"Letting Go of Pain" by Hans Christian King - Spiritual Radio Show transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Letting Go of Pain 

November 30, 2013

Alfred:

Hello everyone and welcome to Guidance For Your Life. This is the Padawan, Alfred and today's topic is "Letting Go of Pain". So without further ado, I present to you Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Good afternoon everybody. Welcome to a rainy day in western North Carolina. I hope this finds you all in the holiday spirit and getting excited to have all your friends and loved ones around or perhaps you're going somewhere exciting, to a play or movie. But this is a wonderful time of the year. It reminds us how really blessed we actually are. This subject today "Letting Go of Pain" comes out of a perception that says: Something may be wrong. Now I'm not sitting here today telling you that you don't hurt. I'm not saying that there is no pain. What I'm saying is that you can control that emotion by recognizing just a few things. Number one, what if truly there isn't anything wrong? Now Alfred and I have discussed this possibility with you before and got some interesting emails back. "Well, it looks wrong. It feels wrong." That's the mind's perception of what it is. Let's say, for instance, that you may have lost a dear one back to the other side. Your perception is that person is gone. What if that person's energy, love, emotions are actually still with you? And they see you in such terrible pain and they wish they could do something and they don't feel well because they feel they have been responsible for your pain. So I say to you: Pain is a perception that something is wrong. Learning to let go of that perception will ease your pain. Mr. Alfred?

Alfred:

And really the whole purpose of these topics that we did a couple of weeks ago, “That Nothing is Wrong" and this topic of "Letting Go of Pain" is for one purpose - to bring more happiness, more joy, more bliss, more peace into your life. That is the reason that during this holiday season, we're talking about nothing is wrong, letting go of pain. Because in the absence of pain, in the absence of something being wrong, you'll become happier, more joyous, more peaceful a lot easier.

Hans:

How does one change one's perception of what's going on in their life? How is that possible? One of the things you can start doing when pain appears at your doorstep is say: What a minute, hold on here. What is actually going on? Is this pain real or is this emotional? Am I emotionally involved in this? For instance, let's say that your boyfriend, your girlfriend suddenly announces to you that the relationship is not working for them. Now that can be, in appearance, extremely painful. And you may feel some pain, for just a moment. But if you go in and look at it and say: Wait a minute. This is not my problem. This is their problem. I'm going to choose not to suffer this today. I'm going to thank them, bless them for being in my life and I'm going to move on to my next adventure. But dear friends, I know clients who have suffered the loss of a relationship through the way we just spoke about and been stuck in that pain for decades. Years upon years, upon years, asking: Why? How could this have happened? What could I have done better? What didn't I do? What if you found out that for that person, the relationship simply didn't work anymore? That's all. Pure and simple. The same thing with a job. What if one day somebody says to you: You know, we enjoy your work here but we're downsizing and I'm sorry but we're going to have to let you go. Your immediate response is fear. Then you go into anger. Then you start hollering to yourself and just being very angry and emotional. But what if you found out that that pain, that temporary pain, is actually a door to a new beginning? Alfred?

Alfred:

How about we pick on the topic that everybody's dealing with during this holiday season? Family. 

Hans:

Well you are...

Alfred:

And all the things that are wrong with your family. And the perception that there's something wrong with your family. And the perception of how the family deals with each other. What makes you think there is anything actually wrong? Maybe there's the possibility that you just don't remember. You all asked to be around each other for a specific reason. Maybe things are the way things are is so to be able to present each other with lessons. Remember last week we were talking about relationships? One of the main part of soul mate relationships are family.

Hans:

Folks, a little FYI. Never side in family disputes. You know this one don't you Alfred?

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

Never side. Don't get into the politics of family. If somebody says something about so and so, I say gee: I've never seen that before. Well, I love them anyway. Do something that allows you to not get angry. Sure there are family members that are just going to fry your bananas sometimes. And you think: Oh my goodness how could they say that? Bless them and don't have a judgment or an opinion. Mr. Alfred?

Alfred:

And that's one of the first practices that we're talking about in "Letting Go of Pain", is in the moment not have an opinion, not have perception, don't have a judgment of what's happened in the past, what's happening currently. Just let things slide off you. Now did anything change out there? No. But what changed is you. You are not allowing opinions or judgments to come into your being and disrupt your happiness.

Hans:

Again, pointing out to you, if you will just say: That's not been my perception of that person. That's not been my understanding of their behavior. Do not side with family members against family members. It will only come back to hurt you, every time...every single time.

Alfred:

Oh, I heard the best quote from Buddha that anger is like holding onto a hot coal that you will eventually throw at somebody. Except in the meantime, as you hold onto it, it burns you. That's Buddhist.

Hans:

That's right. So just have a quiet understanding that each and everyone of us are in this life for a purpose. Again I point out that we're not here but accident, we're here by design. When you realize that Spirit doesn't love anyone more than anyone else and God loves us all equally, it's really hard to place blame for something or to get angry at someone that they may have said. And learn this lesson: That who someone is and their behavior are two different things. Okay? That's always been a tough one for a lot of people. People think that someone actually is their behavior. But that's not true. You know, you can still care about a person, you can still love a person, and you can still give a person something, but you may not like their behavior. And you need to make that okay. There are certain perceptions that family members have i.e. mothers, fathers, grandparents that we should be a certain way, act a certain way, do certain things. Once you begin to point out to them: I'm sorry, but that's your expectation of how I should be, not mine. This is really a hard lesson that you teach them. And sometimes the lessons can take a little while. Right Alfred?

Alfred:

They can. And I think in my personal situation I worked on family lessons for 20 or 30 years. And one of the biggest family lessons that I was working on is that you can still care about your family members, you can still love your family members but have no opinion of the outcome of you trying to help your family members. Of course everybody wants you to get involved in this person and that person's issues and that is the toughest thing. One of the main lessons that we teach about being in service is, you can love, you can give assistance, but have no opinion of the outcome. Again, one of the main lessons that we're talking about today is: having no opinion, having no judgment. And one of the main traps that a lot of us got caught in, I got caught in for about 30 years, was having an opinion of the outcome of trying to help family members. If you let that go and just love for the sake of loving, help for the sake of helping, then...

Hans:

Alfred, that's the key right there.

Alfred:

It is. And that's the whole point is to be happy with what you're doing but not inviting pain or disappointment into your life.

