“Death and The Soul's Passing”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Death and The Soul's Passing”- by Hans Christian King 
Spiritual Radio Show Transcription
GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show
with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com
and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com
Topic: Death and The Soul's Passing
April 13, 2015






HANS:
Hello everyone. Today's topic is "Death and the Soul's Passing." It's one of the toughest things that ever happens to us is the anticipation of someone passing and the actual passing. So many of us are connected to another person so strongly that the very idea of them leaving us, or abandoning us and going on without us, is terrifying. There's another fear, Alfred, that comes up... and I hear it a lot from people: Have they moved on beyond me? Will they still be here for me? Will they still be guarding me and taking care of me? The answer is "absolutely."

They don't move on beyond you. They go into their own new thing that they have to do. But remember that the time of the Spirit is very rapid. A day for them is like a month to us. Okay? So they don't view the time so much so they don't feel its been so long since they've been gone. 

But it is a terrible time when someone that you have loved very much has to say goodbye. But they're really not leaving. They're simply going into that dimension that you go into every night that you go to sleep. And therefore you are still totally available to them. It's in the nighttime. And then in the daytime, you can ask them to help you with specific areas in your life - what you'd like to have done. In other words, most people I have found let the person who has passed away go - literally. They let them go. Even though they believe in their heart that that person can help them, they don't include them, they don't give them things to do.

And that's one of the things that I think that a lot of people need to look at is why we feel that we need to abandon those that we love. And one of the things that Spirit has said to me was: They never leave us. But they, which is us, most always leave them. And I said: Why? They said: Because it's too painful to call us up in consciousness. He said: Include us. Include your mother, or your father, your grandma. Include them in your life. Your child... include them in your life - on a daily basis. Speak to them in the morning when you get up. I like to say: Give them things to do. They absolutely love that. Because they're not supposed to interfere, Alfred, unless we give them permission to do so.

ALFRED:
Absolutely. And the truth of what we're trying to say here about death is those souls who have passed, in reality, love us even more, and support us even more, and want to be with us and help us even more from the Other Side.

HANS:
Very true, very true.

ALFRED:
And since they've let go of the humanness...

HANS:
Their human perceptions.

ALFRED:
Yes. All they are is unconditional love. So the normal way, should we say, the human way, the mind chatter way, is to view death as something wrong. Yes, of course, you can mourn the person. Yes, of course, you can remember all of the good things that happened. But the truth is that that soul is around you and wants to be involved in you, at least, if not more, than that person was when they were here on earth.

HANS:
Um hmm. Do we have any other questions on Death, Alfred?

ALFRED:
Oh, we absolutely do have more, Hans. How do you deal with the mind chatter of somebody passing?

HANS:
That's a tough one. Because the mind chatter has its own perception of your relationship with that person. By that it may say: I never got to say this... or they never said that to me. And it gets the mind chatter involved. Rather than say: I love that person and they love me and I know they're going to be there for me as I proceed down the path. We start going into memory and finding pain and say: Oh, I wish this could have happened... or I wish my mom had said this... or my dad had said that. And we go into a place where the mind chatter just begins to explode in pain. And that's the time when you want to say: You know what? None of this is true. I'm not going to allow this mind chatter to interfere with my love for the person who's crossed over.

Sometimes, Alfred, when people pass over, there are a lot of what I'm going to call lost expectations - things that might have been, things that could have been said. But remember, that person only came into this life to assist you on your journey. And so no matter what it appears like, that person was here to be a mirror and a growth partner with us.

ALFRED:
So is it okay to grieve someone's passing?

HANS:
Oh, Heaven's yes. Absolutely. But in your grief, don't grieve for them. Grieve for the appearance of the loss of their presence. That's what you can grieve for. They're fine. They're beautiful. They're okay. We're the ones who are left with the problem. So yes, you can grieve them but remember we're really grieving the loss that we feel of their identity and their personage. We miss being able to hug them, or pick the phone up. 

I still picked the phone up for a year, a year and a half, after my father died to call him. I never told anybody that. But I did it all the time. Because for 47 years I did. And it's very hard to simply shut that off, Alfred, and say: Oh, just don't do that anymore. That's not how the human psyche works. Okay? But as I developed my relationship with my dad, after he was gone, the need for being able to do that diminished. Okay?

ALFRED:
What about how we make them feel? For example, the difference between us being sad that they're gone or us being happy remembering their life. Do they feel that on the Other Side?

HANS:
Absolutely. And this is what I try to say to people, Alfred: You're making them feel bad. Don't do that. And people get mad at me and say: How can you say those types of things? Because it's true. They feel... As I like to say: When you smile Spirit smiles. When you laugh Spirit laughs. Always. So if you're wandering around crying all the time and depressed and suicidal thoughts and all of that stuff, they feel that, they hear that, and then they feel bad that they caused you pain.

But each person in our life, for as long as our life on This Side exists, has a contract with us. And those contracts don't always mean that that persons stays with you for the entirety. It doesn't mean that. So enjoy the person while they're here, love them while they're here, knowing that they did not go anywhere you're  not. There's the key, children. They did not go anywhere that you're not going. And Christ said: I go before you to prepare a room for you in my father's house. 

In other words... Let's say your mom or your dad passes away, they're going back home again. And when they do, they prepare a space for you when your time here is over. The love never dies. You don't love your parents, or your lover, or your loved one, or your doggy, or whatever... you don't love them less because they left you. Love was eternal.

ALFRED:
And I think that's it for the questions we have on Passing, Hans.

HANS:
Alrighty. This is a very, very difficult subject everyone. And each and every one of you will face this subject, if you live a normal life span, several times in your lifetime. But remember, they are right beside you “always” in consciousness.

