“The Pain of Lost Expectations” Rebroadcast from October 2014 - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“The Pain of Lost Expectations” Rebroadcast from October 2014 

- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: The Pain of Lost Expectations

June 6, 2015

HANS:

Hello everyone. Welcome to the show. Today's topic is "The Pain of Lost Expectations." You know folks, throughout my lifetime in service, there is one recurring theme that is extremely painful for a lot of people. If you listen, everyone, to the questions that people send in, there sort of is a theme. Now what is that theme?  A lost expectation. 

How do we get to lost expectations? In our humanness, we, from time to time, have a strong feeling in our heart or in our mind that we should know this person or we should move to this place or we should be doing this kind of a job or we should be doing this service work of some kind... And oftentimes, the expectation isn't met.

Let's go to relationships, folks. A lot of people will say to me: But Hans I knew it in my heart. Let's talk about the gals first, then we'll talk about the guys. Gals, a lot of times you see somebody, and there's this tug that comes in the chest and you just feel that you know this person, you just feel you want to have something to do with this person, even perhaps become lovers and partners. And this is very strong, and this is POW! It just hits you so hard. But nothing happens. And the person is very nice to you. They talk to you about their partner or what they're doing, but you don't see a lean in towards a relationship. 

What is happened there is, most likely, you have met someone from a previous lifetime. So it isn't just the mind and the heart, the soul recognizes that person. And when the soul recognizes that person, it hones right in, and says: Oh, there's my old friend; Oh, there's my old husband, my old wife... Okay? But what you're doing is, what you've heard me refer to before as "soul crossing." Where you just go by each other to say hello and to be remembered. 

But the humaneness of you sets an expectation. And when the humanness of you sets an expectation, because you believe, you tell God you would like a response to your expectation. Even if God, the Spirit, is trying to say to you: Just passing by. You don't want to hear that, you don't want to know that, you don't want to project into this. Because you "know," because you have this "feeling." So this feeling of "I know that person and I know I'm going to be with that person"... A lot of the times comes out of a need to be loved. It comes out of a need to be "seen," a need to be "accepted," a need to be someone's "everything." Even though it isn't to be, for you. 

I cannot tell you how many people Spirit and I counsel a week just listening to people talk about they know that this person is to be in their life. And sometimes, no matter what I say, no matter what I do, they don't want to hear it. You might check around yourself, see if there's some things in here that you might be holding onto with expectations that you may want to say: Is this causing me pain? 

Alfred, what do you say on this? I always like to bring Alfred in when it's like a deer in the headlight moment...

ALFRED:

Expectations are a very difficult spiritual lesson. Yet this lesson can have really profound results...

HANS:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

… in terms of your peace and happiness. Expectation is the mind's view of what should happen, the outcome, in the future. So what you're looking at is getting your humanness, your mind chatter involved as to what it thinks the future should be. Spirituality as we all know is surrendering the future, being in the moment, and letting go of those things that we desire, or our mind chatter tells us we “should” have. And that's where we get ourselves in trouble is when our mind sets us up to expect something in our life and it doesn't happen. The mind has a really hard time understanding: Well, why didn't this happen?

HANS:

Exactly. And oftentimes Alfred, I'm sure you've found, like I have, that the mind often blames the Spirit or blames God. Why didn't God do this for me? Why didn't God give me this? This is what I wanted. I knew it would happen. And we kind of get ourself into a belief trauma as well.

ALFRED:

Yes, and a lot of spirituality is about surrendering. It's about being peaceful and happy in the moment, about being grateful for what you have, realizing that your glass is half full. Having an expectation is that my glass is going to be completely full, or it's going to be more full than it already is. The opposite is: No, I'm peaceful and grateful where I am in the moment.

HANS:

Very good, thank you Alfred. That's the key right there - being peaceful in the moment. Not setting an expectation. Folks, do you think the Spirit doesn't know what's in your heart? Do you think They don't know your longing, your needs, your desires? Of course They do. But They also know your plan. They have a carbon copy of your dharma. They know where you're supposed to be and who you're supposed to be with. But in the game of life, as we see it, people come by us, who we recognize and we think: Oh, there's my soul mate.