Hans:

One of the things I would like to say to you all that Spirit finds very strange is: gossip. They do not understand the phone calls and the getting together for coffee to busy oneself talking about other people. Is that God-like? Is that Christ-like? Would Buddha have told you to do that? No. Defaming someone else when they're not present to defend themselves...Therefore, basically that talking is nothing more than your opinion on a certain subject. It has no more validity than anybody else's. But again, steer away from gossip just as much as you can. And try to have no opinion of anyone. This is where we get ourselves in trouble when we perceive we know best for another person. Look at where you have held onto something from your past and that something may be clouding your present day picture. Your brother may have said something to you when you were 18 years old and you're now 42 and you're still holding onto that "something". Please, that's of no benefit to him, and certainly of no benefit to you. Both of you are not the same people you were then. Realize that no matter how painful it is, you can let go of it. Alfred?

Alfred:

And this is the trick that you can say: But it's real, it's painful and we just say: No, it's your perception. It's your opinion of something that happened to you 10, 20 years ago that is causing you pain in the moment. And what we're saying is not to let go of what happened, but is to let go of your opinion of what happened. Okay? Those are completely different things. Yes, it happened. Yes, somebody may have done something. Okay, they have done something. But the trick to happiness is to let go of your opinion of what happened.

Hans:

That's right.

Alfred:

Your perception that something is wrong. The perception that something bad happened. No, you can just say: It happened.

Hans:

Alfred, that wonderful line that I love in our profession that says: "Not my problem" comes into play here. If you realize what someone is saying about you or to you or you heard that somebody said something...it's really not your problem is it?

Alfred:

No. It's not your problem what somebody did, what somebody said, because you don't fully know what that person was going through. Even your family members. You don't know, really if before you were born you asked that family member to do something. To present something, to say something to you so that you could deal with it in a lesson. You don't know. Thus how could you have an opinion of it? It just happened.

Hans:

If every time somebody hurt you or you hear that somebody said something about you, or someone says something to your face, look at them and say: Thank you but this is not my problem. Now they'll struggle with that and they'll get very crabby sometimes but you're giving them a lesson of truth. It is in fact, not your problem. Again I point out, what someone thinks of you is absolutely none of your concern. But what you think of what they think of you should be very, very much your concern. Nobody, either in your family or in life period, is fully equipped to judge you whatsoever. And here's the key my friends, God doesn't judge you either. Spirit doesn't judge you. The only judging that ever occurs in your life is between your own two ears. That's where all the judging comes from. That's where all the pain comes from. That's where: Oh, she said this, and she said... That's where all if that comes from. Because really and truly if you want to live a spiritual, fun and kind life, the external situations around you have nothing to do with you. That's something entirely different than you. In the middle of a hurricane, you can find a safe place. In the middle of anger and resentment and gossip, you can find a safe place. This was a lesson I taught Alfred some years ago. And I have to tell you he took it to heart. Did you not Sir?

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

So.

Alfred:

Sir?

Hans:

Yes, you're the Padawan so I think I'm supposed to call you "Sir" now.

Alfred:

Oh...

Hans:

Sir Alfred.

Alfred:

Sir Padawan?

Hans:

Sir Alfred with a golden voice.

Alfred:

I can see myself on a horse with armor.

(Hans chuckling)

Alfred:

Sir Padawan.

Hans:

Sir Padawan. He's never forgotten that "golden voice" thing. Consider letting go of the perception something is wrong. This is such a key to letting go of pain. Alfred, I think it's the cornerstone.

Alfred:

It is. Because for those of us, for example who have... oh, interesting families that we've spent the holidays with...What is the main thing that goes through our minds? Well this happened when I was 10 years old. This happened when I was 15 years old. And this happened when I was 20 years old. And we've been banging, banging that round peg into a square hole. Remember that lesson: Nothing is Wrong? Banging that round peg into the square hole for years and years and years and years saying: Why isn't it working? Why did that happen? How could that happen to me?

Hans:

By golly, that's the truth.

Alfred:

And we're saying: How about just letting go of the peg?

Hans:

Hello.

Alfred:

Stop banging the peg.

Hans:

Or put the darn hammer down.

Alfred:

And this is really useful. This is really life changing here to say: How do you put down the peg to say: Maybe you don't need the peg. Maybe nothing is wrong.

Hans:

And maybe that peg not's supposed to be in that hole.

Alfred:

Maybe you just need to say: Nothing is wrong. Regardless of what happened. Let go of the perception that something bad happened. Say: It happened. Maybe I don't understand why it happened and just let it go.

Hans:

You know Alfred, once folks actually begin to learn more of about this teaching, when we say to them before they know, pain is a choice... You get a lot of flack from people don't you find?

Alfred:

Yes. Because even in our classes sometimes.... We've had classes with 100 people and every once in awhile you get one or two people that say: You know what? I can't let it go. I choose not to let it go. It's just too important. And we're saying: Okay, but you have to understand you are choosing not to let it go. You are choosing to say, it is important in your life. And that's all we're saying, with all of Hans King's teachings, is just try it. Just see if it works. Say these things are sacred to your life and we say: Well, maybe they're not. Just try to let go of something you hold sacred to your life and see what happens. Worst case is you'll pick it back up again.

Hans:

Right. Here's an interesting concept. Never two moments in your entire life are ever the same. It is impossible to live today like you lived yesterday. It's impossible folks because during that 24 hr. period, everything in the universe expanded. Everything on earth expanded. The weather didn't stop and say, I think I won't do anything today. The earth didn't stop rotating. Taking and cherry picking the things that you want in your life in such a way that you begin to compound a solution of peace and of joy, you begin to let go of what doesn't work anymore, you begin to open up and wipe your slate clean and pick up some new chalks and you begin to say: I wonder, I wonder what will happen if I do this. And then you begin to move forward, on a daily basis, because your perception is that you're not allowing anything to appear as wrong, to appear as evil, to appear as troublesome or worrisome. Remember all the pain that you hold onto in your life you can let go of at anytime. At anytime. I tell the story of how angry my mother was with me earlier in my life. And she just was angry. She was angry at who I was, she was angry at my profession, she was just angry. And one day I turned to her and I said: Nancy, this is not my problem. This is your problem that you're visiting on me. And she said: Well, I'm your mother, you should listen to what I'm telling you. No, that's your perception of what I should be doing. I love you, you're my mother, I will always take care of you. And she said: Well, I don't want to talk to you until you can see my point of view. And that, my friends, was the last conversation we ever had. 31 years later she died. Now, a lot of people say to me: You must have been very sad. No. I know who my mother is and I know inside of her she loves me very much but she had difficulty with some people, some men who she loved very much, one of them being my father who did not live up to her expectations and her father who did not live up to her expectations. So she brought that pain to visit me. And that's why Spirit said to me: This son is not your problem. This is your mother's problems. And I know that many of you out there who are listening to this today can recognize and feel some of that pain. I'm not saying you have to let them go. I'm saying you have to get rid of your involvement in their mind chatter. On this subject Alfred do you have anything to add?