Okay, Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.

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“Recover Your Joy” - Rebroadcast from December 7, 2013 by Hans Christian King - Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Recover Your Joy” - Rebroadcast from December 7, 2013

by Hans Christian King -

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Recover Your Joy

December 7, 2014

Hans:

Hello everyone. Welcome, welcome. It's a beautiful afternoon here in Asheville, North Carolina. A little rainy and we're supposed to get a little cold, but I guess the whole country is cold. Today's topic is "Recover Your Joy." One of the first things that I recommend, one of the things that we taught Alfred and so many people through the years is: If you want to see something to make you bring joy into your heart, go stick your nose in a flower. If it's winter, and I think I've said this before, pull something up on your computer  and look at the flowers. Just go find some flowers. This will bring a sense of wonder to you. How did all of this ever happen? You know folks, we deny ourselves joy simply though our mind. But there is so much that we can do as simple spirits in human form to remember our joy in life. Nature, I believe is one of the best. You know when I look out of my windows here, we live on the side of a mountain here, and it's all full of trees and water. And when I look outside and even though someone might say: Well, there's no leaves on the trees. You know it's cold. You can find beauty in that. And I find beauty in the way the wind whistles through the trees. And there's still some leftover leaves and we have the squirrels and the raccoons and the chipmunks and every kind of bird you can imagine. And they're all out there and they're not wondering whether or not they're going to be happy or not. They're just worrying about eating, which makes them happy. Nature. Stick your nose in a flower. What do you think Alfred?

Alfred:

Well, what we're trying to do here is give you spiritual practices about helping yourself be happy. And one of the first that Hans is talking about is nature. And you'll notice during the entire show we're going to tell you ways to infuse joy into your life that won't cost you a penny. Or maybe a little bit. We bought a monstrous bag of really good dog food and that cost us about $25...

Hans:

At Costco.

Alfred:

At Costco of course. We're going to feed the raccoons, the possums, the squirrels, the occasional bear, for about three or four months and that cost us $25. I think I spend about $7 on bird food maybe once a month or so. So these are really inexpensive ways to make yourself be happy. And this is so against, like all of our teachings here are, against what they try to teach you on television. Which is: Buy, Buy, Buy. And we're saying: No. Here's a bunch of ways for you to be happy by doing really simple things.

Hans:

I'm going to jump out of our comfort zone for just a moment and say I was really very happy to see on the internet that there was a backlash among the buying public about going from having your Thanksgiving Dinner to running out to shop. Apparently that blew up in their face. That's a good sign for the country. You know, Alfred, one of the things that is really wonderful to do if you're feeling a little down? Go for a walk. Go for a walk and look. Look all around. Look up. Find something interesting. Move yourself out of your sense of despair. And remember that joy is always with you, at all times. You are not separate from your own joy. It's only your mind's perception. I remember Alfred when I told you to go outside and look at a flower. You remember that? 

Alfred:

I thought he was crazy. I said: Flower? Hmm, yeah me city boy who lived in concrete for most of his life...

Hans:

Banker...

Alfred:

Yes. 

(Alfred and Hans chuckling)

Hans:

Banker Consciousness... It was severe, folks.

Alfred:

Yes. So one of the teachings that I now pass along to my students is: If you've got nothing else to do and you want to make yourself feel happy, go stick your nose two inches from a flower. Pretty much I can guarantee you'll feel better.

Hans:

Yes. You really, really are going to feel better. Anything that breaks the mind's perception of the moment has the possibility to bring you joy. Now I know we all have days when there's an appearance that no matter what you do, it's not going to go well. You wonder why you ever got out of bed in the first place or could you just go back to bed. Break the perception of the moment children. That's what's important. Because the mind tends to want to concentrate when you're in lack of joy. It wants to concentrate on the problem. Whatever the problem it perceives it may be. But it wants to go there. It doesn't want you to not fuss. It wants you to suffer. Now Alfred mentioned about feeding the birds or feeding the ducks. These little things that you can do help to break the mind's grip on you and opens up the possibility for joy in your life. Alfred, how many animals are you feeding now do you suppose?

Alfred:

Let's see here. There's the chipmunks, there's the squirrels, there's various types of birds. We now have inherited a medium sized Woodpecker, a couple of bachelor Cardinals, all kinds of regular birds during the daytime. At night we've got possums, we've got the occasional bear, lots of raccoons. And of course The Princess Super Model, Bella.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

Yes. We can't forget about The Princess Super Model.

Hans:

Alfred, do we have a picture up on the website yet?

Alfred:

Bella?

Hans:

Yes, of Miss Bella.

Alfred:

I should do that actually.

Hans:

Yes. Well you know she said she wants to have an advice column. 

Alfred:

Yes. Advice from The Princess Super Model.

Hans:

Yes. About...

Alfred:

You too...

Hans:

About how to raise your parents.

Alfred:

She does give it a good job.

Hans:

She does indeed. You know Alfred, another thing that one can do is have what I call "a giving mind," a giving consciousness. Look folks, you may not have a lot of money to sort of go around and buy everybody presents and to give a lot of money to different causes. But what you can do, since we know that thoughts are living things, you can serve through your mind. Spirit has always taught me that the thought and the intention is as good as the deed. So, if you could you would, is as good as the deed. It actually adds an energy to giving. So through proper loving thinking you are giving. Now this concept was difficult for Alfred in the beginning. But Alfred you actually have gotten that lesson pretty well.

Alfred:

Yes. And giving again is one of those things that you don't need to give money. You can give of yourself. It starts with the intention to serve...

Hans:

Yes, your thoughts...