Now let's go away from relationships for a minute and let's go to expectations regarding things that you would like to have in your life - a new house, a new car, a new job... Let's go to job. A lot of times we set our expectations for a new position. If we don't have a job, we set our expectations for a job. But when we do that, we also fantasize into it about how it needs to look so we can be okay with it. Rather than say: I'm available for that perfect job that is for me at this time. Not tomorrow, not next week, at this time. Thank you for bringing the doors for this to me.

We set our statement, and then we add all of these little subtleties to it. And before you know it, what was just getting you a maintenance job for the moment, has turned into this life-long dream of yours to be this or to do that. So, lost expectations come about when we set them. So the expectation happens when we say... Rather than say: I would like the feeling and I would like the awareness of this particular thing... and I would enjoy seeing how this might be in my life and letting it go... and I would say: to my highest good always. 

So They get it. They hear where you're coming from. You're not saying you're going to be less than if it doesn't happen. You're already enough as you are right now. You don't need anything whatsoever. You might like the experience of something. And as Alfred would throw in: And here's how I would like to feel in the experience. That's how you set, what we call today, expectations. Where we don't say: And I want it to show up this way, and I need for this person to love me, and I need this particular job... and all these things that we do in our humanness. They're roadblocks. Somebody wrote, Alfred, I don't know who, but they said: "Expectations are limitations." You remember that?

ALFRED:

Expectations are a limitation because it is something that your mind chatter created. It's part of ego, maybe it's something that you saw on television, maybe it's something that your parents told you you deserved, maybe you're trying to live up to the Jones or your friends, and unknowingly you set an expectation of "this is what I want in my life" and it becomes a limitation because everything else that comes across that doesn't look like what your mind is telling you you should have, is now instantly dismissed. However, how do you know what is being presented to you isn't for your highest good? A person that may not meet all of your items on your list may be your soul mate.

HANS:

Yes.

ALFRED:

However, you have an expectation written down in your list of what your soul mate should look like and the Other Side presents you with your soul mate and you dismiss that person. So having an expectation, having an opinion, a judgment of what should be in your life and what it should look like, is an absolute limitation because then you are dismissing, without even a consideration, those things that Spirit presents to you.

HANS:

Folks, sometimes when we set our agenda, we sort of say to Spirit, taking off on what Alfred was just talking about: And this is how I want it to look, and this is how I want it to arrive. If you have perfect faith, if you believe, then you tell the Spirit what you would like the experience of and that's it... and how you would like to feel. Those two things. I think two-thirds of all the questions that come into this Radio Show are from lost expectations. If you go back and you listen to all the Shows... My gosh Alfred, how many shows have we done now? Quite a few...

Alfred:

Four years... about four years.

HANS:

Well that's almost 200 shows. And many of you are the ones who are in the pain of the lost expectation. Folks, I'm not saying it isn't painful. But what you don't realize is why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you put yourself in that position? And I hear people say all the time: Oh, I knew that they were for me. I knew it. It's their fault. They're not living up to what they're supposed to do. And very rarely, but it does happen, that's true. But Spirit always has a contingency for a contingency for every contingency.

So if you're supposed to be loved at a certain level, you will be. It may not be by this person. But they bring another person in and you'll say: Oh, I'm so glad that I didn't get first person because this person really works wonderfully for me. Letting go of expectations regarding parents... This is the tough one folks. When you let go of the pain and the expectations of the parents, your life gets so much easier. Does it not, Alfred?

ALFRED:

It really does because then you stop putting energy towards something that might happen in the future. That's number one is you think that thing in the future will actually fix you. If this happens, then I'll be happier, if this person comes into my life, I'll be better. And the reality is, by letting go of anything that has to do with the future, the past, as we all know also, helps you become more peaceful and happy and blissful and joyful in the moment. Expectations are a reflection of what's happened in our past and projects us out into our future which takes us away from being grateful in the moment. So again, it's a huge step towards your spiritual growth to let go of expectations in order for you to be grateful and peaceful in the moment.