Alfred:

You don't know what your family members...

Hans:

Exactly.

Alfred:

your individual family members are going through. And you have to realize a simple fact. Everybody is just a soul having a human experience. Yes, okay they're your relatives. Yes, okay they're your parents. That does not remove them from the fact that they're going through their own lessons. They're going through their own stuff. You can't put people up on a pedestal just because they're your relatives. A lot of our clients get confused and treat relatives differently than they treat everybody else. No, relatives, family, friends, people you don't know, people on the other side of the world... We are all going through stuff. And we're not all going to be perfect and we're all going to do and say things that are not who we are. No one's perfect. If you're perfect you would dissolve and become Buddha. So everybody's going to do silly things in their life. So remember, just because they're your parents doesn't mean they don't have lessons they're going through. Everyone goes through their stuff.

Hans:

Doesn't matter who you are folks. Stuffs – Stuffs. Okay? And at this time of the year I'm hoping that each and every one of you can begin to realize that maybe, just maybe, you're holding onto some mind chatter that causes you some pain,  may cause you some guilt. Let it go kids. Let it go. Alfred's famous for saying: Go outside and look at a tree. Go find a flower. Kind of hard to do at this time of the year, I know. But open up your computer. On my wallpaper I have pictures of my California roses. Pretty spectacular folks I'm here to tell you. And I'll just turn it on on one of those dark gloomy days, and I'll just look at one of those flowers and I'll say: God and I grew this flower. Isn't this stunning? And I look at them every single day. Every day. And I realize how fortunate I am to even see the flower, let alone to appreciate it. So for many of you who are very lonely this particular time of year, who may not have a family to go to, I say to you: Remember something, you are not alone. You are so far from alone you can't even believe it. You have angels, guides, loved ones, old family members near, dear and close to you everyday. You are not alone. Alright Alfred, what do you have to add?

Alfred:

A lot of what we're saying may be new to a lot of people and it may seem a little overwhelming because we're very well rehearsed...

Hans:

We don't rehearse one show. What are you talking about?

Alfred:

We are very well "versed". Not us, but you... All of you...

Hans:

They can tell we don't rehearse.

Alfred:

Yes, we don't practice this. In having opinions, having judgments, having perceptions. Especially those of us who have held onto stuff for 10, 20, 30 years. Where do you start? And what we say is: You start at one moment at a time.

Hans:

With the intention...

Alfred:

With one perception at a time. Here's a good one. You're going to the relatives for the holidays or you're thinking about a relative, a particular relative and all of sudden this one particular relative reminds you of one particular time that causes you pain, anger, sadness. And you stop and you say: Okay, in this one particular instance where there was this one particular relative, let me just say: Hmm, where is this pain and sadness coming from? Ah, I have a perception at that time, regardless of how long ago it was, something was wrong that's causing me to be angry. And then just try it and say: Hmm, I choose, with this relative at that time, I choose that things happened for whatever reason I choose not to have an opinion or perception and I choose to let it go. And feel the difference.

Hans:

And that's the key right there Alfred. "Feel" the difference. They can actually feel it.

Alfred:

Yes. And see in that one instance, with that one relative see if you can feel the difference, see if you feel happier just because you let that one thing go. And that the practice that we're talking about is by letting go of one thing at a time, you become happier.

Hans:

Yes. There's a novel concept. Happy at the Holidays. And okay everyone, that will conclude the lesson for today. 

"Soul Mate Lovers" by Hans Christian King - Spiritual Radio Show transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Soul Mate Lovers

November 23, 2013

Alfred:

Hello everyone and welcome to “Guidance For Your Life”. Hi, this is Alfred the Padawan to the Modern Day Mystic Himself. Today's topic is: "Soul Mate Lovers". We're going to be covering different types of soul mates, particularly soul mate lovers but before we get to that, Hans Christian King and I are going to be talking about us. Some of our new members have been asking "What is a Padawan? And who is Alfred? We all know about Hans, since he's been around for well over 50 years, could you talk a little bit about yourself?" So that's been the subject of the emails we've been getting Hans.

Hans:

About 8 years ago I started a process of trying to find someone who I felt could represent my teachings. My basic spiritual teachings and understanding, and who had the type of sensitivity that would allow them to continue my work into the future. I took a long time in this as when you've been in a particular profession as long as I have been in this wonderful profession of mine, you begin to develop what you call "absolutes". Certain teachings from Spirit that are absolutely essential in others growth. And if you all remember the movie Star Wars...

Alfred:

One of Hans', oh what would you say Yoda is to you?

Hans:

He's a hero.

Alfred:

One of Hans' heroes is Yoda and I started looking into Star Wars a little bit more closely and there was a documentary... And come to find out Joseph Campbell lived near Skywalker Ranch. And then I found out Joseph Campbell was one of the best metaphysicans of his time. His teachings, such as The Force, were involved in Star Wars. So what I realized is that a Padawan, as per several definitions such as Wookiepedia or Star Wars Wikia, which I'm sure Hans has no...

Hans:

You really are serious, right?

Alfred:

He-he. Padawan, Padawan Learner, Jedi Apprentice, A Jedi In Training is referred to as a Force Sensitive Adolescent who has become a one-on-one apprentice with a Jedi Knight Master.

Hans:

Who am I, the Jedi Knight Master?

Alfred:

You actually are. 

Hans:

Ah...

Alfred:

So if we refer to Hans King as The Jedi Master, The Force is actually God and Spirit, and I'm learning from the Master himself, that makes me a Padawan.

(Hans chuckling in the background)

Hans:

Padawan.

Alfred:

Padawan Learner. 

Hans:

And this is actually a question from some of our listeners?

Alfred:

Yes. So there is quote about a Padawan... This is very cute...Qui-Gon who was the Jedi to Obi-Wan Kenobi, there's a quote here that says: "Be mindful of the living force my young Padawan" and if that doesn't ....

Hans:

That tells it right there.

Alfred:

That tells about our teachings. We talk about the Godforce. We talk about Spirit. We talk about vibration, universal energy. So for those of you who have watched Star Wars, you will see or hear a lot about Joseph Campbell's teachings in Star Wars.

Hans:

I think we've covered it.

Alfred:

So that is how I became the apprentice to Hans and that's why I refer to myself as the Padawan which is the apprentice to the Jedi Master.

Hans:

And hopefully, eventually Alfred you will have a Padawan that you teach to continue the teachings.

Alfred:

Well actually Mike wanted to know what he was. So he is currently referred to as a Youngling.

Hans:

Yes, he's a Youngling.