Alfred:

... with the intention to be of service. That is most important. But what's really funny is, this is one of the true ways to be happy. We're taught again during the Holiday Season that to be happy you're supposed to "buy things" and we're saying: "That's not necessary." To give, you can simply be of service. 

Hans:

And giving can come from a place in the heart. If you know that one of your friends is down, but they don't want to talk about it, and they're sort of hiding in themselves, you can just go to the Spirit and say: Please, I've done what I can do for this person, would you please help me to infuse the light into them and bring them the possibilities that may be available in their life? And then just let it go. That turns into an action from Spirit that brightens the quality of that person's life. I can't tell you how many times I have heard someone say: Oh my goodness Hans, I was so depressed and I've only talked to you a couple of minutes but I feel so much better. Giving of yourself, giving kind thoughts, giving hugs... There are times people when you're going to come across someone who, whatever the space they're in, they could be angry, jealous... they could not perhaps find a loving space from their parents in their heart who are just really suffering. Just a hug to that person or a quiet prayer for that person does an enormous amount of good.

Alfred:

Yes. It's basically if you're looking for a way to be happy, go find someone else to help and help them be happy. What you give out, comes back to you.

Hans:

Alrighty. Another thing Alfred that people can do is volunteer their time. There are just thousands and thousands of things out there, organizations and programs that need people for an hour a week, three hours a week, five hours a week. Whatever you can afford of your time. And Spirit sees this. And you are so blessed back because of this action of yours. So learning to give unconditionally, this is the key. I remember my dear grandmother and she had this enormous Christmas Card List and through the years I noticed that it got smaller and smaller and smaller. And I said to her: Grandma what's going on? You used to have like 800 people here. I think it's 300 now. She said: Well, I have a motto. I send people a Christmas Card and if I don't get one back I cross them off the list.  And I said: That's a strange way of living. She said: Well, it's my way. But you see she was giving conditionally, not unconditionally. Give your time. A very, very important one when bringing joy back into your life Alfred is to our old nemesis, our old friend here, the mind chatter. Learn to stop your mind chatter about what's in it for you. What do you think?

Alfred:

And that's one of our core teachings that we go through in The Intuitive Development Class that when you are "of service" and you're helping others, have no expectations, no opinions of the result of what's going to happen, if they're going to help you, or what's in it for you. Basically, expectations, opinions and judgments are some deeply seeded mind chatter. And what we try to teach you is...

Hans:

Yes...

Alfred:

... don't add any more to that which you already have. If you're going to go out and give, and volunteer and help, don't allow yourself to have any expectation of anything in return. Or that it's going to help the person, or how it's going to help the person. Just give.

Hans:

Give for the sheer sake Alfred.

Alfred:

So cut your mind chatter off at the pass...

Hans:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

... and say no expectation, no opinion, I'm just giving for the sake of giving and that's it.

Hans:

You'll find Alfred that your mind chatter does want to interfere with your giving sometimes.

Alfred:

Well, we've been trained that way.

Hans:

Well, I know people Alfred who give because it's expected of them. I know people who actually buy people Christmas presents for no other reason than wanting to be loved. That's not the way to be loved. How about sweeping their front porch? You know if you see an older person that you know has difficulty in doing for themselves a 15 minute gesture, 1/2 hour gesture on your part just works wonders. And I want everyone to know God is there for you. Hear it again: God IS there for you. No matter what the appearance. No matter what is going on in your life right now.  Maybe the holidays depress you. God is there for you. Maybe you feel alone for Christmas. God is there for you. All thoughts are living things. The God-force hears all your thoughts. It's an opportunity for you to practice unconditional love to the universe knowing that the God-force is flowing through you in that action. Okay? Alfred, I also believe that people should try to trust that God has your back.

Alfred:

Yes. And that has to do with fear. Another very difficult lesson for a lot of old souls that have been through some very interesting lessons is: this is going to come after me, that's going to happen to me, these lessons are going to continue, I have to protect myself. And what we try to teach to you is that: No, you have an army of supporters on the other side who are there helping you, guiding you. And as long as you tap into that guidance and surrender into the unknown, you want the unknown, you don't want what's in your head. Then you can trust that you're in the flow with the universe and there is nothing to fear.

Hans:

No.

Alfred:

And once you let go of fear and once you trust that you're in the flow, you're going to feel phenomenal.

Hans:

Absolutely. Knowing in your heart, that a non-judgmental God and a non-judgmental Spirit has your back, knowing they have no judgment of you. Knowing that during this time of the year, they draw near to you to remind you how much they love you. And opening yourself up and saying: I know my god loves me. Talk to Spirit, talk to God about letting go of your fears. Remember your fears are not real friends. It's your mind chatter telling you of something that "could" happen. Alfred, I know you do a lot of work with people who have fear. How do you approach this issue?

Alfred:

Well, you can think about Bella and her playing with her toy for example... How's that squeaky toy Bella, is that good?

Hans:

She wants to be heard.

Alfred:

Bella, is that you telling us you're still there?

Hans:

She is, indeed.

Alfred:

Well, we'll have to take a picture of the Super Model and put her up for you. Sweetness... Sweetness, dad is on the radio right now.

Hans:

I hope all of you are grinning as much as I am. She's got her little squeaky rabbit and she's right next to him and she's trying to make a statement about “don't forget I'm here.”

Alfred:

She wants to play. She's nudging my hand. That's just comical. That should make you feel good...

Hans:

Now there's a joyous thing. See – she's in joy right now because you just threw the rabbit.

