“Fear” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Fear” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic:  Fear

January 23, 2015

Hans:

Hello everybody, welcome, welcome, welcome. Our topic today is "Fear." You know, my friends, over the years we've dealt with fear in many different ways. But I've been getting a lot of emails and phone calls lately, people saying "is this going to happen, is this true?" A gentleman who I love and been part of our work for a long time called me and said I just heard someone say that the... I won't name the party but you'll just use your imagination. One of the political parties now said it's time to cut Social Security. He says I get my first check next month. He said am I going to be able to get that check? This fear that's out there now is an opportunity for all of you to practice what Alfred and I have been teaching you lo these many years. For me, a lot longer than Alfred's been alive. And fear is not real. Fear is an emotional place within you. 

Remember when we did that show... oh, I don't know... 2 or 3 months ago and we did it from Mexico and it was entitled "Fear and Doubt Can Only Live in the House You Build." Some of you have seem to have gotten away from that reality. And I've noticed that in some of the questions over the last couple of months you can hear the fear that's creeping in. I want to say to all of you that says to yourself that you have a deliberate intention, an intention, to allow the fear in. Fear again can only live in the house that you build. And remember fear is its own food. It keeps reproducing itself over and over and over and each time fear reproduces itself it gets just a little larger and it sort of sticks itself deep into your soul. The only thing that we have to fear is fear itself, as Mr. Roosevelt said back in 1941. 

But that is the essence of truth because fear is a manufactured product of your own consciousness. And you do things in a conscious mind that you would simply never do when you get into fear. 

People have strange fears about... I'll give you one that you all heard me talk about - Ebola - and Spirit said to you: It's irrational. There's 7 billion people on the planet, 300 of them have Ebola. One person came to the United States with Ebola. We have 315 million people in the country...One. But the headlines were filled with Ebola this and one party's blaming the other party, it's a pandemic, it's going to sweep Europe and all... nonsense. And we told you nonsense at the time. And before that it was Putin and the Ukraine, and it was taking over the Crimea and Russia's coming to occupy Europe, and why isn't the United States going to war to protect... all this. Fear, fear, fear. And we have one group of people in this country who thrive, who literally thrive, on the possibility of fear. And many of these people think they're good, well-intentioned Christian people. But if they were, they wouldn't have the judgment, and they wouldn't have the fear either. 

We have locked ourself into – in this country – into a fear based lifestyle. A fear if we don't get this education we won't be able to get a good job. Fear. If I want to make my dreams come true I need to leave what I'm doing and pursue them. Fear being: Well, what if I fail? What if that doesn't work? What if I'm doing the wrong thing? Never thinking that at that moment that fear is opportunity knocking. Opportunity knocking. Opportunity saying: Wait a minute, this is all made up. You don't have to do this. You are a unique example of God in human form. There are no limitations with the Godforce, I am not making that up. The same God that got me this far will get me to my destination, or my next part of my journey. But the whole country... turn on the TV's sometimes folks and go just to two channels - MSNBC and FOX. The difference between those two channels is so shocking to me. I'm not going to say one is better than the other. I'm talking about the message, people. The message. The things that people say. Remember back when during this current Administration all those predictions of the collapse of the United States, immigrants were going to take over the country, the economy was going to fail, everybody would loose their savings, there would be riots in the streets... I heard all of that. And suddenly out of nowhere - oh, well the economy is better - oh, well we are working on the middle class - oh, well no it wasn't quite as bad as we thought - oh, Ebola didn't sweep the nation. FEAR. Fear of an unknown. 

Some years ago I was talking to you about fear and Spirit said to me, while I'm talking to all of you, They said: Well, explain something to me Hans. And this was one of my main Guides. And I said: What? He said: What can you be afraid of what you don't know if you don't know it? Think about it, folks. How can you be afraid of what you don't know if you don't know it? Because your mind always puts a dragon in the unknown. That's why. And when you do that you say to God I don't believe that you're there for me. You say to Spirit I don't trust that you're there for me. And somehow you manage to negotiate the freeways, and the restaurants, and getting kids to school, and the snowstorms... Somehow you manage to get from Point A to Point B. 

I have a client that I've had for many, many, many years and he has to fly continuously around the world. And we're sitting doing a session in San Francisco once and he said: Hans, I find it so hard to believe. I said: How many miles did you fly last year? Well, he says: Well in excess of 200,000. I said: And you don't believe? And he thought for a moment. I said: How many plane flights did you take? He said: I can't calculate it. And I said: And you don't believe? You get in a cigar tin can and fly 38,000 feet in the air, through the atmosphere, you've taken how many flights, taken off, landed, and you're still here and you don't believe? Somewhere in you, you believe enough in the universe to allow yourself to get on that plane even though you know there's a possibility that plane could fall down. But you believe somewhere or you wouldn't get on the plane. So sometimes when we're busy thinking of what bad could happen to us we forget all the good that has happened and already is happening to us in this moment. 

Have you noticed, children that fear is always about something that "might" happen? Might happen. This could happen, that could happen. And when you start down that path you become a victim of fear. Not a nice thing to say, I understand that. But you become a victim of fear. And as you become a victim of fear, it keeps feeding itself and reproducing itself and one day you wake up at 2:00 in the morning, 5:00 in the morning, and you're in a cold sweat because fear has even entered into your sleeping form causing you nightmares. So you have an opportunity in life to say: I choose to not live in fear and I choose that my God loves me so and will take care of me. I have nothing to fear but being afraid myself and doing this to myself because I'm perfect in my God's eyes and I'm taken care of. You have that choice. You can make that choice. You can say: I'm enough not to be afraid. All that I need, all that I desire is in front of me. I'm the only one that's blocking it. Okay? So there's no written agreement with you in your contract that says you are to be and remain in fear. That is all self induced and man-made. 

The other day I heard something on the television that was shocking. They said in the 50 years that airliners have been flying to Hawaii from the West Coast, we're talking about hundreds of thousands of flights, we've never lost one. But the fear generated at the possibility is huge. Fear is something that you can control or it can control you. You have to decide which it is. When I was a very young man, for a very short period of time, I was afraid to be in crowds, I was afraid to be in the public. Because what I didn't realize was that I was clairsentient. Nobody told me. And I found out I was clairsentient so I was actually picking up sort of vibrations from peoples and crowds and many of you have had this feeling and I just wouldn't go because it was too scary. And people used to say he wouldn't go into a room where there were more than six people in it. And that was pretty much the truth. Now I go into a room with 1,000 people. It's perfectly fine. Because I've learned that my fears were irrational. There was no truth. 

Have you ever noticed something that we do kids, have you ever noticed that if we're afraid of something we'll try to defend why we're afraid of it? With no rational real reason but we'll make one up? And here's a big one - well, it "could happen." It could happen. Yes, it could happen. But it's not going to. So why do we need for it to happen? By believing it is going to happen or it might happen. Why do we do that? Why don't we just say: I'm not afraid and I refuse to defend the fear that I have. I choose this day to be happy. I choose to be light. I choose to be love. If you don't have $5 to your name, you can say that. You can open that door. And when you open that door, everything begins to change, everything. Because the essence of God that flows through you has no fear. The essence of Spirit, which is your strength, has no fear. Remember what we always teach you - You cannot shine the dark in the light. The light will always prevail, in every situation. There are dark moments that humans put us into, out of our control - wars and what have you. But we can rise above that. We can rise above that. 