Alfred:

So Youngling is in the last series of Star Wars where there's the Jedi Academy. Actually I think it's Star Wars I and II when they went back in time and had the Jedi Academy. All the very young Jedi Apprentices who were not yet Padawans are referred to as Younglings.

Hans:

You do know we're going to get a lot of questions on this.

Alfred:

Go watch Star Wars.

Alfred:

It's all because Hans loves Yoda and the teachings...

Hans:

And I also love teaching. And when you find someone who can hear what you're attempting to say, you find someone who resonates with the teaching, who resonates with what you perceive the truth to be, then that person and you are dedicated to bring light into this world and to do the very best that you can to make certain that people can find their path. And that's what I've been blessed to do for 56 years now.

Alfred:

We actually had a couple of people over the years ask: "Is Hans taking on any additional Padawans or Apprentices"? And since then what we've come up with is Private Intensive Sessions and on-going counseling sessions. So we've taken Personal Readings to another level. We don't necessarily have Apprenticeship Teachings yet. But this is about as close as you can get where you can spend 2 days, 4 days or even an entire week with Hans and I. And that's under Personal Readings - Private Intensive Sessions - at hansking.com. So that's what we have so far so if someone else wants to become the Padawan to us then we'd be happy to talk to you about what's available.

Hans:

I think that this is a wonderful program. I see the difference in people's soul direction Alfred when they come away from these Intensives. It's really mind boggling. Alrighty Alfred, I believe today’s topic is "Soul Mates". Is that correct?

Alfred:

It is. Today's topic is "Soul Mates". This is probably one of our, if not the most requested topic, but the topic that we counsel most people on is relationships. There is a six hour course that we have on relationships, So when we talk about relationships on this show, usually we pick one specific topic of Sacred Relationships. There are many. And one of the major topics of Sacred Relationships, spiritually coordinated relationships, are soul mates. So without further ado, I present to you Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Good afternoon everyone. How nice to be back with you. Indeed today's topic is “Soul Mates”. I want to start with: What is a soul mate? A soul mate is someone who has been with you in lives, many of your lives, that you have grown comfortable with. That you have found a common train of thought, a common feeling, common goals. And so we tend to re-incarnate with these people. A soul mate is someone that you have worked with, been together with, over many, many lifetimes. Not only in this dimension, but the dimension that we come from and return to. So it's an ongoing trust, an ongoing understanding, an awareness of each others soul and the direction of that soul. Now, I'd like to say to you that soul mates come in several different varieties. Not to put too funny a point on it but for instance, there is such a thing as soul mate friends. What is a soul mate friend? Here we go again. A soul mate friend is someone that your soul has known before. You've worked with that person before. You know sometimes we're out about our daily life and all of a sudden we see someone or come in contact with somebody and we say to ourselves: Funny, don't I know that person? Or, I feel like I've known that person before. That of course would be a soul mate friend. And soul mate friends come into our life, throughout our lifetime, to be mirrors, growth partners for each other. Sometimes they stay in our lives, sometimes they go. There are all kinds of soul mates. But the ones I want to deal with today are soul mate friends, soul mate lovers and what is the difference between those two. You know folks, we can even have a soul mate in an animal. For instance a little dog or a little cat. This is very, very prevalent in society today. A soul mate friend again is someone that your soul recognizes; it witnesses. You often come across someone in your life where you say to yourself: Funny enough, I feel like I know that person. I don't remember them but why is it I feel so comfortable with that person? That person would be a soul mate friend. Someone that would be a mirror for you; you a mirror for them. Again, growth partners for each other. What is a soul mate lover? A soul mate lover, once again, is also a soul mate friend but it's slightly different. One of the things that I say to my clients is: When you meet someone, it's really important that you do not jump right into a physical relationship with that person. Because more times than not it fails. And the reason that it fails is because you're really soul mate friends, not soul mate lovers. Alfred, I'm sure you've been there. Alfred, can you tell the difference between the two? How would you tell the difference between the two?

Alfred:

It is extremely difficult to tell the difference between a soul mate friend and a soul mate lover which is why Hans and I recommend that if you're getting into a relationship and there is an immense attraction, to resist the urges that you might have to jump into bed. Because the universe is supporting the relationship and universal energy is much different. It is much lighter than human physical energy. And a lot of people, including myself after many years of learning from Hans, still have a difficult time understanding the different types of universal energy. Specifically the different types of energy that support different types of soul mate relationships. So, the first thing we say is: If you feel a magnetism towards somebody, don't take the risk of jumping into bed so fast...

Hans:

Oh, Heaven's no...

Alfred:

Take some time to find out, what is the purpose of this relationship? Who is this person to me? Get to know the person. Which you're going to want to do either way.

Hans:

Well you can go for coffee without having to jump in bed. Can you tell the difference between the two? Yes. Yes, you can. If, in the beginning you take the relationship one step at a time, you will slowly begin to get an understanding that there's less lust and more friendship. There's less need and more acceptance. When you find a true soul mate friend, there's nothing that can shake that. When you find a soul mate lover, there are many things that can get shaken up as we all know. What is a soul mate lover? Well first of all, again I repeat, a soul mate lover is also a soul mate friend. You know about the lover as you go along a little bit like Alfred would say: Not in a hurry. Don't be in a hurry to do anything. Just be there in the relationship with no expectations. Now this is a very difficult thing for many people to do. If you have a feeling for someone you can always say to your guides, your helpers, your angels if you will: I am available for the right action on this issue with this person. And you just open yourself up to the possibilities. Okay? The possibilities. A soul mate lover evolves out of a soul mate friendship. One is very helpful in leading to the other one. Now there are times people, there are times when you meet someone and BAM! you get hit like somebody threw a bottle of warm water on you. BOOM! And you go: What the heck just happened? Most of the time you've come across a soul mate lover from your history. What do you do with that? You be patient. You be still. You don't get yourself in a hurry and start making foolish mistakes. If you quietly know and accept that this may be your soul mate lover, it will evolve every time into what it is supposed to be. Why does a soul mate friend feel like a soul mate lover? Alfred, I'm going to let you walk with this one for me.

Alfred:

Because the universe supports the relationship. If I may go back just a little bit about why the universe would support a relationship... When you're on the other side and you're planning your life to come down, you make agreements with soul partners on the other side that say: You know what, I'm going to come down and support you in this way. I'm going to come down and support you in that way. And you come down in soul groups. Well, some soul mates are going to come down and say: You know what, we're just going to be friends. I'm going to support you with this lesson. I'm going to support you with that lesson. We're going to hang out and have some fun. That is a soul mate friend. And then you get some other soul mates that decide: You know what? Let's be in a relationship. For either just playing around or for having kids. And those are soul mate lovers. Either way there was an agreement made in the spirit before you were incarnated and born. And the universe, those on the other side, universal energy, spirits, guidance, everybody, however you want to refer to it, the Godforce, supports that relationship. So when you come together you are going to feel an energy that is supporting the relationship. You are going to feel a magnetism to get in touch with, to spend time with that person. Now of course the universe, in every way possible, does not give you the details. It's up to you to find out the details.