Alfred:

Yes. Where were we? Oh, have faith and fear. You have two choices. In general spirituality is the opposite of western training, that a lot of us paid a lot of money for is, you're in control. You get what you negotiate. It's up to you. You are the individual who's responsible. That is stressful. Lord knows a lot of us have been there. And we're trying to tell you: There's an option. There is an option to that stress and it's called Letting Go. Going with the flow, having faith, trust and belief in the universe, in your God, in your guidance. And basically what we say is: If you want to be happy, then have faith, believe, let go and you'll realize, I guess God really does want me to be happy. If you want to do the typical human western thing of "I'm in control, it's up to me," well, if you're wondering why you feel bad, that's the reason. 

Hans:

You know Alfred, having faith, having a deep seeded faith, a quiet, gentle understanding that your life is unfolding as it should. Turning off that mind chatter that tries so desperately to disconnect you from your joy, from your peace, from your possibilities. And it works overtime. Having a quiet understanding: It is the way it is supposed to be. I am unfolding into my bounty of love, my abundance, I am unfolding into my god's arms. And having a quiet knowing of this and allowing yourself to just feel the bliss and the power of God around you every day. There's never a time my friends, when you're ever disconnected from God, never ever a time when you're disconnected from God.

Alfred:

And that's where we're heading you towards. Feeling happy. Feeling joyful. Feeling bliss. Feeling peace in your life. You don't have to search for those things. We just gave you a 1/2 hour of different ways to have those things in your life in a matter of minutes for no, if very little money. Okay? And that is the key. That is the key that we try to teach you in so many of our courses is to “feel.” To feel connected to the universe, to feel the vibration and energy of the universal energy. To feel as Obi-Wan Kenobi taught Luke Skywalker, to "Feel The Force."

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

Teachings of Joseph Campbell...

Hans:

As Bella's currently doing. She's feeling The Force.

Alfred:

Yes. Bella, are you feeling happy right now sweetness?

Hans:

Yes.

(Hans and Alfred chuckling in the background)

Alfred:

And that is what we're trying to get across to you today is, do things that make you feel good. Like Bella is playing with her squeaky toy...

Hans:

And it makes all of us smile. I mean you can't help it. She's in this wonderful, blissful little world where she has her little stuffed rabbit and she thinks this is the best thing that ever happened to her. She has her dad here. She loves Alfred like herself. They have this wonderful relationship. And she knows that he's there for her. She knows it. Just like you need to know God and Spirit are there for you always. 

Alfred:

And one final thing is when you're doing these things that we're describing, whether you're simply out in nature, whether you're volunteering, whether you're being of service, or whether you're just simply believing and having faith, take a moment and feel the energy. Feel the bliss, feel the joy enter into your soul. Take a moment and feel it enter into your life. Just take a moment and let it sink in.

Hans:

Absolutely. That a wonderful subject. What a wonderful topic, "Recover Your Joy." And Alfred I believe that will conclude the lesson for today.

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“Violence in America” - Rebroadcast from December 13, 2013 - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“Violence in America” - Rebroadcast from December 13, 2013    

- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Violence in America

November 29, 2014

Alfred:

Good evening everyone. Welcome to Modern Day Mysticism being broadcast on The World Puja Network. Tonight's topic of Physical Healing is going to be pushed aside so that Hans can talk to you about the events of today from a spiritual perspective. Without further ado, I present to you the Modern Day Mystic himself Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Good evening everyone. I do want to say it is good to be with you this evening on this rather somber evening. People ask me: Why does God allow these things to happen? For those of you who maybe have not have turned on the news today, a gunman walked into a school in Connecticut and shot to death 20 children, 6 adults, and his mother. Various types of guns he had, which apparently he got from his mother. And people ask me: Hans, how can God let this happen? God has nothing to do with this. God as Spirit gave us every single tool we need to manifest happiness and joy and compassion in our life. Unfortunately my perdition of many years ago when I said the United States will become the most violent nation in the industrialized world is becoming to come to pass. How did we get here? What happened along the way that so caused this mental trauma in someone? What happened?

For over 40 years I've been trying to teach, with Spirit, that our society is built on disenfranchising people, tearing them down. It is not based on bringing people up into the light. It's not based on compassion. We tell our children, without meaning to, from our mouth that they are not enough. We do this by telling them that someday they too could be somebody. That if they get the right kind of education, they too can be somebody. We rarely ever say to our children: You are enough, you are perfect for me. Just who you are, where you are in this moment, is perfect for me. Don't worry, your place in society, your place in life is already assured just because you're who you are. And I want you to understand my child, that who you are and your behavior are two different things. That if I can show you and teach you who you are, your behavior will follow in line. 

Instead, we have set up a society where sports is a primary function of children. What do we do when we produce sports? We say it's healthy. Healthy for who? The exercise is healthy, yes. But on every playing field, somebody looses. They weren't quite good enough you see. And we're so invested in winning. By the way winning is something we never get to keep. So why is it so very important, what are we saying when we say I win. It says somebody else is less than we are? That somebody didn't quite have the psychical stamina, or the emotional smarts, to compete with us? The United States has stooped to 17th in Education in the world. We're about the same in Health. We have people running around killing children...children, people. How is this possible?

Look at the media, look at our elections, look at the things we say to each other, listen to what our children hear. Years ago, years ago, some of you may remember this if you are old enough, a gentleman  adopted an entire classroom of children in the inner cities in New York. All children of color, every one of them. These children came, most of them from impoverished homes, some of them one parent, struggling mothers, disinterested fathers, or fathers who didn't know how to be a parent and had lost their wife through illness... And he took these  children, and he said, I watched him being interview on 60 Minutes - I'm going to show them they are certainly good enough. And he offered the children, after meeting with their parents, and said if you will stay in school I will pay for all of your clothes, your books, your education, all the way up until you graduate from high school. And then if you wish to go on, I will pay for your college. Everybody laughed at this man because everybody knew he would have a poor record on this particular thing because everybody had the mind-set that poor children have no initiative. And they followed this man, and they followed these children, and every one of them graduated from high school. Every one of them went on to some sort of formal education. Every one of them bettered themselves. Why? Because he told them they were enough and he believed in them. 