Somebody asked me the other day what I thought of the movie "American Sniper." Now folks, I'm not going to get into that today. But it's a real good reminder why war is insanity in motion. Pure, unadulterated insanity, pointless, no reason. Why, why? I watched some people being interviewed and they said these words: Well, we have to have those people because the other ones are coming to get us. No. No one's coming to get us. We don't need snipers to defend ourself. We never have. We never will. Okay? So what I want you all to do today is to sit down and look at your Fear Book. Look and see where you are. Look and see are you allowing any fear, doubt, worry, or concerns to interfere with the flow of your life, the beauty. Remember something, oftentimes the humblest of people we know, the humblest of people we meet, are some of the happiest people we'll ever experience. Always. Because they know that their God loves them. Hands down, I've said this for years, some of the happiest people I've ever met in Mexico, of the poorest of citizens on the beach on a Sunday, the love, the family. They don't have any money but they've got a 6-pack and they've got food they can make and BBQ and the kids got a little pool to play in... They have a ball but they have no money to speak of compared to what we are used to seeing.

And I'll never forget that ride I had to the airport... the taxi driver. And he said to me: Can I ask you a question? I said: Certainly. He says: Why are Americans so afraid? Why? He said: They act as though something's coming to get them. I had to reach for an answer. But the real answer is because that's what we're taught - that something's coming to get us. Nothing, folks, is coming to get you. Get on with your life. Take the principles that Alfred and I have tried to teach you. Alfred, a little something from you on this subject.

Alfred:

The question is why is fear so important? Why is dealing with fear so important? It's because if you are fearful of doing things, you're not going to follow the advice of your Guidance. If your Guidance says, for example, here is this magnificent opportunity, we know that you have it in you to follow through with this opportunity, here it is, we're giving it to you, this is what you've asked to experience. If you're fearful, you're not going to follow through with that opportunity that you asked for and that your Guidance has provided you. Fear is going to keep you from the life you asked to experience. It's going to keep you from your abundance. It'll keep you from your happiness. I couldn't imagine a crazier life if the Other Side is working on your behalf and you say: No. That's a reason why fear is really important to deal with.

Hans:

Yes, to learn from. But have you ever noticed Alfred, that when you try to take fear away from someone they fight to bring it back?

Alfred:

Well, it's as I heard a long time ago from a couple of people I thought I respected and they said and: Well it's the devil you know or the devil you don't know. And I looked at them and said: You know you're holding onto a devil because you don't know what else there could possibly be?

(Hans Laughing)

Hans:

Yeah, it doesn't even make any sense. Honest to goodness, it doesn't.

Alfred:

Wait.

Hans:

Hello. Wait a minute here.

Alfred:

Isn't it welcoming the thing that you don't know because it's a thing that you know that's getting you into trouble and maybe by surrendering what you know and asking the Other Side for help...

Hans:

If you surrender Alfred, you'd be out of control.

Alfred:

Exactly!

Hans:

There's some fear attached to that one.

Alfred:

Yes. Being out of control so you can control the devil you know and keep what you have. Yeah, life as a human. So what we try to do is teach you to live as Spirit. Spirit is all about surrendering. Spirit is all about trust, faith and belief that what is coming for you is for your highest good. That is the way of Spirit. Fear is the way of humanness.

Hans:

Yes, absolutely. I think Alfred, that will conclude the lesson. I don't want to appear as beating them over the head.

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“Holiday Peacefulness” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Holiday Peacefulness” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Holiday Peacefulness

December 28, 2014

Hans:

Hello everyone. Today's topic is "Holiday Peacefulness." One of the things that I recommend that people do is remember the excess mind chatter on this particular subject. And so before you go into an event where the people are present, you need to be very still. Sit down, be very still. And say: I choose this day not to listen to my mind chatter. I choose this day to no longer be wounded, to be hurt by past memories with this family. I choose to take today and turn my life around by accepting them just as they are. Not reacting to anything that is said, just blessing them. You don't have to say that out loud. But you don't have to respond to anything that's said either. You can always say: I choose to be peaceful. It will make them crazy. But it's very contagious actually, Alfred.

Alfred:

Okay. So Hans can you tell people how to let go of the need to fix family members? We really love our family, we want them to be as happy as we are, but what are the ways we could just let the family members be?

Hans:

What if you found out guys, all of you, what if you found out that there wasn't anything wrong? What if you found out it was your perception that was making the other person wrong? The other person doesn't think they're wrong. You do. So what if you just loved them and accept them? You may not agree with their behavior, my friends. But having no judgment is offering love, basically. So if you just love your family, with no judgment, don't try to fix anyone. Be that light you want to see in the world. Be that change you want to see in your family. And you'll be amazed when people say: You don't seem to be angry anymore. Say: No, I'm not. And they will say: Well how did you do that? I found love in my heart for everyone. And that's hard to do, my friends, because we have so many memories of who did what to who and when and who can sit next to who and who shouldn't be invited... All that stuff is humanness. All that stuff, all the anger is all humanness. That's the absence of God in your thinking. That's the absence of Spirit in your actions. Because the truth of the matter is none of them are wrong. It's your perception of what went on that caused you to have a judgment. But what you can't do is sit inside of them and listen to what they say about you and that they think you have a judgment. So by simply putting love in the place of judgment, and acceptance in the place of anger, all of the pain begins to dissipate. 

I had a dear lady client that I had known for over 25 years and she hadn't been home to see her family in 20. And she had all of these reasons about what her brother and sister did to her, what her father and mother did to her, and she had magnified this so out of true proportions that she never went back to the family and every year she didn't go back she reminded herself of why she wasn't going and she built it and she built it and she built it. And Spirit said to her: This year you're going back. We request that you go back with no judgment and only love in your heart. She said: They'll tear me to shreds. And Guidance said to her: No, only you can do that. They will not tear you to shreds. She went and she called me before she got on the plane in San Francisco, she was going to New Jersey, she called me, she said: I'll never make this. And I said: Go. She went. And she said before she went into the room she did the exercise that we gave her and she said when she went in people ran up to her and hugged her. Her mother cried, her father cried, brother and sister cried, they loved on her. We have missed you so. Where have you been? What did we do that ever made you so upset? She said: I never would have believed it. Even when Hans, you told me, I couldn't bring myself to believe it. I had caused all of the pain in my own heart. Folks, when you go to be with friends and people that you think there's a problem with, put love in your heart, put Spirit in your actions, you'll be amazed at what happens.

Alfred:

And this is what we want to get to is all of these inner peace practices. Start them during the holidays - non-judgment, letting go of the past, being an example of your beliefs, going within. All of these things we've been talking about, start them during the holidays but apply them to everybody. And that's really difficult. But if you can do them with your family...

Hans:

You can do it with anybody.

Alfred:

...you can do it with anybody. That's the point. Don't just do non-judgment, letting go of your past during the holidays. Let's talk about doing this...

Hans:

Let this be the platform for the rest of your life.

Alfred:

Exactly, for the rest of the year...

Hans:

Or for the rest of your life.

Alfred:

This is the way to give yourself the greatest gift possible – inner joy, happiness and peace, all year round. What do you think about that Hans?