Hans:

You know somehow that doesn't seem fair.

Alfred:

I know it doesn't. But again we'll say: What is the purpose of taking a test if you know the answers? This is the school of Life. And as with everything to do with this life, it is about discovery, it is about character growth. So even in the terms of friendships you'll say: Yes, this is the direction you should go in, which also feels the same if it's your career or relationship, but the details of why you you should be going in that relationship are not included. So what you feel...

Hans:

It doesn't hardly seem fair does it?

Alfred:

But you'll become enlightened when you leave the body and go back to the other side and that's why it is so difficult. Because number one, you have decided to tell the universe to support you in the relationship. But by universal law they will not give you the details of anything. They will just say: You asked to go in this direction, it's up to you to go in that direction regardless of what part of your life that direction is. So that's why you will feel a magnetism, why you will feel an energy. But the details are left out.

Hans:

Absolutely Alfred. Absolutely. Everyone wants a soul mate lover. Does everyone get a soul mate lover? The answer is: Not always. Sometimes the relationship that you are going to be about will be about the relationship between you and yourself. Which is enormously important. Making yourself your own soul mate friend. Finding a place in your heart that says I am enough for me. I am enough for God. And becoming your own best friend is becoming a soul mate friend to yourself. It is my belief and in my teachings from Spirit, that one of the greatest soul mate relationships you will ever have is the one you develop with yourself. Because dear ones, no other person coming into your life will ever be greater to you than you. It is impossible. It is utterly impossible. So I say to everybody who is looking for a soul mate lover: First become your own best friend. So that you actually build a place within yourself to recognize your soul mate lover as they come in. I believe that soul mate friends are equally important as soul mate lovers. What do you think Alfred?

Alfred:

Absolutely. Soul mate friends are there for two reasons. One to have fun. Just go out and hang out and run around the world and experience life...

Hans:

And to hold your hand during difficult times.

Alfred:

To hold your hand during difficult times. And also to present you with your  lessons and to help make you a better person. So friends and lovers are there to present you with lessons and make you a better person. Soul mate lovers obviously are involved with you at a much deeper level. But something that Hans said was very, very important. And we want to try to make this as clear as possible is that: The better person you are, the more you let go of, the more you follow Hans' teachings and let go of things that don't serve you, the more you uncover who you truly are, the more you connect to the universe, the more you connect to guidance, the better able you will be to recognize a soul mate lover. This is very, very important.

Hans:

Yes it is.

Alfred:

If you're looking for a soul mate lover we tell you: Go within.

Hans:

Yes, absolutely. And that's the key Alfred.

Alfred:

It is the key because you're thinking: Okay, my soul mate lover is out there. And we say: No, think of it this way. The more you go within and let go of that which is not you, let go of things such as: Is something wrong? Let go of pain. Let go of trauma. Let go of these things. Let go of baggage. Let go of anger. Let go of those things that are not really you. And number one, you become a better partner. And number two, you're more able to connect with the universal energy and know when the universe is telling you that this is something or someone that you should pay attention to.

Hans:

And Alfred, the universe will tell us. They will start sending us clues and little newsflashes, if you will. That's always the case don't you find?

Alfred:

It is. And it's one of the topics that's coming up in a few weeks. And you'll notice the topics are going to be building upon each other during the next several weeks. For the next couple of weeks we're going to be talking about "letting go". And why that helps you receive guidance. How they helps you connect to the universe. How that helps you connect to those souls, those angels who are watching over you, helping you, guiding you on your life's path. And eventually guiding you to a soul mate lover.

Hans:

Very good, Alfred.

Alfred:

So pay attention to the next couple weeks.

Hans:

Pay attention. Keep a pad and a pen nearby so you can jot down these little newsflashes that Spirit sends to you. I would like to bring up a topic that I have not shared with Alfred as of yet. He'll find out about it today. Spirit and the Godforce are our soul mate friends. They are people who have agreed to be there for you, work with you, open doors for you, who hear your heart, who know where your sadness comes from, who knows where your doubts and your fears lie. And they add energy and love as soul mate friends to help open doors, to all of the possibilities in your life. So does everyone have a soul mate friend? Everyone has soul mate friends. Many soul mate friends. Again your guides, your helpers, your angels, all the people who've agreed from the other side to work with you - soul mate friends. And for many of you, you also have soul mate lovers who have passed back to the other side with you but did not come back this time. Now I want to stop for just a moment here. I want to talk about what happens when we lose a soul mate lover. Someone we have been with, someone who has been our friend. How do we cope with that? Many young people have not had that experience. When you get to be my age you've had that experience or most likely will have that experience. When you lose a soul mate lover, is love over for you in this lifetime? The answer is: Absolutely not. We have already programmed various people who agreed to come in who have been your soul mate lover before, who agreed to come in and take up a position in your life for the next part of your journey. So oftentimes, we lose one person and we pick up another.  But it is never to replace the love or the lover that we had. It is for the next experience of love. So can someone have several soul mate lovers in a lifetime? Absolutely. I've known individuals who have had three, four magnificent relationships but always physically survived them. But you must leave yourself open. Number one, Alfred what I have found, is that many of my clients, now I don't know but you can look and see what you clients feel about this, but I've found that many of my clients still ponder whether or not they're good enough to have a soul mate lover. Have you found that to be true?

Alfred:

And that is one of the most difficult lessons that Hans and I have found with our clients is that: Am I good enough? It is the path of an old soul to deal with more difficult lessons. And unfortunately a lot of old souls misinterpret this lesson as: Why is my life so difficult? Why am I getting bombarded? Maybe God just doesn't love me. Maybe I just deserve all this pain in my life. So self-esteem is a major issue with a lot of old souls. But that has absolutely nothing to do with whether or not you're going to have a soul mate lover in your life. Yes, okay you asked for difficult lessons. You're an old soul. That is the path of an old soul. Because you've done all the easy stuff already. If you're an old soul you've said: You know what I've done the easy stuff; let me get the hard stuff. But the fact that you're getting bombarded with difficult lessons and your lessons with self-esteem are two completely separate issues about whether you're going to be having soul mates, soul mate lovers, whether your guides love you and watch over you or not. Yes, absolutely you're going to have soul mates. But again let me come full circle. The more you work on yourself, the more you go within and do your spiritual work and get over yourself and get through your lessons the more available you will be. The better person you will be when that soul mate relationship arrives.