Folks, we have just been given a prediction by a very important Think Tank that says in just 19 years the United States of America will be a 2nd rate nation. 19 years. Folks, how is that possible? It's possible because we are turning out some of the worst students in the history of our own country. I watched some children in Cuba in high school being interviewed a year ago and they asked them where Havana was - 49% of the children did not know. They asked them where Paris was - most of the children had no idea what they were talking about and one girl said she thought it was somewhere up in Canada, wherever that was. There comes a time when all of us, all of us, have to get off this merry-go-round of disconnect. This disconnect is killing this nation. I'm an older person now and where we have come from from where we are is shocking...shocking. We don't "care". 

As a society we should have individuals in every community across this nation called The Hope Squad and these people should be meeting with parents. It should be mandatory that parents who love their children find out what the level of learning capability their child has. And if the government has to pay for it, the government has to pay for it. Who cares? Because these children down the road will add immensely to the treasury of this nation. I heard something this evening, I was watching a man on the Mitchell Manoff Show and he said after a 5 year study from Columbine he learned that 6% of our teenagers are hard core depressed, manic depressed. 6%. How is that possible? You say, oh it's only 6%. It's the 6% that are killing people. It is not a small number. We are leaving our children behind because we don't care enough to give them the very best. We are a nation of 310 million people. What has anyone done today to help a child? What? I speak personally because personally as a child nobody cared whether or not I could learn or couldn't learn. Nobody bothered to find out. It was only God that helped me, only Spirit that carried me through until today. Because nobody cared. I was considered stupid, I was considered dumb, I was considered "unteachable" was the term. A Junior High School Teacher said to me: You're unteachable, you're just stupid. And I never forgot that. I don't think that he would say that today, do you? 

In each child, each and every one of us, each child not just white children, each of our children holds a nugget of God in their heart. It is our job, no matter what religion we are, to find that nugget and to remind the individual, no matter how poor, that someone out there cares enough. We have children selling drugs, children murdering people... Because we don't care. I'm not speaking to you my dear, dear, dear family of friends. You know where I'm going. I'm talking as a nation. We actually have a political party that ran on cutting our education budget which is in shambles now. But not our defense budget. We've got... I'm here in Palm Springs today...right over here in the Arizona desert we've got 3000 of the best tanks in the world we can't use because we have no use for them. 3000! We have 40,000 deliverable nuclear bombs and no enemy to drop them on. We have troops in 50 nations. We still have 500,000 troops in Europe. I don't know how many troops in Japan. We're supporting this enormous infrastructure. We became a country terrified of everything. And yet, in truth we don't need a third of it. Have never needed a third of it. That money should be taken. We should have concerned parents, concerned state, city and local individuals who are monitoring our children, what do you need Bobby, what do you need Sara? Talking to parents, being parents for children who don't have parents...by caring, programs. There are so many people trying to help. But we need this now on a national basis. Our children are massively depressed. You have to start at the beginning and listen to Spirit when it says: Each and every one of your children is a baby angel in human form. We are not here to tell them that something they're going to do will make them who they are. We're telling you that they bring who they are to their endeavor. We have to stop calling people "losers". We have to stop this continuous bickering between the two parties in this country. We have to stop it. Or we're going to wake up one day with the most uneducated group of children in the industrialized world...we're close now. That breaks my heart.

Every child born in this country should know that someone, somewhere cares. Every child born in this country who does not have a parent or parents who care enough should know that they have a resource. And people say: Oh well yes. There is this program and that program... These are individual programs, some state and local, but are not funded the way they should be funded. We should have an association that says: I care...I care. I care about the direction about my country. I care about the children in my country. I'm going to do something to help turn this around. And I want each and every one of you to find just one program that you can contribute a dollar to. Just one. You can send it anonymously so you don't get all those letters for donations. I understand that. I want every one of you to care. I am an animal enthusiast from the start. We have all these programs out there trying to save animals. We have all these programs trying to save the earth when our children are being murdered. Hello? Anybody listening to this old man? Our children are dying. Killing themselves. 

The suicide rate in this nation is appalling. The suicide rate from people coming back from the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan are the highest in the history of our country. Because nobody cares that we sent them to do something that was totally and absolutely unnecessary. And these young boy and girls saw their friends blown apart, maimed... There are actually organizations right now on television showing you these people asking for donations. It breaks my heart. I probably will not live long enough to see the turn around, but I know we have the power to do it. And I know it my heart that you care. It isn't about money, it's about intention children. It's about intention. These magnificent questions that you send into us every week move my heart, they move Alfred's heart. You can see our intentions, you all know who I am. You hear me speak, you know where I come from. And I'm saying to all of you there's got to be a way. 