HANS:

Folks, many of you run on a time constraint. Oh, I'm getting old... oh, if I get much older I can't have children... will she still want me when I get to be 50? We run under this fear umbrella of we're running out of time. Folks, there is no time. Oftentimes when the Spirit speaks to you, They say something, They're saying that person will be in your life, probably coming up next lifetime. Not always this one. So letting yourself simply learn to "be" with “no expectations.” I'm here in this moment, this is the experience I would like to have, I give it to you to do for me to my highest good, and bring those doors to me. Then you're saying: I trust you. I know that this pain in my heart really is self induced. 

And one thing in lost expectations, children, never, ever, ever, become a victim or make the other person a villain. I know clients who have made other people villains in their life only because they didn't live up to this person or that person's expectation of how that person would be. So they pre-set the expectation of how it had to be. But the other person wasn't at that spot. But that doesn't make any difference. Because these people say: Oh, but I knew it was for me, there was no doubt it was for me, and I'm coming to stick this out.

One of the biggest things that people do is when they fall in love with married people, or committed people. I know she's for me... I know he's for me... and I know they're going to leave that person... and I know they're going to be with me. What you are picking up is your experience of that person from a previous lifetime and you get confused about this. If a person is in a relationship, you need to honor that and walk away - period. Under almost any circumstance. If that relationship is to be, it will show up somewhere down the road with you having absolutely no expectations and nothing to do with it. Okay?

Now, as you go through your life, there are going to be moments when you see someone or something you would really, really like the experience of. Sit down, be quiet, and say to Spirit: I don't know if this situation or this person is for me. But I am available if they are. I'm available to my highest good. Please show me where I need to be with this issue and drop it. Make yourself, of course, available in your heart. But have no expectation of how it has to happen, how it has to show up. 

I know a person, a couple of months ago, who met a person on an airplane. And they struck up a conversation and he was a married person and this girl felt she knew him and she started running all the fantasies and what have you... She drove herself to the point where she had to go to the hospital in a panic attack because he had not called her, when he never said he would. But she knew it, in her heart, that he was going to call. This is what I'm talking about when we disturb our peace, when we disturb our ease. Okay? 

So having a quiet awareness that where you... Folks, why do you think Alfred and I talk so much about being in the now? Making this moment right now all there is. I am enough. Why do you think we do that? Because it's only the mind that brings attachments to the peace. The heart doesn't have to. Only the mind disturbs the peace. The heart never does. So when we learn: Oh, I got to feel something, isn't that wonderful, I'm still alive...

The other day Alfred and I were walking somewhere and the wind was whistling and Alfred's dressed up looking like a polar bear, you can't even see his face with the hoodie he's got on, and I'm in a T-shirt. And he said something and I said under my breath: Yes, but at least I have feelings. I can feel it. Isn't that wonderful? Feeling the cold wind on your face, feeling the Caribbean sand in your feet, feeling a smile on your face when you see a puppy... Those are the things folks, that are important.

So the greatest gift you give yourself is to stop expectations and replace them with a knowing and an understanding that Spirit is here for you. They know what is supposed to be for you. Let Them do their work and many times their work does not show up in your expectation. Alfred, what did Mick Jagger say in that song? You don't always get what you want...

ALFRED:

… but if you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need.

HANS:

There is a metaphysical statement if ever there was one. So where you already are, right now folks, is perfect. Have you ever noticed everyone that no matter how bad things seem to get, somehow you always get through? No matter how broke you are, no matter how poor you may be in a moment, somehow, something happens and you get through? Have you ever noticed that when you've had a relationship you think it's your end-all, be-all, and this person says: I'm sorry it doesn't work for me. Your heart is broken, it's shattered and on the floor. A year later you wonder what you ever saw in the person because you're with somebody else. 