Hans:

I think it's perfect because it's true. And what I'm trying to teach you tonight is our perceptions become oftentimes our worst enemies. Our perceptions become anger, fear, doubt, judgment. Our perceptions are nothing more than a filter that we have put in front of us so that we don't get hurt and we view through that. I remember, if all of you remember, the movie "Auntie Mame," for instance, with Rosalind Russell. What a fun, wonderful Christmas movie. In fact I'm going to watch it tomorrow as I do every holiday. But they decided to make it into a movie and for reasons unknown to anyone, they decided not to use Rosalind Russell but they decided to use Lucy. Now an incredible actress of her own and there's no doubt whatsoever. But she insisted, absolutely insisted, that they shoot her through gauze. And it was fuzzy and cloudy and my dear friend Hal King was the make-up artist for her for over 25 years. And he said they made it almost impossible to almost see her. That's what her perception said she wasn't good enough the way she was. She wasn't perfect. So she needed to shoot that through the gauze. 

What I'm saying to you is you do not need any filter between you and love. You already are love. You are already the best you will ever be for God. For those of you who are alone this year, and there are millions of you, this is an opportunity to remind yourself that in fact you are not alone. In fact, your God doesn't love anyone more than you as you hear me say each week. Find something to do that makes you smile. Back in the day Alfred used to say: Go find a flower and just look at it. There's such beauty in the flower. It doesn't have to demonstrate who it is, it radiates who it is. And if you're alone, it's a terrible word, I don't like that word, but if you're not with someone or a group, a family, that's the opportunity of a lifetime that a lot of spiritual people miss. The value of being by yourself during major events in your life so that you can look in that mirror. You know I used to give workshops about 25 years ago, and I would hand everybody who came to the workshop a mirror. And one of the exercises was I want you to look in this mirror and then tell me who you see. Do you know that most people, my dear friends, could not do it. And that was our opening round, that really scared them. Most people could not tell me who they saw in that mirror until one little old lady in one class said it all. Every bit of 80, and she had followed me for many, many years, and she looked in the mirror, she held it up to her face on the side, and she says: Hans, I see love. And I said: Margaret, that's the answer. I see love. Folks, when you go to that mirror before you go anywhere, or present yourself for an interview for a job, before you go home to the family that's all screaming and hollering at each other, go look in the mirror and present yourself Love. That is who you are. It doesn't matter what anybody else sees or anybody else thinks. So, in the moment, when you have it, Alfred likes to refer to it as a dysfunctional organization - your family, find the joy and the humor in who they are and the love in who you are by loving them anyway. Okay?

Alfred:

And Lord knows if you can learn to be just pure love around your family, which the majority of old souls have "interesting" families, if you can do that, then you can be love with anyone.

Hans:

Something in that wonderful thing that was written by Anonymous - somewhere in there he or she writes "If you can keep your head when everything and everyone else around you is losing theirs... " And I thought, yeah. If you can do that, you just found your peace. And folks, when you find your love, you find your peace. 

Alfred:

So the holidays are just a wonderful opportunity to...

Hans:

All around, yes.

Alfred:

... practice love, practice patience, unconditional love, non-judgment – the basics. To practice them with your family...

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

... and then continue to practice them for the rest of the year. That's what we're telling you is the way inner peace and happiness.

Hans:

Alfred, you brought something up a little bit ago that I think is really important for everybody to hear and then I came in and sort of expounded on it a little. Folks, what we're teaching you today should not be a once a year occurrence. It should be "always." Starting with I am this and I will be this and this is how I'm going to operate out for the rest of this year and the rest of my life. So use the catalyst of the holidays perhaps to broaden your understanding a little here and then carry that throughout the year and throughout your life. I want to take this opportunity to say to everyone, look forward to this New Year. Be ever so grateful of the one you just had. For many of you many prayers that you had prayed for, did come true. For many of you, some of your worst fears came true. However, remember now that it's done. That was then, this is now. And make a promise to yourself to discover more of who you are. Learn to spend a little more time with yourself. Learn to be less judgmental, especially towards people who don't live up to decent expectations that you have, like friendship and warmth and love. Have no judgment of them because you don't know who they actually are. Even though they could be your sister, your brother, your mother, your father, you don't know inside of them who they really are. Bless them. Ask Spirit to bring them everything they need to discover who they are and to make their life of value. Okay, Alfred I think that will conclude the topic for today.

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“Family and Friends During the Holidays – Handling Differences” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Family and Friends During the Holidays – Handling Differences” 

- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Family and Friends During the Holidays – Handling Differences

December 22, 2014

Hans:

So our topic for today "Family and Friends During the Holidays." How do we handle those differences? First of all, you don't point out how wrong they are. Remember, they're entitled to be where they are, and they're entitled to have their opinions. And it's not our job, it's not your job, folks, to try to change them. Mahatma Gandhi once said: Be the change you want to see in the world. So that's what's important. Do not debate your truth. Do not try to convince anybody of your truth. If someone were to say to you: How did you get where you are? How did you become so peaceful? That's another matter. Explain it as best you can without coming from a place that says I am correct and you are wrong. Explain who you are and how you arrived at your peace, and it's from that place that they have an opportunity to grow. Not by lecturing them. Now, if somebody is ragging on you and saying:  You know what are you talking about? You don't know what you're talking about. You know here's the right way and all that... Remember what I've taught you all these years. Well, what do we say: Not my problem. That's they key. And trying to say: Not my problem, without having some guilt attached to it. Right, Alfred?

Alfred:

Yes, because they are family and that's the real issue is how can we spiritual speakers talk to them? Be there for family members, listen to our brothers and sisters, our parent's point of view, and still love them knowing they are on a different path than what we're at. And one of the most basic, fundamental, life-changing lessons is "have no opinion"...

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

...have no judgment.

Hans:

In other words, Alfred, I think what we're both trying to say is: Don't make them wrong. Let them have their own belief system. Do not argue your point. Say: Well, I love you and bless you where you are. This will drive them crazy for one thing. But it's very important that you're only there folks to help someone who asks to be helped. That's all. But you're going to have people out there in your family and in your daily life, your friends for instance, who basically are angry, who basically don't understand your point of view, or may be a little jealous of your position, or just who don't get you or just can't see you... and that could be a mother and a father or a brother.. could be a best friend sometimes. But remember something, they're entitled to their opinion and it is not our job to change anyone. Let your light shine that others might see you and where you are and there will be people who would like to be part of that light. But getting confrontational, arguing with people, trying to help, wanting them to see your point of view – that is not your problem. That is their problem. Okay? Alfred, you can remember back when during the holidays, there were family gatherings. Remember some of the dysfunction during those times?

Alfred:

Oh, I'm sure there's so many people out there who remember, or still are going through, who can show up, who's not allowed to show up, and for those people who are showing up, who can sit next to who, who can sit across from who, who has to be separated from who, and actually having a serious discussion about that.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

You know Alfred, when you first told me that, I have to tell you, I've never had that experience. I was absolutely shocked that your family couldn't let so-and-so sit across from so-and-so and they couldn't invite so-and-so or so-and-so wouldn't come. I was absolutely amazed. And I still am to this day that that is how people would treat this holiday.

Alfred:

But I think a lot of our listeners want to hear about how do you relate to relatives and friends that say and act in ways that are simply not truth - spiritual truth? How do you get along. Especially during the Holidays?

Hans:

Then basically you don't discuss it. If they wish to push you and they want to be confrontational, your job is to say: I love you and I respect your opinion. That's it. Do not engage them in the conversation, because they are looking to pick a fight. They want their point of view to triumph. And the only way it can is if you agree to it. And if there's no place in you to agree to it, they will give up. Alfred, you have a wonderful statement that you say to people sometimes: I love you anyway.