I met two of the most spectacular human beings I have ever met in my life, Alfred and I did when we did this seminar for Michael and Rafael Tamura in Mount Shasta in August. These two ladies approaching their 80's have rescued over a million children. How did they do that? Well after the Korean War they went out in a really bad typhoon and saw a bunch of children huddled in front of this little run down house. And they asked what they were doing there. And the interpreter said: Oh, these children are not wanted you see. Because their fathers were soldiers and Japanese society at that time would not accept them. They had no place to go, no food. Well Sara and Yvonne took these children back to the hotel, who said you may not bring these children in. Well they didn't know Sara and Yvonne very well. They were both actresses. And they were on a USO Tour. They got them into the hotel and they got them fed. And today they operate a world-wide service for children. I'm going to ask Alfred to put up their website name so that you might go and look at what they're doing. If these two ladies have devoted over 55 years to making a difference, can't we all? Why do we have to admire somebody else doing it? Can't we volunteer our time to do something? It doesn't cost us any money to volunteer our time. Open your hearts. 

All of you are so kind and decent and I thank you for listening to me. This today, as you can plainly hear, shook me to my core. I have seen too much of this. I've seen too much of this. And all I ever hear when it comes to gun control is you can't, you can't take away one of our amended rights. Someone needs to tell me "how" an AK-47 assault rifle is okay to have. Someone has to explain it to me. Alfred saw something and I think this is what he said - something about they gave the average deaths from handguns from countries of around the world  - I think the highest was West Germany at 10 per 100,000. We were at something like 10,000. We shoot each other every day. We kill each other every day. We complain about countries like Mexico. We complain about how violent it is. But we always manage to overlook our own. What I'm saying to all of you is you can make a difference through your intention even if you say Hans I have no money. Money is not what I'm asking for. I'm asking for prayer and intention. That's what I'm asking for. Because it makes a difference kids. We brought down the Soviet Union, we brought down the Berlin Wall without firing a shot. 

What we now have to do is say: We're asking for the power of intention to begin to impact our country in such a way as we begin to come together, we begin to help our children, we begin to see how great our beautiful country really is. Because we need to care about ourselves now. I know I will get emails. I understand that. And I know some of you won't understand why I'm so upset. A great nation, Winston Churchill once said will always be judged on how it's treated it's poorest of citizens. Are we treating our humblest of citizens, our children, the way we should? I don't think so. I speak from my experience when I tell you absolutely nobody cared about me as a child and I'm not kidding you. My parents basically did not know what to do nor did they seek help. But I was blessed because some people came forward who are not my parents. So nobody who should be responsible for me got me here. People who didn't even know me did. I've asked Alfred not to speak on this subject tonight because it's too painful for him as well. People came forward to move Alfred to who he is today. I was just one of several. 

We are, as a society, greater than our problems. We are, as a nation, better than the way we're behaving. How many more of these enormous tragedies do we have to go through before we stop the debate about guns don't kill people? When are we going to say how did our children get this way? And start looking and say you know what, if we get together, we can fix this thing. If we were to spend, as a society, 10 minutes for every 1 hour we spend watching and participating in sports alone, we could correct this problem. We would have enough money. I can hear people saying, not you guys of course, but people will say well why should I care about somebody else's kids? Because they're kids. Why should I care whether or not a family in the inner city doesn't have a meal tonight for their children? Why should I care? Because they're hungry. 

There are some things that a great nation must always address and I believe it is the well-being of the humblest of citizens. We are a nation unique unto history in that we are a conglomeration of many races, many religions, many ideas. So we have all the greatness that we need. All we need to do is have the principle and the determination and the compassion to make a difference. I don't know how many people will listen to this but it will be quite a few thousand. And they'll probably wonder boy, he's rather emphatic on this. Where does he get this from? It's because he lived it. Let us give 10% of the love we give to our animals and use it in consciousness to set intention to add a light and to light a fire that says: Enough...enough already. Enough. Enough about not caring. Folks, we spent over 1 billion dollars on this last election. It is estimated the next one will cost about 3 billion. Do you have any idea how much food that would buy for hungry children, for people in need? Our priorities are out of line to our reality. And once we begin to understand that... This is what I love that happens by working with Spirit, they cry when they see how much we have and all this inter-fighting and anger, resentment and one party this and one party that... Let us all rise above the appearance of this sadness and make a pledge to ourself that no matter what we do, we will set an intention that our intention be used with God's intention and good people all over at this holiday time to make a difference. A difference that will bring a light that shines for all of us as we move forward. And may we please all bless the children and the adults who perished from this. We know they're in Spirit, we know they're fine. But their parents don't, their husbands and wives don't. The mother of this victim doesn't. Let us pray please for all of these people. Hold them in your prayers. I will too. I will set my prayer group to this task tonight. I thank you all for listening to me and in no way did I mean to bring anyone down. It's just time that I said something about this. 

“The Pain of Lost Expectations” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“The Pain of Lost Expectations” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: The Pain of Lost Expectations

October 25, 2014

Alfred:

Hello everyone and welcome to GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE - Wisdom for Your Soul. This is Alfred, the Padawan to the Modern Day Mystic himself, Hans Christian King. He's going to be joining us in a few seconds, but first the housekeeping. I want to say Thank You All - everyone of you has been "sharing" what we do on Facebook. We're ever so grateful for when you do "share" what we do with your friends, and by telling them that you believe in us, you help us reach out and help others. We don't do any traditional advertising, so thank you very much for helping us get the world out!

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And for today's topic: "The Pain of Lost Expectations". So without further ado, I present the Modern Day Mystic himself, Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Hello everyone. Welcome to the show. Alfred, can I participate in that Contest on Facebook?

Alfred:

Absolutely Hans, if you'd like to win your own products.

Hans:

(Laughing) Well that might be nice. I could give them to somebody else. You know folks, throughout my lifetime in service, there is one recurring theme that is extremely painful for a lot of people. If you listen, everyone, to the questions that people send in, there sort of is a theme. Now what is that theme? A lost expectation. 