Hans:

And for many of you, who want a soul mate relationship, I hope you will listen to the teachings today. What we're trying to say to you is: Start with the Self. You've heard me often say: No one completes us. We are our own divine energy and representative of the Godforce. If you know, in your heart, that you're your best friend, then I guarantee you if you are to have a soul mate lover in your life, one will arrive. Again I point out: How does one recognize a soul mate lover? It simply occurs. There's no effort to it. It's just gentle. It's like being hit with that wet noodle again but knowing that it feels safe. Finding common goals, getting to know each other. This I think Alfred is the key, is the getting to know one another don't you think?

Alfred:

It is. And we really go into a lot of details about the different types of soul mate relationships there are including siblings, parents, relatives, not only just friends and lovers. 

Hans:

And our little pets.

Alfred:

Our little pets...

Hans:

Which is where I'm going shortly...

Alfred:

Yes... And we go into the reasons why there are these soul mate relationships and how do you get along with these soul mate relationships in the much more detailed Sacred Relationships Class that we have in the Store at hansking.com.

Hans:

How does one get to see that class?

Alfred:

Well if you go to hansking.com and under Store, then you can look under Audio Classes or Video Classes. That is one of our much longer lessons. As we were trying to say, we do our best to give away as much stuff as we can for free, including this weekly radio show, but we only have a limited amount of time. The Sacred Relationships Class goes into much more detail about this topic. It's 6 hours and even available in Video so we can take you into our living room.

Hans:

This is fun!

Alfred:

It is...

Hans:

You can meet Bella everyone.

Alfred:

And you can go into the Store and take a look at that. And we also have some other recordings about relationships. Some other audio lessons that are shorter and more available. Again that's on the Store on hansking.com.

Hans:

So many of you ask me, through your emails: Can I have a soul mate animal? Yes, you certainly can. There are many of you out there today and there's many of us here, because both Alfred and I have had these, where you know that the little animal, no matter what it is, a kitty, dog, bird, goldfish, whatever. You and they have a special bonding. I have a friend of mine that I spoke to the other day and he has just lost his cat. And he had been with that cat and they slept in the same room together, ate breakfast together, had a great life together for 23 years. And his kitty passed away. I didn't see him this upset when his mother passed away. What is it that these little soul mate creatures give us? They give us unconditional love my friends. They give us something that life in general may not give us as much as we would like. Soul mate friendship - unconditional love. No expectations, but love offered and received. So yes, we can have soul mate friends as animals. We also have soul mate friends as parents, as Alfred brought up sisters, brothers. You may find one particular sibling that you just resonate more with than with other member of your family. That would be an old soul mate friend. So we call these groups that incarnate together, in soul groups, as Light Families. They come in together, they work together, they're mirrors and growth partners for each other. That's why we tend to repeat the family structure in our re-incarnations. But yes, someone can have a soul mate lover who passes that is brought in to be with them for another relationship. I've known people to have three and four of these in a lifetime of say 80, 85 years. The most important thing again I point out to all of you is to recognize the divine soul mate within yourself. I think this one thing is more important than any other thing you can do to guide you towards the inevitability of your soul mate relationship.

Alfred:

That pretty much sums it up.

Hans:

(Laughing) I just gave Alfred, what is it a "deer in the headlights" routine?

Alfred:

That pretty much sums it up. If you're looking for a soul mate to fix you, no. No, you fix you and make yourself available for that soul mate relationship, for that soul mate lover. Don't look for somebody to fix you. You need to have the intention to fix yourself first. Yes, they will present you with lessons. Yes, they will help you along you path. But you need to start the process first.

"Are Mistakes Good For Us?" by Hans Christian King - Spiritual Radio Show transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show 

with Hans Christian King  www.HansKing.com 

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com 

Topic: Are Mistakes Good For Us

November 16, 2013

Alfred:

Hello everyone and welcome to Guidance For Your Life. We're broadcasting out of AM 880 ”The Revolution” in Asheville, North Carolina where it's been a bit chilly for the last week.

Hans:

I think that's a good way to put it. Hi everybody, it's Hans. I think it was 21 the other morning and for those of you who don't know a lot about Alfred, I'd like to tell you that he's allergic to cold. Aren't you allergic to cold Alfred?

Alfred:

This is a wonderful lesson that there's nothing wrong if it's cold outside and that is the lesson for today. Is there nothing wrong? Are Mistakes Good for Us? And without further ado to elaborate on this topic, I present to you The Modern Day Mystic Himself - Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Good afternoon everybody. You know what if, just everybody think about this for a minute, what if nothing is really wrong? Now everybody listen to your mind chatter as it busies itself telling you, Oh no, it's wrong because this is happening, and that's happening, and something else is happening. But what if nothing is wrong? What if was only our perception of what is going on? What if that's all it is? Somebody asked me awhile back: Are mistakes good for us? Well first of all there are no mistakes and if there were yes, they would be. First time out anything that you come up against is a lesson, right? And you hope you learn from that lesson. You can only make a mistake if you do it again. So basically, there are no mistakes. As the appearance of adversity comes to visit us from time to time in our life and we busy ourself  trying to understand why and rather than learn the lesson we wind up becoming guilty, or we wind up saying to ourselves: I wonder why I deserve that. But mistakes, if you want to use that word, I would say to you: Mistakes are periods of growth. For instance you could say: I wonder what's in this for me this time? Well I guarantee you one thing, I won't do that again. That's a growth. A mistake, to me, is something you keep doing over and over and over again on the same subject. As if you're trying to get apple juice out of a basket of oranges.

Alfred:

Oh what's the saying? "Insanity is doing the same thing and hoping for a different result?"

Hans:

Exactly. Exactly. And so if you know that what you are doing doesn't work but you keep trying to make it work, i.e. a job position, i.e. a relationship.... That's an interesting thing Alfred. I want to stop for a minute and go to relationships and mistakes.

Alfred:

Awh, relationships.

Hans:

Yes. Relationships and mistakes...

Alfred:

One of our "hot topics".

Hans:

It is indeed. Have you ever noticed folks that we keep drawing to us the same relationships over and over and over again? Whether they're friends, lovers... We just keep doing the same thing and a lot of people keep drawing to them "the needy people". Alfred, have you ever been in that place?

Alfred:

Yes because unknowingly that's who we attract. That's who we're looking for is to "save someone"....

Hans:

So we're looking to "fix someone". Or have you ever noticed Alfred that sometimes people put themselves out there to be rescued?

Alfred:

That aren't available to be rescued.

