new way of learning for this new year. Okay? That this is a time now when everyone can start to let in all the light, all the hope, all the joy that is theirs, without having that filter of fear. That filter that says: Well this could happen, or that could happen, or what if this doesn't happen, how will it affect that? And we build up this scenario of fear and doubt. 

And sometimes when things happen to us that appear bad, well it's actually a blessing in disguise. And if we knew that in advance, we would be able to say: Well, that's the way it was supposed to be so I'm good with that, I'm on the right track. Now your mind chatter's going to come in and is going to tell you a whole new story. Like if you break up with someone, for instance. You'll going to run all of this stuff by about what you might or could have said better, what they could have said, or why didn't this work. Be grateful in the moment, bless the relationship, bless that person who has been with you, wish them well, no guilt, and move on. Because the best is yet to be. 

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“Holiday Peacefulness” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Holiday Peacefulness” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Holiday Peacefulness

December 28, 2014

Hans:

Hello everyone. Today's topic is "Holiday Peacefulness." One of the things that I recommend that people do is remember the excess mind chatter on this particular subject. And so before you go into an event where the people are present, you need to be very still. Sit down, be very still. And say: I choose this day not to listen to my mind chatter. I choose this day to no longer be wounded, to be hurt by past memories with this family. I choose to take today and turn my life around by accepting them just as they are. Not reacting to anything that is said, just blessing them. You don't have to say that out loud. But you don't have to respond to anything that's said either. You can always say: I choose to be peaceful. It will make them crazy. But it's very contagious actually, Alfred.

Alfred:

Okay. So Hans can you tell people how to let go of the need to fix family members? We really love our family, we want them to be as happy as we are, but what are the ways we could just let the family members be?

Hans:

What if you found out guys, all of you, what if you found out that there wasn't anything wrong? What if you found out it was your perception that was making the other person wrong? The other person doesn't think they're wrong. You do. So what if you just loved them and accept them? You may not agree with their behavior, my friends. But having no judgment is offering love, basically. So if you just love your family, with no judgment, don't try to fix anyone. Be that light you want to see in the world. Be that change you want to see in your family. And you'll be amazed when people say: You don't seem to be angry anymore. Say: No, I'm not. And they will say: Well how did you do that? I found love in my heart for everyone. And that's hard to do, my friends, because we have so many memories of who did what to who and when and who can sit next to who and who shouldn't be invited... All that stuff is humanness. All that stuff, all the anger is all humanness. That's the absence of God in your thinking. That's the absence of Spirit in your actions. Because the truth of the matter is none of them are wrong. It's your perception of what went on that caused you to have a judgment. But what you can't do is sit inside of them and listen to what they say about you and that they think you have a judgment. So by simply putting love in the place of judgment, and acceptance in the place of anger, all of the pain begins to dissipate. 

I had a dear lady client that I had known for over 25 years and she hadn't been home to see her family in 20. And she had all of these reasons about what her brother and sister did to her, what her father and mother did to her, and she had magnified this so out of true proportions that she never went back to the family and every year she didn't go back she reminded herself of why she wasn't going and she built it and she built it and she built it. And Spirit said to her: This year you're going back. We request that you go back with no judgment and only love in your heart. She said: They'll tear me to shreds. And Guidance said to her: No, only you can do that. They will not tear you to shreds. She went and she called me before she got on the plane in San Francisco, she was going to New Jersey, she called me, she said: I'll never make this. And I said: Go. She went. And she said before she went into the room she did the exercise that we gave her and she said when she went in people ran up to her and hugged her. Her mother cried, her father cried, brother and sister cried, they loved on her. We have missed you so. Where have you been? What did we do that ever made you so upset? She said: I never would have believed it. Even when Hans, you told me, I couldn't bring myself to believe it. I had caused all of the pain in my own heart. Folks, when you go to be with friends and people that you think there's a problem with, put love in your heart, put Spirit in your actions, you'll be amazed at what happens.

Alfred:

And this is what we want to get to is all of these inner peace practices. Start them during the holidays - non-judgment, letting go of the past, being an example of your beliefs, going within. All of these things we've been talking about, start them during the holidays but apply them to everybody. And that's really difficult. But if you can do them with your family...