Alfred:

Yes...

Hans:

There's a lot of power in that statement.

Alfred:

...and that's the thing to do is to just be love, Is just to be caring, is just to be helpful, is just to be there and be helpful, be caring, be loving, be as Hans was saying, inside yourself, be that example. But just not discuss this stuff. You show the example and be the example of what you believe. As much as possible, love everyone, care about everyone, try not to have an opinion. Just smile, just be peaceful regardless of what's going on, who's arguing about what, who's talking about who, your job is to stay peaceful.

Hans:

You just brought up one very important thing, Alfred. People will try to engage you about other people. You, yourself know this in your own family. And they will try to engage you - do you hear what so-and-so did? Can you believe that so-and-so did this or said this about some... Do not engage in gossip about others, children. Because what they will say about others, they will say about you. Back away from it and always say to Spirit: Please bless them. Help them to find their way. Help them to find their light that is best for them. That's what I do folks. And folks I have wonderful clients out there, and you know who you are, who have terrible relationships with a family member. Sometimes that family member has the appearance they're trying to hurt you, trying to take something away from you. Many times because a parent or parents have died, there's an estate and oh my God, nothing tears a family up more than an estate and the rivalry that goes on. Even though you may be the most loving, caring, kind person, there may be somebody in your family who feels it's necessary to attack you and hurt you. That usually comes from a very sad and jealous place inside of themselves. But meanwhile, the appearance is they have the power to really hurt you emotionally. Always remember, no matter how hard it may be in that moment to say to Spirit: Bless that person, help them please, show them where they need to be, and let  the light shine on the subject we are engaged with, that we are involved with. Add the power of the light to it. Sometimes you don't see results right away. But over time, Spirit will bring the light, for sure. Remember light always follows darkness...always, okay? So use this as a time to rejoice the power within you and let the light of the God-force, the light of Spirit to shine upon you. So this is an important time to learn to be peaceful in the appearance of craziness, in the appearance of dysfunction. You know this, right Alfred?

Alfred:

Yes, is not to believe what is going around, not to believe what other people say, not to fall into the trap of getting sucked into "drama." What someone supposedly did, what someone supposedly said, your job as a spiritual soul, is to be "peaceful," is not to have anything that's going on around you knock you off your center. Again one of the most basic teachings we've been going over, especially on this show, is what someone else says or does is not your problem.

Hans:

Is not your problem ever...

Alfred:

...it's if what someone else says or does, does knock you off your center, that is your problem.

Hans:

Absolutely Alfred, that's correct. What someone thinks about you is none of your business, but what you think of what they think of you should be very much your concern.

Alfred:

Or anyone... or your cousin, or your parents, or your uncles, or your aunts or your friends...

Hans:

Yes, it doesn't matter who it is. Exactly...

Alfred:

...whatever anybody says or does...

Hans:

...has nothing to do with you.

Alfred:

...about anybody else. It doesn't even have to do with you, it could be your brother's in a fight with an uncle, it's your mother says something about your cousin...

Hans:

Exactly. You know Alfred, a while back I was talking to a dear lady and she said to me: You know Hans, my mother said this and that about me and only the other day she said: Well, I was right, you're never going to amount to anything. And she said: This has wounded me so badly. And I said: Why? She said: Because of what she said. I said: But what she said has nothing to do with you. She said: Well, certainly, it was directed at me. I said: No, it wasn't. This was not a statement of who you are, angel. This is a statement of where she's at. No, they're two different things. Separate yourself from somebody's else's rage, separate yourself from somebody else's anger or opinion. It has nothing children, listen again, this has nothing to do with who you are. And there are times when it appears that God doesn't see us, God doesn't hear us, the Spirit has abandoned us when these people run amok and start hurting us. But therein is the lesson that you chose to learn. That lesson was to learn to rise above the appearance of the difficulty of the sadness. To be better than to be identified with that sort of behavior. Because again, as Alfred and I are pointing out to you, it has utterly nothing to do with you.

Alfred:

And notice what we're talking about here. Is we're talking about very basic spiritual principles. What we're saying is: Treat your family, treat your friends like the way you treat anybody else.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

The issue that we've seen year after year after year is people think well, they're family, these spiritual principles don't apply to them. Of course they're going to love me. Of course they're going to care. I don't understand why they're being mean. And that's where you get yourself in trouble...

Hans:

That's exactly true. You get yourself in trouble.

Alfred:

...is you apply these basic principles to your family and friends just like you do to  anybody else.

Hans:

You want to talk at this normal level. You want to be involved with them at the new level you've found. But they can't hear you, folks. They can't see who you are. So don't try. If somebody comes out from the shadows and said: I don't exactly know what you're talking about, but it feels good in my heart. Would you mind explaining a little to me? Absolutely, go for it. You can help anybody who asked to be helped. But if somebody has a judgment and then says: Help me. Don't bother with them. Don't bother with them folks, move on. Let your light shine. Let your light show you the way. Because there is no relationship on earth that is more precious to you than you to you. That's the gift that God gave you. Because inside of each and every one of you lies the power of the God-force, lies the power of the Spirit – you are connected at that level – always. And the only thing that can bring you down is your own consciousness. That's all. 

Alfred:

And one point I'd like to tell everyone... Well, what is that confusion, what is the feeling when you get confused to say: Well, they're my family. Of course they're supposed to love me. Of course they're supposed to support me. Of course they're supposed to be generous and loving and kind. And what happens to you in that internal conflict when they're not? What is going on here when you say: I don't understand this. They're supposed to be family and they're not. And so many of us get torn apart because something inside says: Well, they're supposed to be supportive and loving. How come they're tearing each other apart and being mean? 

Let me explain this in a very simple way. For those of you who are spiritual, you will find that inner deep “knowing” that your family and friends should be loving and caring and supportive and generous and always there. Okay? If they, themselves, are not spiritual, then it doesn't apply. However, what it does apply to is your family and friends in Spirit. They love you unconditionally. They are always there for you. They are there to support you and to guide you. And that is one of the hugest benefits of doing Automatic Writing is you form a relationship with those family and friends that you thought should always be there. And that's part of Intuitive Development is to get you a stronger relationship with those family and friends who are in Spirit and who understand: Yes, that's the way you're supposed to behave. You're always supposed to love everyone. You're always supposed to care. You're always supposed to be supportive. And that is what comes through when you form a relationship with your family and friends on the other side. Why? Because they're in Spirit. So if you have that instinct, and you're being torn apart, you have to realize the simple fact - those family members who are not spiritual, are not going to act that way.

Hans:

Alfred, do you remember any number of years ago when you finally heard the message that you are now giving others, for yourself and your family? Do you remember how things began to change?

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

When you stopped being hurt by actions from your family? 

Alfred:

Yes, and there's so many things that seem like basic spiritual teachings in this lesson, but if you go through and actually apply them, your life will change and these basic spiritual lessons of: Not my problem. Just be peaceful. Have no judgment of them. Just be loving. Be peaceful. This will change your life. I carried hell with me for 24 years about my family - how they abused me, how they abandoned me, how my life was ruined because of them. And then one day I woke up and said: Oh, that's not true. And all of a sudden, all that hate, that anger, that disappointment - dissolves.

Hans:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

Because it's not the truth. The truth is, it's not your problem, it's their problem.

Hans:

That is right. And kids, when you get that, and Alfred's about as thick-headed as you can get, sorry Alfred...

Alfred:

It's the truth.