How do we get to lost expectations? In our humanness, we from time to time, have a strong feeling in our heart or in our mind that we should know this person or we should move to this place or we should be doing this kind of a job or we should be doing this service work of some kind... And oftentimes, the expectation isn't met.

Let's go to relationships folks. A lot of people will say to me: But Hans I knew it in my heart. Let's talk about the gals first, then we'll talk about the guys. Gals, a lot of times you see somebody, and there's this thug that comes in the chest and you just feel that you know this person, you just feel that you want to have something to do with this person, even perhaps become lovers and partners. And this is very strong, and this is POW! it just hits you so hard. But nothing happens. And the person is very nice to you. They talk to you about their partner or what they're doing, but you don't see a lean in towards a relationship. What is happened there is most likely you have met someone from a previous lifetime. So it isn't just the mind and the heart, the soul recognizes that person. And when the soul recognizes that person, it hones right in, and says: Oh, there's my old friend; Oh, there's my old husband, my old wife... Okay?

But what you're doing is,what you've heard me refer to before as "soul crossing". Where you just go by each other to say hello and be remembered. But the humaneness of you sets an expectation. And when the humanness of you sets an expectation, because you believe, you tell God you would like a response to your expectation, even if God, the Spirit, is trying to say to you: Just passing by.  You don't want to hear that, you don't want to know that, you don't want to project into this. Because you "know", because you have this "feeling". So this feeling of "I know that person, and I know I'm going to be with that person"... A lot of the times comes out of the need to be loved. It comes out of a need to be "seen", a need to be "accepted", a need to be someone's "everything". Even though it isn't to be, for you. I cannot tell you how many people Spirit and I counsel a week just listening to people talk about they know that this person is to be in their life. And sometimes, no matter what I say, no matter what I do, they don't want to hear it.

You might check around yourself, see if there's some things in here that you might be holding onto with expectations that you may want to say: Is this causing me pain? Alfred, what do you say on this? I always like to bring Alfred in when it's like a deer in the headlight moment...

Alfred:

Expectations are a very difficult spiritual lesson. Yet, this lesson can have really profound results...

Hans:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

...in terms of your peace and happiness. Expectation is the mind's view of what should happen, the outcome, in the future. So what you're looking at is getting your humanness, your mind chatter involved as to what it thinks the future should be. Spirituality as we all know is surrendering the future, being in the moment, and letting go of those things that we desire, or our mind chatter tells us we should have. And that's where we get ourselves in trouble is when our mind sets us up to expect something in our life and it doesn't happen. The mind has a really hard time understanding: Well, why didn't this happen?

Hans:

Exactly. And oftentimes Alfred, I'm sure you've found, like I have, that the mind often blames the Spirit or blames God. Why didn't God do this for me? Why didn't God give me this? This is what I wanted. I knew it would happen. And we kind of get ourself in a belief trauma as well.

Alfred:

Yes, and a lot of spirituality is about surrendering. It's about being peaceful and happy in the moment. About being grateful for what you have. Realizing that your glass is half full. Having an expectation is that my glass is going to be completely full, or it's going to be more full than it already is. The opposite is: No, I'm peaceful and grateful where I am in the moment.

Hans:

Very good. Thank you Alfred. That's the key right there - being peaceful in the moment. Not setting an expectation. Folks, do you think the Spirit doesn't know what's in your heart? Do you think they don't know your longing, your needs, your desires? Of course they do. But they also know your plan. They have a carbon copy of your dharma. They know where you're supposed to be and who you're supposed to be with. But in the game of life, as we see it, people come by us, who we recognize and we think: Oh, there's my soul mate.

Now let's go away from relationships for a minute and go to expectations regarding things that you would like to have in your life - a new house, a new car, a new job... Let's go to job. A lot of times we set our expectations for a new position, if we don't have a job, we set our expectations for a job. But when we do that. we also fantasize into it about how it needs to look so we can be okay with it. Rather than say: I'm available for that perfect job that is for me at this time. Not tomorrow, not next week, at this time. Thank you for bringing the doors for this to me.

We set our statement, and then we add all of these little subtleties to it, and before you know it, what was just getting you a maintenance job for a moment,  has turned into this lifelong dream of yours to do this or do that. So lost expectations come about when we set them. So the expectation happens when we say... Rather than say: I would like the feeling and I would like the awareness of this particular thing...and I would enjoy seeing how this might be in my life and letting it go...and I would say: to my highest good always. 

So they get it, they hear where you're coming from. You're not saying you're going to be less than if it doesn't happen. You're already enough as you right now. You don't need anything whatsoever. You might like the experience of something. And as Alfred would throw in: And here's how I would like to feel in the experience. That's how you set, what we call today, expectations. Where we don't say: And I want it to show up this way, and I need for this person to love me, and I need this particular job... And all these things that we do in our humanness. They're roadblocks. Somebody wrote, Alfred, I don't know who, but they said: "Expectations are limitations". You remember that?

Alfred:

Expectations are a limitation because it is something that your mind chatter created. It's part of ego, maybe it's something that you saw on television, maybe it's something that your parents told you you deserved, maybe you're trying to live up to the Jones or your friends, and unknowingly you set an expectation of "this is what I want in my live" and it becomes a limitation because everything else that comes across that doesn't look like what your mind is telling you you should have, is now instantly dismissed. However, how do you know what is being presented to you isn't for your highest good? A person that may not meet all of your items on your list may be your soul mate.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

However, you have an expectation written down in your list of what your soul mate should look like and the Other Side presents you with your soul mate and you dismiss that person. So having an expectation, having an opinion, a judgment of what should be in your life and what it should look like is an absolute limitation because then you are dismissing, without even a consideration, those things that Spirit presents to you.