Hans:

You can do it with anybody.

Alfred:

...you can do it with anybody. That's the point. Don't just do non-judgment, letting go of your past during the holidays. Let's talk about doing this...

Hans:

Let this be the platform for the rest of your life.

Alfred:

Exactly, for the rest of the year...

Hans:

Or for the rest of your life.

Alfred:

This is the way to give yourself the greatest gift possible – inner joy, happiness and peace, all year round. What do you think about that Hans?

Hans:

I think it's perfect because it's true. And what I'm trying to teach you tonight is our perceptions become oftentimes our worst enemies. Our perceptions become anger, fear, doubt, judgment. Our perceptions are nothing more than a filter that we have put in front of us so that we don't get hurt and we view through that. I remember, if all of you remember, the movie "Auntie Mame," for instance, with Rosalind Russell. What a fun, wonderful Christmas movie. In fact I'm going to watch it tomorrow as I do every holiday. But they decided to make it into a movie and for reasons unknown to anyone, they decided not to use Rosalind Russell but they decided to use Lucy. Now an incredible actress of her own and there's no doubt whatsoever. But she insisted, absolutely insisted, that they shoot her through gauze. And it was fuzzy and cloudy and my dear friend Hal King was the make-up artist for her for over 25 years. And he said they made it almost impossible to almost see her. That's what her perception said she wasn't good enough the way she was. She wasn't perfect. So she needed to shoot that through the gauze. 

What I'm saying to you is you do not need any filter between you and love. You already are love. You are already the best you will ever be for God. For those of you who are alone this year, and there are millions of you, this is an opportunity to remind yourself that in fact you are not alone. In fact, your God doesn't love anyone more than you as you hear me say each week. Find something to do that makes you smile. Back in the day Alfred used to say: Go find a flower and just look at it. There's such beauty in the flower. It doesn't have to demonstrate who it is, it radiates who it is. And if you're alone, it's a terrible word, I don't like that word, but if you're not with someone or a group, a family, that's the opportunity of a lifetime that a lot of spiritual people miss. The value of being by yourself during major events in your life so that you can look in that mirror. You know I used to give workshops about 25 years ago, and I would hand everybody who came to the workshop a mirror. And one of the exercises was I want you to look in this mirror and then tell me who you see. Do you know that most people, my dear friends, could not do it. And that was our opening round, that really scared them. Most people could not tell me who they saw in that mirror until one little old lady in one class said it all. Every bit of 80, and she had followed me for many, many years, and she looked in the mirror, she held it up to her face on the side, and she says: Hans, I see love. And I said: Margaret, that's the answer. I see love. Folks, when you go to that mirror before you go anywhere, or present yourself for an interview for a job, before you go home to the family that's all screaming and hollering at each other, go look in the mirror and present yourself Love. That is who you are. It doesn't matter what anybody else sees or anybody else thinks. So, in the moment, when you have it, Alfred likes to refer to it as a dysfunctional organization - your family, find the joy and the humor in who they are and the love in who you are by loving them anyway. Okay?

Alfred:

And Lord knows if you can learn to be just pure love around your family, which the majority of old souls have "interesting" families, if you can do that, then you can be love with anyone.

Hans:

Something in that wonderful thing that was written by Anonymous - somewhere in there he or she writes "If you can keep your head when everything and everyone else around you is losing theirs... " And I thought, yeah. If you can do that, you just found your peace. And folks, when you find your love, you find your peace. 

Alfred:

So the holidays are just a wonderful opportunity to...

Hans:

All around, yes.

Alfred:

... practice love, practice patience, unconditional love, non-judgment – the basics. To practice them with your family...

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

... and then continue to practice them for the rest of the year. That's what we're telling you is the way inner peace and happiness.