Hans:

It's the truth. (Hans laughing) He's about as thick-headed as you can get and for him to get that... I watched his demeanor, I watched everything about him soften. And I watched the anger begin to dissolve. And I watched him have a resolve to not be hurt by this anymore. And folks, for all of you, there's going to be times when a mother or a father, a sister or a brother says and/or does things to you and deliberately intends to hurt you... It could even be a legal action, and deliberately intends to hurt you, defend yourself legally, but don't take it personally. That's the key. Don't let the statement of somebody else disturb your ease, disturb your peace, okay? Alrighty, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.

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“Violence in America” - Rebroadcast from December 13, 2013 - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Violence in America” - Rebroadcast from December 13, 2013    

- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Violence in America

November 29, 2014

Alfred:

Good evening everyone. Welcome to Modern Day Mysticism being broadcast on The World Puja Network. Tonight's topic of Physical Healing is going to be pushed aside so that Hans can talk to you about the events of today from a spiritual perspective. Without further ado, I present to you the Modern Day Mystic himself Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Good evening everyone. I do want to say it is good to be with you this evening on this rather somber evening. People ask me: Why does God allow these things to happen? For those of you who maybe have not have turned on the news today, a gunman walked into a school in Connecticut and shot to death 20 children, 6 adults, and his mother. Various types of guns he had, which apparently he got from his mother. And people ask me: Hans, how can God let this happen? God has nothing to do with this. God as Spirit gave us every single tool we need to manifest happiness and joy and compassion in our life. Unfortunately my perdition of many years ago when I said the United States will become the most violent nation in the industrialized world is becoming to come to pass. How did we get here? What happened along the way that so caused this mental trauma in someone? What happened?

For over 40 years I've been trying to teach, with Spirit, that our society is built on disenfranchising people, tearing them down. It is not based on bringing people up into the light. It's not based on compassion. We tell our children, without meaning to, from our mouth that they are not enough. We do this by telling them that someday they too could be somebody. That if they get the right kind of education, they too can be somebody. We rarely ever say to our children: You are enough, you are perfect for me. Just who you are, where you are in this moment, is perfect for me. Don't worry, your place in society, your place in life is already assured just because you're who you are. And I want you to understand my child, that who you are and your behavior are two different things. That if I can show you and teach you who you are, your behavior will follow in line. 

Instead, we have set up a society where sports is a primary function of children. What do we do when we produce sports? We say it's healthy. Healthy for who? The exercise is healthy, yes. But on every playing field, somebody looses. They weren't quite good enough you see. And we're so invested in winning. By the way winning is something we never get to keep. So why is it so very important, what are we saying when we say I win. It says somebody else is less than we are? That somebody didn't quite have the psychical stamina, or the emotional smarts, to compete with us? The United States has stooped to 17th in Education in the world. We're about the same in Health. We have people running around killing children...children, people. How is this possible?

Look at the media, look at our elections, look at the things we say to each other, listen to what our children hear. Years ago, years ago, some of you may remember this if you are old enough, a gentleman  adopted an entire classroom of children in the inner cities in New York. All children of color, every one of them. These children came, most of them from impoverished homes, some of them one parent, struggling mothers, disinterested fathers, or fathers who didn't know how to be a parent and had lost their wife through illness... And he took these  children, and he said, I watched him being interview on 60 Minutes - I'm going to show them they are certainly good enough. And he offered the children, after meeting with their parents, and said if you will stay in school I will pay for all of your clothes, your books, your education, all the way up until you graduate from high school. And then if you wish to go on, I will pay for your college. Everybody laughed at this man because everybody knew he would have a poor record on this particular thing because everybody had the mind-set that poor children have no initiative. And they followed this man, and they followed these children, and every one of them graduated from high school. Every one of them went on to some sort of formal education. Every one of them bettered themselves. Why? Because he told them they were enough and he believed in them. 

Folks, we have just been given a prediction by a very important Think Tank that says in just 19 years the United States of America will be a 2nd rate nation. 19 years. Folks, how is that possible? It's possible because we are turning out some of the worst students in the history of our own country. I watched some children in Cuba in high school being interviewed a year ago and they asked them where Havana was - 49% of the children did not know. They asked them where Paris was - most of the children had no idea what they were talking about and one girl said she thought it was somewhere up in Canada, wherever that was. There comes a time when all of us, all of us, have to get off this merry-go-round of disconnect. This disconnect is killing this nation. I'm an older person now and where we have come from from where we are is shocking...shocking. We don't "care". 

As a society we should have individuals in every community across this nation called The Hope Squad and these people should be meeting with parents. It should be mandatory that parents who love their children find out what the level of learning capability their child has. And if the government has to pay for it, the government has to pay for it. Who cares? Because these children down the road will add immensely to the treasury of this nation. I heard something this evening, I was watching a man on the Mitchell Manoff Show and he said after a 5 year study from Columbine he learned that 6% of our teenagers are hard core depressed, manic depressed. 6%. How is that possible? You say, oh it's only 6%. It's the 6% that are killing people. It is not a small number. We are leaving our children behind because we don't care enough to give them the very best. We are a nation of 310 million people. What has anyone done today to help a child? What? I speak personally because personally as a child nobody cared whether or not I could learn or couldn't learn. Nobody bothered to find out. It was only God that helped me, only Spirit that carried me through until today. Because nobody cared. I was considered stupid, I was considered dumb, I was considered "unteachable" was the term. A Junior High School Teacher said to me: You're unteachable, you're just stupid. And I never forgot that. I don't think that he would say that today, do you? 

In each child, each and every one of us, each child not just white children, each of our children holds a nugget of God in their heart. It is our job, no matter what religion we are, to find that nugget and to remind the individual, no matter how poor, that someone out there cares enough. We have children selling drugs, children murdering people... Because we don't care. I'm not speaking to you my dear, dear, dear family of friends. You know where I'm going. I'm talking as a nation. We actually have a political party that ran on cutting our education budget which is in shambles now. But not our defense budget. We've got... I'm here in Palm Springs today...right over here in the Arizona desert we've got 3000 of the best tanks in the world we can't use because we have no use for them. 3000! We have 40,000 deliverable nuclear bombs and no enemy to drop them on. We have troops in 50 nations. We still have 500,000 troops in Europe. I don't know how many troops in Japan. We're supporting this enormous infrastructure. We became a country terrified of everything. And yet, in truth we don't need a third of it. Have never needed a third of it. That money should be taken. We should have concerned parents, concerned state, city and local individuals who are monitoring our children, what do you need Bobby, what do you need Sara? Talking to parents, being parents for children who don't have parents...by caring, programs. There are so many people trying to help. But we need this now on a national basis. Our children are massively depressed. You have to start at the beginning and listen to Spirit when it says: Each and every one of your children is a baby angel in human form. We are not here to tell them that something they're going to do will make them who they are. We're telling you that they bring who they are to their endeavor. We have to stop calling people "losers". We have to stop this continuous bickering between the two parties in this country. We have to stop it. Or we're going to wake up one day with the most uneducated group of children in the industrialized world...we're close now. That breaks my heart.

Every child born in this country should know that someone, somewhere cares. Every child born in this country who does not have a parent or parents who care enough should know that they have a resource. And people say: Oh well yes. There is this program and that program... These are individual programs, some state and local, but are not funded the way they should be funded. We should have an association that says: I care...I care. I care about the direction about my country. I care about the children in my country. I'm going to do something to help turn this around. And I want each and every one of you to find just one program that you can contribute a dollar to. Just one. You can send it anonymously so you don't get all those letters for donations. I understand that. I want every one of you to care. I am an animal enthusiast from the start. We have all these programs out there trying to save animals. We have all these programs trying to save the earth when our children are being murdered. Hello? Anybody listening to this old man? Our children are dying. Killing themselves. 