Hans:

That aren't available to be rescued. So they keep wanting to be rescued. I said this on Jeff Messer's show the other day: No one completes us folks. We already are. We already are perfect for the Great Spirit or God if you will. We are perfect for the Spirit. It's how we judge ourself. That's where we make a "mistake". Is that we have a tendency to become a victim of our own thinking. A victim of our own process. Some years ago, and I had to do a large crowd, there was about 1400 to 1600 people in the audience and I said to the audience: Can anybody in this room tell me what's going on in their life that they did not create? Nobody raised their hand. Now, even illness, even illness is often created through emotion. If you are depressed, if you're feeling low, if you're not taking care of yourself, i.e., you're eating foods that you know are not good for you or you're smoking too much or you're drinking too much... All of these will eventually cause  a health problem. But one of the biggest contributors to well-being is your emotional conduct. Are you a happy person? Are you a sad person? Okay? You have to look, sometimes. I can't tell you how many times I've had someone say to me Alfred: You know I went to the doctor and they told me there's absolutely nothing wrong; they can find nothing. Yet I feel terrible. I have to get a new doctor. It's almost as though they may be wrong. Because they really don't want to look at the fact that there may not be anything wrong and what may actually be going on is that they're depressing themselves and making themselves sick. Opening yourself up to: What if nothing is really wrong is a concept that many people have a hard time in coping with. You remember that lesson for you Alfred?

Alfred:

Absolutely. It's because so many things seem very obvious that they're wrong. But what we're trying to tell you in this lesson is: It's not whether something is obviously wrong or something in the world could be made better. This issue is that you have a perception or an opinion, in your mind that something is wrong. And that is the underlying issue. That is what causes you pain. And a lot of the lessons that we go through are to get you out of pain, into joy, into bliss, into happiness. To go within and find those things that are taking you away from your natural state of peace and one of those things that take you away from that are, if you have a perception or opinion something out there is wrong.

Hans:

And folks I have to say to you that this is a very, very difficult lesson in trying to learn it. Alfred and I talked about this before we brought it to you. A lot of people, especially during these appearance of difficult times, and actually they were difficult times, but everyone at some point has lost something. It's the appearance of the loss. We never really own a house, we never really own a car. We're learnt those things, we never get to keep anything. Someone said to me once many years ago when they saw my other property here in Asheville and they said: You must be so happy to be able to own a stream and trees. And I said: Own? You can't own a tree. You can't own a stream. I'm a caretaker and when I pass on someone else will take care of those trees and take care of that stream and someone after them. You don't own anything, okay? So what makes us think they're mistakes? I think, the appearance of mistakes are little nuggets of growth, little nuggets of lessons. The most important thing everyone needs to hear is: The greatest gift is to learn the importance of intention. This again is what the Spirit looks at. They look at the intention. Alright Alfred, on intention how did you deal with learning that lesson? I love to put him on the spot here.

Alfred:

He loves to embarrass me.

Hans:

He says...What is it you say "deer in the headlights syndrome"? 

Alfred:

Oh, it even gets better during the Live Classes or especially when there's 200 people in the audience. He'll peer over and just mention some embarrassing story about when I was first groveling in order to become the Padawan and learn from....

Hans:

Let me tell you something son, you never groveled, okay? What you were was opinionated but you never groveled.

Alfred:

I had opinions.

Hans:

Oh my goodness, you're middle name is "opinion", not Dominic.

Alfred:

So if you ever get to attend a live event I'm sure Hans will elaborate further on these wonderful stories.

Hans:

 Have you ever noticed that our audiences laugh a lot when we do the live presentations? They just can't believe.... One person about two years ago stood up during a Question and Answer period and said: I just want to know one thing. And I said: Yes? And she said: Do you two rehearse this?  Everybody broke out laughing. No, it's just the way we are. I like to bring as much humor to the teachings as possible because I believe that so many teachers get so very staid and drawn in and tight and they're sort of forcing this thing on you. I believe that life is about fun as well. And I think you can take any lesson, it doesn't matter what the lesson is, and turn it into real growth for yourself but you can also have fun learning. And one of the things that I like to teach everybody, what Spirit talks about with me is, please don't take your life so seriously. You're not going to get to keep it. Stop being so serious. Start finding some humor. That's the key is finding some humor. So what I like to do is when we do our workshops and our classes, no matter where it is, here or in Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York, it doesn't matter, is to pick on Alfred.

Alfred:

To use the Padawan as the Voodoo Doll...

Hans:

To pick on Alfred, this is the most fun I have because it's that "deer in the headlights" because during the classes Alfred has to stay in touch with the email questions that are coming in, he's very busy...

Alfred:

Don't let him fool you he just enjoys picking on me. To get me back from the early days.

Hans:

Yes. I really, really do.

Alfred:

Let's get the truth out here. I tortured poor Hans for the first couple years until I let go.

Hans:

Actually 3 1/2 years.

Alfred:

It was not that long.

Hans:

Yes it was. I lived it. I lived it.

Alfred:

No, I don't seem to remember that long..

Hans:

Of course not because you're perfect.

Alfred:

I am...Well...

Hans:

Someone, somewhere has made the mistake of saying to Alfred, our pal over here...

Alfred:

That was Jeff Messer by the way...

Hans:

That he has a "golden voice" and so he's having a plaque put on the door of his office  saying "The Golden Voice One". So just to let you know that things around here are a little comical too.

Alfred:

Well everyone is born with unique gifts that are innate to them by their _______.

Hans:

I'm still looking for yours. I'm still looking for them.

Alfred:

My dharma or my unique gifts?

Hans:

Your unique gifts.

Alfred:

And everybody has unique gifts according to their life path.

Hans:

That's correct. Everyone does.

Alfred:

It's not just me. It's not just Hans. Everybody does. But it's through these teachings, getting back to being serious here, through these teachings we help you find your unique gifts by uncovering who you really are.

Hans:

You know you're so important, each and everyone of you to God...You're so important that there's not another "you", every has been, is now, or ever will be. So your uniqueness belongs to you, you know? And for instance, I had a client today, was doing a Skype reading from Bogota, Columbia and this person's perception was that they'd lost their father. And one of the things that I explained to him was that his father is doing just fine. See what we want to know when our loved ones pass over, when they pass away is did the consciousness of the individual survive. And when the father came back through the reading and spoke to the son and gave a certain amount of clues, there was no longer a doubt in this person's mind that the consciousness, therefore the person that he loved was still in existence somewhere. He didn't quite understand the Other Side. He said: I'm not certain how this works. But he said: You couldn't have known these things so there must be something going on. It's really important to remember that the father's uniqueness is loved as much as the reader's uniqueness, his son is. So we all have a wonderful gift called the Godforce which flows through each and everyone of us. We have that. But there are times in our life based on the way we are brought up, we actually grow our children away from who they are. I'm going to repeat that. We actually grow our children away from who they really are. Because in our love to take care of our children we know what is best for them. And basically that isn't true. We need to learn to grow our children into who they are, not what we perceive they need so they can be safe and get through life. So many people that I know today, if I say this question to them, if I ask this question to them, I say: So who were you going to be before who you became now? And what were you going to do before you started doing what you do now? And almost every person can tell me what they'd rather be doing. And for me, my friends, that's a heartache.