Hans:

Alfred, you brought something up a little bit ago that I think is really important for everybody to hear and then I came in and sort of expounded on it a little. Folks, what we're teaching you today should not be a once a year occurrence. It should be "always." Starting with I am this and I will be this and this is how I'm going to operate out for the rest of this year and the rest of my life. So use the catalyst of the holidays perhaps to broaden your understanding a little here and then carry that throughout the year and throughout your life. I want to take this opportunity to say to everyone, look forward to this New Year. Be ever so grateful of the one you just had. For many of you many prayers that you had prayed for, did come true. For many of you, some of your worst fears came true. However, remember now that it's done. That was then, this is now. And make a promise to yourself to discover more of who you are. Learn to spend a little more time with yourself. Learn to be less judgmental, especially towards people who don't live up to decent expectations that you have, like friendship and warmth and love. Have no judgment of them because you don't know who they actually are. Even though they could be your sister, your brother, your mother, your father, you don't know inside of them who they really are. Bless them. Ask Spirit to bring them everything they need to discover who they are and to make their life of value. Okay, Alfred I think that will conclude the topic for today.

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“Family and Friends During the Holidays – Handling Differences” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Family and Friends During the Holidays – Handling Differences” 

- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Family and Friends During the Holidays – Handling Differences

December 22, 2014

Hans:

So our topic for today "Family and Friends During the Holidays." How do we handle those differences? First of all, you don't point out how wrong they are. Remember, they're entitled to be where they are, and they're entitled to have their opinions. And it's not our job, it's not your job, folks, to try to change them. Mahatma Gandhi once said: Be the change you want to see in the world. So that's what's important. Do not debate your truth. Do not try to convince anybody of your truth. If someone were to say to you: How did you get where you are? How did you become so peaceful? That's another matter. Explain it as best you can without coming from a place that says I am correct and you are wrong. Explain who you are and how you arrived at your peace, and it's from that place that they have an opportunity to grow. Not by lecturing them. Now, if somebody is ragging on you and saying:  You know what are you talking about? You don't know what you're talking about. You know here's the right way and all that... Remember what I've taught you all these years. Well, what do we say: Not my problem. That's they key. And trying to say: Not my problem, without having some guilt attached to it. Right, Alfred?

Alfred:

Yes, because they are family and that's the real issue is how can we spiritual speakers talk to them? Be there for family members, listen to our brothers and sisters, our parent's point of view, and still love them knowing they are on a different path than what we're at. And one of the most basic, fundamental, life-changing lessons is "have no opinion"...

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

...have no judgment.

Hans:

In other words, Alfred, I think what we're both trying to say is: Don't make them wrong. Let them have their own belief system. Do not argue your point. Say: Well, I love you and bless you where you are. This will drive them crazy for one thing. But it's very important that you're only there folks to help someone who asks to be helped. That's all. But you're going to have people out there in your family and in your daily life, your friends for instance, who basically are angry, who basically don't understand your point of view, or may be a little jealous of your position, or just who don't get you or just can't see you... and that could be a mother and a father or a brother.. could be a best friend sometimes. But remember something, they're entitled to their opinion and it is not our job to change anyone. Let your light shine that others might see you and where you are and there will be people who would like to be part of that light. But getting confrontational, arguing with people, trying to help, wanting them to see your point of view – that is not your problem. That is their problem. Okay? Alfred, you can remember back when during the holidays, there were family gatherings. Remember some of the dysfunction during those times?

Alfred:

Oh, I'm sure there's so many people out there who remember, or still are going through, who can show up, who's not allowed to show up, and for those people who are showing up, who can sit next to who, who can sit across from who, who has to be separated from who, and actually having a serious discussion about that.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

You know Alfred, when you first told me that, I have to tell you, I've never had that experience. I was absolutely shocked that your family couldn't let so-and-so sit across from so-and-so and they couldn't invite so-and-so or so-and-so wouldn't come. I was absolutely amazed. And I still am to this day that that is how people would treat this holiday.

Alfred:

But I think a lot of our listeners want to hear about how do you relate to relatives and friends that say and act in ways that are simply not truth - spiritual truth? How do you get along. Especially during the Holidays?

Hans:

Then basically you don't discuss it. If they wish to push you and they want to be confrontational, your job is to say: I love you and I respect your opinion. That's it. Do not engage them in the conversation, because they are looking to pick a fight. They want their point of view to triumph. And the only way it can is if you agree to it. And if there's no place in you to agree to it, they will give up. Alfred, you have a wonderful statement that you say to people sometimes: I love you anyway.