The suicide rate in this nation is appalling. The suicide rate from people coming back from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are the highest in the history of our country. Because nobody cares that we sent them to do something that was totally and absolutely unnecessary. And these young boy and girls saw their friends blown apart, maimed... There are actually organizations right now on television showing you these people asking for donations. It breaks my heart. I probably will not live long enough to see the turn around, but I know we have the power to do it. And I know it my heart that you care. It isn't about money, it's about intention children. It's about intention. These magnificent questions that you send into us every week move my heart, they move Alfred's heart. You can see our intentions, you all know who I am. You hear me speak, you know where I come from. And I'm saying to all of you there's got to be a way. 

I met two of the most spectacular human beings I have ever met in my life, Alfred and I did when we did this seminar for Michael and Rafael Tamura in Mount Shasta in August. These two ladies approaching their 80's have rescued over a million children. How did they do that? Well after the Korean War they went out in a really bad typhoon and saw a bunch of children huddled in front of this little run down house. And they asked what they were doing there. And the interpreter said: Oh, these children are not wanted you see. Because their fathers were soldiers and Japanese society at that time would not accept them. They had no place to go, no food. Well Sara and Yvonne took these children back to the hotel, who said you may not bring these children in. Well they didn't know Sara and Yvonne very well. They were both actresses. And they were on a USO Tour. They got them into the hotel and they got them fed. And today they operate a world-wide service for children. I'm going to ask Alfred to put up their website name so that you might go and look at what they're doing. If these two ladies have devoted over 55 years to making a difference, can't we all? Why do we have to admire somebody else doing it? Can't we volunteer our time to do something? It doesn't cost us any money to volunteer our time. Open your hearts. 

All of you are so kind and decent and I thank you for listening to me. This today, as you can plainly hear, shook me to my core. I have seen too much of this. I've seen too much of this. And all I ever hear when it comes to gun control is you can't, you can't take away one of our amended rights. Someone needs to tell me "how" an AK-47 assault rifle is okay to have. Someone has to explain it to me. Alfred saw something and I think this is what he said - something about they gave the average deaths from handguns from countries of around the world  - I think the highest was West Germany at 10 per 100,000. We were at something like 10,000. We shoot each other every day. We kill each other every day. We complain about countries like Mexico. We complain about how violent it is. But we always manage to overlook our own. What I'm saying to all of you is you can make a difference through your intention even if you say Hans I have no money. Money is not what I'm asking for. I'm asking for prayer and intention. That's what I'm asking for. Because it makes a difference kids. We brought down the Soviet Union, we brought down the Berlin Wall without firing a shot. 

What we now have to do is say: We're asking for the power of intention to begin to impact our country in such a way as we begin to come together, we begin to help our children, we begin to see how great our beautiful country really is. Because we need to care about ourselves now. I know I will get emails. I understand that. And I know some of you won't understand why I'm so upset. A great nation, Winston Churchill once said will always be judged on how it's treated it's poorest of citizens. Are we treating our humblest of citizens, our children, the way we should? I don't think so. I speak from my experience when I tell you absolutely nobody cared about me as a child and I'm not kidding you. My parents basically did not know what to do nor did they seek help. But I was blessed because some people came forward who are not my parents. So nobody who should be responsible for me got me here. People who didn't even know me did. I've asked Alfred not to speak on this subject tonight because it's too painful for him as well. People came forward to move Alfred to who he is today. I was just one of several. 

We are, as a society, greater than our problems. We are, as a nation, better than the way we're behaving. How many more of these enormous tragedies do we have to go through before we stop the debate about guns don't kill people? When are we going to say how did our children get this way? And start looking and say you know what, if we get together, we can fix this thing. If we were to spend, as a society, 10 minutes for every 1 hour we spend watching and participating in sports alone, we could correct this problem. We would have enough money. I can hear people saying, not you guys of course, but people will say well why should I care about somebody else's kids? Because they're kids. Why should I care whether or not a family in the inner city doesn't have a meal tonight for their children? Why should I care? Because they're hungry. 

There are some things that a great nation must always address and I believe it is the well-being of the humblest of citizens. We are a nation unique unto history in that we are a conglomeration of many races, many religions, many ideas. So we have all the greatness that we need. All we need to do is have the principle and the determination and the compassion to make a difference. I don't know how many people will listen to this but it will be quite a few thousand. And they'll probably wonder boy, he's rather emphatic on this. Where does he get this from? It's because he lived it. Let us give 10% of the love we give to our animals and use it in consciousness to set intention to add a light and to light a fire that says: Enough...enough already. Enough. Enough about not caring. Folks, we spent over 1 billion dollars on this last election. It is estimated the next one will cost about 3 billion. Do you have any idea how much food that would buy for hungry children, for people in need? Our priorities are out of line to our reality. And once we begin to understand that... This is what I love that happens by working with Spirit, they cry when they see how much we have and all this inter-fighting and anger, resentment and one party this and one party that... Let us all rise above the appearance of this sadness and make a pledge to ourself that no matter what we do, we will set an intention that our intention be used with God's intention and good people all over at this holiday time to make a difference. A difference that will bring a light that shines for all of us as we move forward. And may we please all bless the children and the adults who perished from this. We know they're in Spirit, we know they're fine. But their parents don't, their husbands and wives don't. The mother of this victim doesn't. Let us pray please for all of these people. Hold them in your prayers. I will too. I will set my prayer group to this task tonight. I thank you all for listening to me and in no way did I mean to bring anyone down. It's just time that I said something about this. 

“Mean People” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Mean People” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Mean People

November 22, 2014

Alfred:

Hello everyone and welcome to GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE - Wisdom for Your Soul. This is Alfred the Padawan Learner to the Modern Day Mystic himself Hans Christian King. We've got a doozy of a topic for you today: Mean People - and how to deal with mean people from a spiritual perspective. But first I'm handing you over to Jennifer who takes care of Facebook and our Random Acts of Kindness. If you don't know what that is, Jennifer please tell them about our Random Acts of Kindness and what's going on with us for the next couple of weeks.

Jennifer:

Thanks Alfred. Our Random Acts of Kindness Event, as many of you already know, is an ongoing series of gift-giving that we've been doing on Hans' Facebook page. We love it when folks spread Hans' message by sharing his posts and events so we jump in every now and then and randomly choose people who have shared the most and we give them gifts to show our appreciation. We're giving away goodies that range from a couple of audio lessons to full classes and videos. We've given away a lot of good stuff and we have a lot more to give! Thank you all so much for all you do. Keep sharing and if you haven't already done so, please come and join us on Facebook. Hans' page can be found under Hans Christian King1. That's the number 1. We do have some exciting events coming up in December, so keep an eye out on Facebook and on our Events page on HansKing.com. We'll be posting more information as the events get closer. And that's all for now Alfred. Thanks everyone.