Alfred:

I actually have a client like that right now. His name is Elaine and he's actually in Italy. He's Italian. Born there. And this was exactly it, from a childhood he knew he wanted to be out in nature. And he had this job and that job and everything drove him crazy but he just had this yearning to be out in nature. And finally as an adult he got out there and he says: I don't understand. Why am I so happy being outside? And he discussed with me his childhood of... You know, I knew what I wanted when I was a child but there's all this peer pressure. My family tells  me this. My friends tell me I have to do that. I have to be responsible. But the only thing that makes me happy is being outside. And I think that's simply it people, is you have your answers except we grow away from them.

Hans:

We are grown away from them Alfred. We actually don't grow away from them. We are grown away from them. If you leave a child to their own personal growth, you'd be amazed as to what happens. Okay? So does it matter, for instance if someone says we did something wrong? Alfred, do you think that matters?

Alfred:

Absolutely not and let me try to paraphrase your teachings Hans. Which is: What somebody says about you is none of your business...

Hans:

That's right.

Alfred:

But what you think about what someone says about you absolutely is.

Hans:

Should be very much your concern actually.

Alfred:

Because that means you have an opinion of what they said.

Hans:

And you have a judgment of yourself because they said something. If someone says to you: You're lazy. Or someone says to you: You're not living up to my expectations. Quite frankly children that has nothing to do with you. That's not your problem. That's their problem being visited on you. And under no spiritual law do you need to react to that. None. Man made the rules; God made the laws. And nowhere in God's law does it say: You are less than anyone else. That wouldn't be God-like would it? That wouldn't be possible is it? Okay? So if something goes astray Alfred in our life, what do you think are the possibilities in growth for this? See I'm still working on Alfred...

Alfred:

Yes. That is the joy of being the Padawan of The Modern Day Mystic Himself is you constantly get lessons thrown at you. But luckily now it's the both of us who throw lessons at everyone else. So you get both of us. So something goes astray. Well here's a possibility. And we talk a lot about possibilities because in the Universe there are infinite possibilities. But how about the possibility that what you consider a mistake is simply a perception, is simply your personal opinion. How do you know if it was a mistake? How do know if it wasn't supposed to go that way? How do you know if it wasn't supposed to happen in the first place? How do you know if it not happening, or it happening a different way is actually the best thing for you? What was that quote from that country song you have Hans? About "unanswered prayers"?

Hans:

"Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers." Garth Brooks. Boy is that ever true.

Alfred:

If something goes astray, first of all there's the first issue is you perceive it went astray. Well how about you were getting yourself into a pile of do-do and your Guidance came along and said: Let's yank them away from that. You perceive it didn't work. You perceive it failed. When in reality maybe the Other Side saved your beans.

Hans:

Sometimes the Spirit, more times than not, rushes in to save our beans because left on our own, with our own consciousness we can get ourselves into more dog-on problems and in more dog-on troubles. You know, even as a child we know right from wrong. Even as a child. We know to hit someone is wrong. What is the one thing we always want as a child? A hug. We know whence commeth our strength.  And everyday Spirit has enormous arms and they reach out to you and they say: Please don't believe what your mind chatter is saying to you. Here, come here, we'll give you a hug, let's re-think this path that you're on. And so your job is everyday to say: You know what? I'm going to listen to the Spirit not to this silly mind consciousness of mine. I remember back in the day when Alfred was sort of new at some of this and he would look at me and say: I don't know what in your head rocks, I think, because this can't possibly work. And so I said: Okay, why don't we try something? He'd say... Well, try it. Remember that Alfred?

Alfred:

Yes and that's one thing that we'll repeat time and time again is we'll present a lesson and you may think we're just right off our rockers. And all we tell you is: Look, you probably know how your life works. You know you. You've been with you your whole life. We're giving you options. We're giving you possibilities to say: Hey if you're looking for something else, if you're a seeker, if you're saying: Okay, I'm willing to try something, try it. What is the worst thing that's going to happen? You can go back to the way that you were. 

Hans:

You know, my friends, if you can pull yourself away from: I made a mistake, which is coupled with: I may not be good enough, if you can pull yourself away from that for a moment and say: I'm really glad that happened because I've learned from that. I get it. I deserve better than that. So there are no mistakes. There are just opportunities for growth. And I think that's the way I'd like to put that  today Alfred, is that the perceptions of mistakes are the opportunities for growth.

Alfred:

And that's another way to look at mistakes. Because a mistake has a negative connotation. It's mind chatter. It's heavy. It is self punishing and what we're saying here, this lesson, is by simply changing your perception, simply changing your definition of what happened. You can either say: Well it was no mistake, I don't fully understand it. Or you can say: Wow, I really learned a lot from that. Those have positive connotations. Positive energy.

Hans:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

And you're not carrying around something negative and you can do that by simply changing your perception.

Hans:

I think what I would really like everyone to take away from this today is that your whole life from the day you're born is about possibilities. The incredible possibility of you. The incredible possibility of no fear. The possibility that God may love you more than you have any idea of. The possibility that you're just fine. That there's nothing more you need to do to be a better you. The possibility that God loves you just the way you are. The possibility that there's a door to abundance, prosperity, love, relationships - it's all there for you, all of it. It's only what we perceive of it that gets in our way. So once you begin to know that, once you begin to understand that and actually hear that truth, everything in your life begins to change. Everything. So this is a wonderful opportunity today for you to look at yourself and say: Am I the person I really want to be? Am I the person that I love the most? How am I with my god? Am I where I wanted to be? Or have I let a series of conditions interfere with my dreams and my joy and my wishes? Alright Alfred, anything that you would like to add to our subject today before we go to questions? And I do notice there are a lot of questions today.

Alfred:

Just something I'd like our old and new people to recognize is: A lot of what we're asking you to do in terms of spiritual growth, life growth, paths to leading a life of happiness, of joy, is by simply changing your perception. What we're doing on this show is going through many different specific areas and saying, in this specific area, such as mistakes, how about just trying to change your perception? And in the end by trying to change your perception, you can be more peaceful, you can be more happy, you can be more in touch with the Universe, more who you really are.