Alfred:

Yes...

Hans:

There's a lot of power in that statement.

Alfred:

...and that's the thing to do is to just be love, Is just to be caring, is just to be helpful, is just to be there and be helpful, be caring, be loving, be as Hans was saying, inside yourself, be that example. But just not discuss this stuff. You show the example and be the example of what you believe. As much as possible, love everyone, care about everyone, try not to have an opinion. Just smile, just be peaceful regardless of what's going on, who's arguing about what, who's talking about who, your job is to stay peaceful.

Hans:

You just brought up one very important thing, Alfred. People will try to engage you about other people. You, yourself know this in your own family. And they will try to engage you - do you hear what so-and-so did? Can you believe that so-and-so did this or said this about some... Do not engage in gossip about others, children. Because what they will say about others, they will say about you. Back away from it and always say to Spirit: Please bless them. Help them to find their way. Help them to find their light that is best for them. That's what I do folks. And folks I have wonderful clients out there, and you know who you are, who have terrible relationships with a family member. Sometimes that family member has the appearance they're trying to hurt you, trying to take something away from you. Many times because a parent or parents have died, there's an estate and oh my God, nothing tears a family up more than an estate and the rivalry that goes on. Even though you may be the most loving, caring, kind person, there may be somebody in your family who feels it's necessary to attack you and hurt you. That usually comes from a very sad and jealous place inside of themselves. But meanwhile, the appearance is they have the power to really hurt you emotionally. Always remember, no matter how hard it may be in that moment to say to Spirit: Bless that person, help them please, show them where they need to be, and let  the light shine on the subject we are engaged with, that we are involved with. Add the power of the light to it. Sometimes you don't see results right away. But over time, Spirit will bring the light, for sure. Remember light always follows darkness...always, okay? So use this as a time to rejoice the power within you and let the light of the God-force, the light of Spirit to shine upon you. So this is an important time to learn to be peaceful in the appearance of craziness, in the appearance of dysfunction. You know this, right Alfred?

Alfred:

Yes, is not to believe what is going around, not to believe what other people say, not to fall into the trap of getting sucked into "drama." What someone supposedly did, what someone supposedly said, your job as a spiritual soul, is to be "peaceful," is not to have anything that's going on around you knock you off your center. Again one of the most basic teachings we've been going over, especially on this show, is what someone else says or does is not your problem.

Hans:

Is not your problem ever...

Alfred:

...it's if what someone else says or does, does knock you off your center, that is your problem.

Hans:

Absolutely Alfred, that's correct. What someone thinks about you is none of your business, but what you think of what they think of you should be very much your concern.

Alfred:

Or anyone... or your cousin, or your parents, or your uncles, or your aunts or your friends...

Hans:

Yes, it doesn't matter who it is. Exactly...

Alfred:

...whatever anybody says or does...

Hans:

...has nothing to do with you.

Alfred:

...about anybody else. It doesn't even have to do with you, it could be your brother's in a fight with an uncle, it's your mother says something about your cousin...

Hans:

Exactly. You know Alfred, a while back I was talking to a dear lady and she said to me: You know Hans, my mother said this and that about me and only the other day she said: Well, I was right, you're never going to amount to anything. And she said: This has wounded me so badly. And I said: Why? She said: Because of what she said. I said: But what she said has nothing to do with you. She said: Well, certainly, it was directed at me. I said: No, it wasn't. This was not a statement of who you are, angel. This is a statement of where she's at. No, they're two different things. Separate yourself from somebody's else's rage, separate yourself from somebody else's anger or opinion. It has nothing children, listen again, this has nothing to do with who you are. And there are times when it appears that God doesn't see us, God doesn't hear us, the Spirit has abandoned us when these people run amok and start hurting us. But therein is the lesson that you chose to learn. That lesson was to learn to rise above the appearance of the difficulty of the sadness. To be better than to be identified with that sort of behavior. Because again, as Alfred and I are pointing out to you, it has utterly nothing to do with you.