Alfred:

Thanks for that Jennifer. We really appreciate you taking care of Facebook because that is the way that we reach out to you is through social media. As you may have heard we do no traditional marketing. Everything we do we rely on word-of-mouth. If you're happy with our Products, if you're happy with a Reading with Hans, if you've had a class with me, we'd really appreciate it if you tell others or just simply go onto Facebook and share what we're doing. Share one of our Daily Quotes, share with your friends, we really appreciate the help of getting the word out there. So for today's topic: Mean People... Before I hand it over, I'm going to give you something to ponder. Could you image that people are mean only because of your perception? So without further ado, I present to you the Modern Day Mystic himself Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Hello everybody, welcome to the show, glad to be back with you. Interesting topic: Mean People. This was actually sent in by one of our Circle Members and we're so happy to respond to that. Please remember that we do encourage you to participate with the show and send in questions that you have on basically any subject that you feel you would like to be enlightened with. Alfred, how do they do that?

Alfred:

Sorry, I forgot to announce that Hans. Yes, thank you Yasmin in Vienne. Vienne is Vienna, Austria. Thank you Yasmin for the topic. And if you have a topic that you'd like us to talk about, you can either go to Contact Us on HansKing.com or I think there's also a place on the Radio Show page to send in your topic. And if we happen to choose your topic, we'll let you know. And of course if there's something personal to deal with that topic, we'll try to address it also. So thank you all for sending in your topics. We really appreciate it. It makes the show a little bit more interesting. So Hans...

Hans:

Yes sir?

Alfred:

Is it that people are "mean" because of people's perceptions?

Hans:

Well, yes. You're on the right track there but let's remember something. Let's remember what the teaching says. The teaching says: Who someone is and their behavior are two different things. So we may see Alfred, someone do something  we perceive as mean, but that does not necessarily mean that the individual themselves are mean. They may not even realize that what they're doing is mean. They sure wouldn't like to have it done to them. So what do we do Alfred, when somebody does something mean to us?

Well our normal response is to, I'm sorry, but overreact. Because they're not actually doing it to you, they're doing it to a circumstance that they're living in. They're doing it from a place within themselves that is defending themselves by attacking. But are they really trying to hurt you or are they just simply not aware of their behavior? That's a tough subject, Alfred. And I know that you sometimes disagree with me on this. Tell me what disagreement you might have here.

Alfred:

It's really looking at "why" the person is doing that in the first place.

Hans:

That's right.

Alfred:

Is the person reacting to their opinion, their judgment of their world?

Hans:

Yes. From their personal pain.

Alfred:

What they've been through. And trying to completely understanding someone's life, someone's karma, someone's experiences, as we've told you before, is impossible. Because think about it. You're with yourself 24 hours a day. How much of your life do you completely understand? Okay? And if you're having a hard time understanding your karma, your dharma, your lessons, trying to do your inner-work, trying to clear out your gunk in order to become more peaceful, how can you have a judgment of what somebody else is going through and what somebody else does?

Hans:

Oftentimes Alfred I'll see someone say something or actually do something that appears to be mean and inside of me I will say: Bless them, I hope they understand what effect this is having. Because most people who do mean things really aren't aware of the effect it has on other people. 

Alfred:

So here's a good question Hans. So would there be any mean people if you didn't have a judgment of their actions?

Hans:

No. Because the person...you're actually having a judgment of the person, not a judgment of the action. So no. We wouldn't perceive people as being mean if we had no judgment. It's our judgment, as you know, that gets in our way - always.

Alfred:

But regardless of our opinion, some actions do produce negative karma. If someone does something that produces negative karma, are we as individuals supposed to do anything, spiritually speaking?

Hans:

Well use it as a lesson if you choose. Here's your opportunity to say: I choose not to have a judgment of that person and what they're saying or doing has no effect on me. It's not a statement of who I am. It is a statement, in fact, of where they're at. And as long as you use it that way, then you can take negativity and turn it into a positive for yourself.

Alfred:

Yes, I always like to reflect upon one of the greatest leaders and teachers of the world that said: Be the change you wish to see in the world. If you see something...

Hans:

I think that was Gandhi.

Alfred:

Yes. Actually it was The Mahatma who said: Instead of reacting out on what you see or you perceive to be wrong or mean, go within and first deal with it yourself. Okay? So that's one of the lessons that you can take is when you have a judgment of something that you perceive to be mean or wrong...

Hans:

You need to look at yourself at this point Alfred.

Alfred:

...is to look at yourself.

Hans:

Yes, exactly.

Alfred:

And that's what we're trying to tell you here. Right, Hans?

Hans:

Absolutely. It's how we perceive ourself. When somebody says something, or does something that appears to be towards us or a criticism of us or something that we have done, remember always - none of your business. Seriously children, none of your business. What they are saying, what they are doing has utterly nothing to do with you. But how you handle it has everything to do with your spiritual growth. If you become the wilted lily because of somebody's attack on you, then they have won. Not only have they won, but they've allowed you to hurt yourself and degrade yourself to be hurt by that action. If you turn to that person and say: Sorry, that's not my problem. They will get so mad, they will get so angry, but it's the truth. That's the key. It's the truth.

Alfred:

Oh, that's a great response. When somebody's mean to you, to look at them and say: Thank you for helping me practice patience.

Hans:

Yes. Exactly.

(Alfred and Hans Laughing)

Hans:

So mean people ofttimes without meaning to have the absolute opposite effect of  what they're trying to accomplish. They make you stronger. There's a saying somewhere, I don't know where it is - what doesn't kill us makes us stronger. We learn from adversity. We don't grow in the light children. We grow towards the light, to the light. So we learn our really valuable lessons when things often seem very complicated, very difficult, and we find ourself being hurt. The mother picks up the phone and calls you and says something that's disparaging to you. You have to, very quietly, say inside of yourself, sorry mom this is not my problem. You can turn to the mom and say: Thank you for your opinion, but I choose to disagree. And refuse to argue it any further. That makes people crazy when you won't argue their point of view. It makes them absolutely insane. This is one of the reasons Alfred, we say: Not my problem. Because no one has a place to go from that. Except they use these wonderful words: Oh, you're in denial. In denial of what? It's not your problem. It's their problem.

Alfred:

So regardless of your opinion of whether somebody is doing something mean or not, there's just some people that give off negative energy, negative vibration. Hans, what can people do when there's a person who's giving off negative energy? Is it that they would just do protection exercises?

Hans:

Yes, and we have those Alfred in our classes, in our on-line service. I think we might even have a free download on that. But yes, you can just go to your Guidance and say: I choose to surround myself in love and light. I choose not to allow this emotional tirade or this situation to affect me in any way. And I always say every day: Please bring light into that that would bring darkness around me today. Every single day I've said it for 50 years. Folks, you do the same and you'll see the wonders that come to be.

Alfred:

So in case anybody doesn't have Intuitive Development or doesn't know where that exercise is, one of the things that we try to teach you is to surround yourself...for some reason the typical type of light that comes to me is like a silverish grey and to either form a bubble around you or form a bubble in front of you and have that bubble have the intention to have that bubble absorb the negative energy. Believe it or not it works.

Hans:

It really does work.

Alfred:

Hans likes wrapping Saran Wrap around yourself.  

Hans:

You do the bubble.

Alfred:

I do the bubble. So that's one...

Hans:

So they have options, Alfred.

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

Saran Wrap or a bubble.