Hans:

Folks, sometimes when we set our agenda, we sort of say to Spirit, taking off on what Alfred was just talking about: And this is how I want it to look, and this is how I want it to arrive. If you have perfect faith, if you believe, then you tell the Spirit what you would like the experience of and that's it...and how you would like to feel. Those two things. I think two-thirds of all the questions that come into this radio show are from lost expectations. If you go back and you listen to all the show... My gosh Alfred, how many shows have we done now? Quite a few...

Alfred:

Four years...about four years.

Hans:

Well that's almost 200 shows. And many of you are the ones who are in the pain of the lost expectation. Folks, I'm not saying it isn't painful. But what you don't realize is why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you put yourself in that position? And I hear people say all the time: Oh, I knew that they were for me. I knew it. It's their fault. They're not living up to what they're supposed to do. And very rarely, but it does happen, that's true. But Spirit always has a contingency for a contingency for every contingency.

So if you're supposed to be loved at a certain level, you will be. It may not be by this person. But they bring another person in and you'll say: Oh, I'm so glad that I didn't get first person because this person really works wonderful for me. Letting go of expectations regarding parents. This is the tough one folks. When you let go of the pain and the expectations of the parents, your life gets so much easier. Does it not Alfred?

Alfred:

It really does because then you stop putting energy towards something that might happen in the future. That's number one is you think that thing in the future will actually fix you. If this happens, then I'll be happier, if this person comes into my life, I'll be better. And the reality is, by letting go of anything that has to do with the future, the past, as we all know also, helps you become more peaceful and happy and blissful and joyful in the moment. Expectations are a reflection of what's happened in our past and projects us out into our future which takes us away from being grateful in the moment. So again, it's a huge step towards your spiritual growth to let go of expectations in order for you to be grateful and peaceful in the moment.

Hans:

Folks, many of you run on a time constraint. Oh, I'm getting old, Oh, if I get much older I can't have children, will she still want me when I get to be 50? We run under this fear umbrella of we're running out of time. Folks, there is no time. Oftentimes when the Spirit speaks to you, they say something, they're saying that person will be in your life, probably coming up next lifetime. Not always this one. So letting yourself simply learn to "be" with no expectations. I'm here in this moment, this is the experience I would like to have, I give it to you to do for me to my highest good, and bring those doors to me. Then you're saying: I trust you. I know that this pain in my heart really is self induced. 

And one thing in lost expectations, children, never, ever, ever, become a victim or make the other person a villain. I know clients who have made other people villains in their life only because they didn't live up to this person or that person's expectation of how that person would be. So they pre-set the expectation of how it had to be. But the other person wasn't at that spot. But that doesn't make any difference. Because these people say: Oh, but I knew it was for me, there was no doubt it was for me, and I'm coming to stick this out.

One of the biggest things that people do is when they fall in love with married people, or committed people. I know she's for me, I know he's for me, and I know they're going to leave that person, and I know they're going to be with me. What you are picking up is your experience of that person from a previous lifetime and you get confused about this. If a person is in a relationship, you need to honor that and walk away - period. Under almost any circumstance. If that relationship is to be, it will show up somewhere down the road with you having absolutely no expectations, and nothing to do with it. Okay?

Now, as you go through your life, there are going to be moments when you see someone or something you would really, really like the experience of. Sit down, be quiet, and say to Spirit: I don't know if this situation or this person is for me. But I am available if they are. I'm available to my highest good. Please show me where I need to be with this issue and drop it. Make yourself, of course, available in your heart, but have no expectation of how it has to happen, how it has to show up. 

I know a person, a couple of months ago, who met a person on an airplane. And they struck up a conversation and he was a married person and this girl felt she knew him and she started running all the fantasies and what have you... She drove herself to the point where she had to go to the hospital in a panic attack because he had not called her. When he never said he would. But she knew it, in her heart, that he was going to call. This is what I'm talking about when we disturb our peace, when we disturb our ease. Okay? 

So having a quiet awareness that where you... Folks, why do you think Alfred and I talk so much about being in the now? Making this moment right now all there is. I am enough. Why do you think we do that? Because it's only the mind that brings attachments to the peace. The heart doesn't have to. Only the mind disturbs the peace. The heart never does. So when we learn: Oh, I got to feel something, isn't that wonderful, I'm still alive...

The other day Alfred and I were walking somewhere and the wind was whistling and Alfred's dressed up looking like a polar bear, you can't even see his face with the hoodie he's got on. and I'm in a T-shirt. And he said something and I said under my breath: Yes, but at least I have feelings. I can feel it. Isn't that wonderful? Feeling the cold wind on your face, feeling the Caribbean sand in your feet, feeling a smile on your face when you see a puppy... Those are the things folks, that are important.

So the greatest gift you give yourself is to stop expectations and replace them with a knowing and an understanding that Spirit is here for you. They know what's supposed to be for you. Let them do their work and many times their work does not show up in your expectation. Alfred, what did Mick Jagger say in that song? You don't always get what you want...

Alfred:

...but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need.

Hans:

There is a metaphysical statement if ever there was one. So where you already are, right now folks, is perfect. Have you ever noticed everyone that no matter how bad things seem to get, somehow you always get through? No matter how broke you are, no matter how poor you may be in a moment, somehow, something happens and you get through? Have you ever noticed that when you've had a relationship you think it's your end-all, be-all, and this person says: I'm sorry it doesn't work for you. Your heart is broken, it's shattered and on the floor. A year later you wonder what you ever saw in the person because you're with somebody else. 

Just being peaceful, in the moment, will bring to you all the lessons you need to learn. So less expectations is less pain. Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.