Alfred:

And notice what we're talking about here. Is we're talking about very basic spiritual principles. What we're saying is: Treat your family, treat your friends like the way you treat anybody else.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

The issue that we've seen year after year after year is people think well, they're family, these spiritual principles don't apply to them. Of course they're going to love me. Of course they're going to care. I don't understand why they're being mean. And that's where you get yourself in trouble...

Hans:

That's exactly true. You get yourself in trouble.

Alfred:

...is you apply these basic principles to your family and friends just like you do to  anybody else.

Hans:

You want to talk at this normal level. You want to be involved with them at the new level you've found. But they can't hear you, folks. They can't see who you are. So don't try. If somebody comes out from the shadows and said: I don't exactly know what you're talking about, but it feels good in my heart. Would you mind explaining a little to me? Absolutely, go for it. You can help anybody who asked to be helped. But if somebody has a judgment and then says: Help me. Don't bother with them. Don't bother with them folks, move on. Let your light shine. Let your light show you the way. Because there is no relationship on earth that is more precious to you than you to you. That's the gift that God gave you. Because inside of each and every one of you lies the power of the God-force, lies the power of the Spirit – you are connected at that level – always. And the only thing that can bring you down is your own consciousness. That's all. 

Alfred:

And one point I'd like to tell everyone... Well, what is that confusion, what is the feeling when you get confused to say: Well, they're my family. Of course they're supposed to love me. Of course they're supposed to support me. Of course they're supposed to be generous and loving and kind. And what happens to you in that internal conflict when they're not? What is going on here when you say: I don't understand this. They're supposed to be family and they're not. And so many of us get torn apart because something inside says: Well, they're supposed to be supportive and loving. How come they're tearing each other apart and being mean? 

Let me explain this in a very simple way. For those of you who are spiritual, you will find that inner deep “knowing” that your family and friends should be loving and caring and supportive and generous and always there. Okay? If they, themselves, are not spiritual, then it doesn't apply. However, what it does apply to is your family and friends in Spirit. They love you unconditionally. They are always there for you. They are there to support you and to guide you. And that is one of the hugest benefits of doing Automatic Writing is you form a relationship with those family and friends that you thought should always be there. And that's part of Intuitive Development is to get you a stronger relationship with those family and friends who are in Spirit and who understand: Yes, that's the way you're supposed to behave. You're always supposed to love everyone. You're always supposed to care. You're always supposed to be supportive. And that is what comes through when you form a relationship with your family and friends on the other side. Why? Because they're in Spirit. So if you have that instinct, and you're being torn apart, you have to realize the simple fact - those family members who are not spiritual, are not going to act that way.

Hans:

Alfred, do you remember any number of years ago when you finally heard the message that you are now giving others, for yourself and your family? Do you remember how things began to change?

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

When you stopped being hurt by actions from your family? 

Alfred:

Yes, and there's so many things that seem like basic spiritual teachings in this lesson, but if you go through and actually apply them, your life will change and these basic spiritual lessons of: Not my problem. Just be peaceful. Have no judgment of them. Just be loving. Be peaceful. This will change your life. I carried hell with me for 24 years about my family - how they abused me, how they abandoned me, how my life was ruined because of them. And then one day I woke up and said: Oh, that's not true. And all of a sudden, all that hate, that anger, that disappointment - dissolves.

Hans:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

Because it's not the truth. The truth is, it's not your problem, it's their problem.

Hans:

That is right. And kids, when you get that, and Alfred's about as thick-headed as you can get, sorry Alfred...

Alfred:

It's the truth.

Hans:

It's the truth. (Hans laughing) He's about as thick-headed as you can get and for him to get that... I watched his demeanor, I watched everything about him soften. And I watched the anger begin to dissolve. And I watched him have a resolve to not be hurt by this anymore. And folks, for all of you, there's going to be times when a mother or a father, a sister or a brother says and/or does things to you and deliberately intends to hurt you... It could even be a legal action, and deliberately intends to hurt you, defend yourself legally, but don't take it personally. That's the key. Don't let the statement of somebody else disturb your ease, disturb your peace, okay? Alrighty, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.

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