Alfred:

Or whatever type of "thing" you want to put around you, just simply work with the Other Side to have something deflect or absorb the negative energy so it doesn't reach you. Okay? And then, of course, sometimes the negative energy does reach you. I have a doctor friend of mine from Rhode Island who someone had an issue and it wound up getting into her body unknowingly. I did some Reiki on her. So for reason if you're around someone who had a physical problem, or you're around a mean person and you can tell that energy got into you, you can go to a Holistic practitioner, a Reiki practitioner, an Energy practitioner, an Acupuncturist, to help unblock the energy and remove that energy from your body. So there are a bunch of different things that you can do if something happened to come through to you. Okay? So here's a real good one, not just dealing with the energy but what should you do if someone does something that you perceive as mean to you? How's that one Hans?

Hans:

Aah. What can you do if someone's done something mean to you? Forgive them by saying something... I don't even mean forgive them. I would say if someone does something mean to you, go inside of yourself and say: This is not true. This is not my problem. I send them love. I send them light. But this does not affect me. I choose to use this as a teaching to reinforce the love and light that I am. And I know that sounds very crazy. Spirit has never been big on forgiveness. Because if your intention is to do something bad to somebody, that's one thing. But if somebody gets hurt by something you might have said or done but it was in no way your intention to hurt anybody, you don't need to be forgiven. Because the goodness of your heart will shine forward anyway. How often have we done something or said something that we felt later: Oh, my goodness that hurt. Oh, I shouldn't have said that. And we'll go back and correct it.

Alfred:

And a lot of forgiveness has the assumption that something was wrong. If you have the assumption that something was wrong, then you would say okay, I forgive them for that wrong or mean thing that they did. And that's what we're trying to tell you is if you have the perception that you know what, it's just something that somebody's going through and there is nothing wrong. If you don't have a judgment that they did anything wrong, they're just dealing with life, is there anything to forgive?

Hans:

Exactly...exactly.

Alfred:

Okay? So speaking of interesting people who approach you and are around your area is family.

Hans:

Aaaahhh...

Alfred:

How should you...

Hans:

The big hurt... (Laughing)

Alfred:

...perceive mean family members Hans? What do you...

Hans:

Oh boy...

Alfred:

How many clients do you have that ask you that question?

Hans:

Oh my God, thousands through the years. I keep going back to something... I'm trying to educate you all on this. You have to shift your perception and so I keep repeating myself today because this one perception applies to everything. When someone is being mean to you, when somebody is hurting you and your family, they're saying things about you, or saying things about other people, you cannot let that in children. And you do that by internally saying: Not my problem. Do not engage others in their idea of who you are. Do not engage others with their idea of who somebody else is. I have people who talk to me about someone that I'm very fond of and they'll say oh this person is this and this person is that and they did this and they did that - this is a really wonderful person by the way - but people are hurt by the lost expectations sometimes. And I'll always say: For me this is a wonderful person and I love this person and I have no judgment of this person and I'll say perhaps you need to look at why you have a judgment.

And with families, families will always try to take sides and bring certain members on to their team and there are other members on the other team and Alfred, you of all people know that with your family and other families, how they take sides and they see people with certain people and... Remember all that?

Alfred:

Oh my God, holidays... Holidays were, okay who is coming? And if this person isn't coming well the other people can't come because these people are coming. And for the people who are coming who can sit near who, who can't sit near who, who has to sit away from...

Hans:

Is that not just this side of insanity? This side of insanity?

Alfred:

It was. It was insanity.

Hans:

And to get caught up in that. That's why so many of you will say to me: Hansy, I don't want to go home for Thanksgiving. Then don't go home! It's okay. Know you don't need to forgive yourself for not going. You choose not to disturb, hear this children, you choose not to disturb you ease. And when you do, you will become dis-eased. Do not disturb your ease. I pre-recorded the Michael Beckwith Show yesterday and one of the things that we were talking about is the fact that the world as we live in it today is nothing more than an illusion. Now all of you have heard me say is there anything going on in your life you did not create. So we're walking through our creation, other people's creation, somebody else's creation, and it's all perception. There's no reality to it. Is the wind blowing from the east? Yes, end of subject. We don't need to know why it's blowing from the east. We do not know what it's supposed to do. It's blowing from the east. 

As spirits in human form we tend to take on the frailties of the human condition which is always analyzing everything and every single moment. So we go back. What's the biggest problem we will ever have? Our mind chatter. And as Alfred's been pointing out today - our perception. A little more on that please Alfred.

Alfred:

Well there's two ways to deal with mind chatter. So if you've been listening to Hans' teachings, the biggest focus is by letting go of mind chatter. In this topic what we're trying to do is to not have you get new mind chatter, not have you get new things to think about, not have you bring new negativity into your life. By simply understanding that mind chatter comes into your life because you have a perception or opinion about something, you have a judgment about something, and that judgment sticks with you and you have to do something because you have to protect yourself against what you had a judgment about and you have to make sure that that doesn't happen, and you have to protect and control what's going on around you - mind chatter. So one of the topic's main focus of this Mean People is if you don't have a judgment or an opinion about others actions, you don't start the mind chatter cycle. How's that Hans?

Hans:

I think that's absolutely perfect. It's the mind chatter that has the perception of  what somebody does and calls it mean. What we're saying to you is, when it happens, make it simple - bless them, release them, release the thought, don't allow it into your heart, don't think about it, not my problem, that's their problem, let them deal with it.

Alfred:

Especially, believe it or not, this applies to family members.

Hans:

Yes, absolutely. Folks I want to get this across. This is not anything that I want Alfred to talk about. I'm going to tell you: You are not responsible to make your family happy. You are not responsible to live up to their expectations of how you should be. You are not responsible for the pain, the sadness, and the losses of the individuals in your family. Your job is to love them equally, release them knowing that God will take care of them. You cannot fix your family. You understand me everyone? Set yourself free. Visit with them. I said to my mother, a very long time ago, I said if you cannot treat me with the same love and respect that I have for you, it's best we not talk until we can do that. And she said fine. And we never spoke again and that was 31 years long before she passed away. That had nothing to do with me. I was taking care of me. I did not care about what she was so enraged about which had nothing to do with me. I reminded her of somebody else. And she would blow all these things up and then I would become responsible for her pain. And it never had anything to do with me in the first place. I want everybody to hear that. No matter what has gone on in your family, I don't care what it is, back away from it and do not be responsible for that.

Alfred:

That really reminds of one of the teachings in the early part of Intuitive Development. We can actually expand this a little bit. The teaching was: What someone says...and we're going to expand this, or does... So what someone says or does is not your problem. What you think about what someone says or does is your problem. How's that one Hans?

Hans:

I think you're onto something there young man. I really do.

Alfred:

So the focus here and a lot of spirituality is not about what's going on outside of you. It's about becoming peaceful inside of you. Okay? Let me repeat that again: Spirituality in general, is not about what's going on outside of you. It's about creating a peaceful, loving place inside yourself. How's that Hans?

Hans:

Excellent, excellent, excellent. And that peaceful place that you find inside of yourself will resonate outside of you into many different forms. It will be seen by many different people. So that peaceful place that you find inside of yourself, as you grow it, it begins to emanate outward from you. And you'll find that people are less likely to attack you because they see it does them no good. That's when you win the battle of the lesson for you is when you're light is so bright that others cannot dispel it and they know it. And that's when we say: Not my problem. And Alfred, I think that will conclude the lessons for today. Thank you for your input.

Alfred:

Well I hope you all enjoyed that one. That is a “huge” topic. I was a very mad person for many, many, many years because of the mean people in my life.

Hans:

Oh gee, I never noticed... (Laughing)

Alfred:

No. Uh uh, do yourself a favor and save a lot of money – let go of mean people.