Just being peaceful, in the moment, will bring to you all the lessons you need to learn. So less expectations is less pain. Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.


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“Online Social Life”- by Hans Christian King

“Online Social Life”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Online Social Life

May 24, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody. Today's topic is "Online Social Life.” This is a question that my friend Dan has asked me quite a few times... and I've kind of avoided it and I know I shouldn't have done that. Because Spirit is ready to address anything. 

But, folks there's a huge amount of people... many of them very young people coming into this world who actually believe that life originates out of the computer screen. Now hear me through, don't get made at me... they do. And they move all of their life - hopes, desires, problems, personal satisfactions out of the computer screen.  And they're beginning to believe that's what life is.

I can remember a time when I had to pull Alfred up short because everywhere we went he brought his iPhone and every time we sat down he was taking emails and sending texts. And I had to say to him: Wait a minute. That's not life. He said to me: What do you mean? I said: No, no, no. That's what you do, that's not your life. And he wanted to argue with me... and then he began to see how dependent he had become.

Alfred, throw something in with this will me will you?

ALFRED:

Business online is a wonderful tool. It really helps you communicate with others. But, of course, what we're talking about here is spiritually speaking... Are you looking for a social life or even meaning online? Could looking for meaning or social life online lead to happiness or could it lead to depression?

HANS:

Exactly, Alfred. And that, Alfred, is one of my main concerns. We have an awful lot of lonely youngsters, teenage children, young adults, who... for whatever their situation is at home are longing for some companionship, for someone to see them, for someone to understand who they are and where they are and what their frustrations are. And they believe they can get that through the computer. But mostly, Alfred, somebody will sell something to these people.

And so one of my pet peeves is that we don't steer our children back out into society at an early age through games, or through fun classes, theater, music, all kinds of stuff that are out there for youngsters today. We don't do that. We keep babysitting them with the computer. And what you're doing is destroying the childrens ability to form natural relationships. The relationships like I had, Alfred had, my parents, his parents, all of your parents out there. 

We did not have the computer to tell us who we were and who we could become if you believe the computer. All the computer is there to do is deliver information. And much of it, when you are searching, has to do with buying something. So what I'm trying to get across to people is it may be time to look at the way we hold value in our children. Because so many kids are so very lonely. They come from, perhaps broken homes, their parents may not be able to see who they are.

And there is this quiet frustration and anger. And may I say folks - suicide. If you can believe that. Suicide from youngsters who feel so alone. They feel there's absolutely no hope. Nobody will every hear them. Nobody will ever see them. But we do have organizations that help these children. We do have groups... even Government money has been thrown into trying to help people to see there's life outside of the computer.

Now about 2 years ago, I think it was, Alfred, maybe 3 years ago, I was blessed to be able to be Keynote Speaker at Agape's Revelation... where we're going next week. But one of my joys was I got to speak to the Young People's Group. And they were just the same as any other kids. They were blown away. They finally got to see what I do and one kid said: Oh, I used to do that when I was a kid. How do you get back and do that? They're involved in programs with each other. They were learning how to communicate with each other. And my heart just soared. It was a big hit. 

And as we go down life's path I want to do more of those. Helping people to understand, helping these kids to understand that they are somebody. Not waiting to become somebody... that they already are. And I want the kids out there to know, that however you perceive God to be, it does not love anyone more than you. You are the reflection of God in human form.

Alfred, when did you come across that awareness for yourself?

ALFRED:

Really when I sold a phone and didn't have a phone for a month. (Alfred chuckling)

HANS:

Oh, I remember that. I was a little worried for you honestly. (Hans chuckling)

ALFRED:

Yes. I actually went through withdrawals. I actually forced myself, on purpose, to sell my phone early and knowing I was going to wait for a new phone to really wean myself off of it that I realized how addicted I was. And that was something I really didn't even realize is that people are searching for meaning, people are searching for something online.

And Hans, what's your opinion of "are online relationships as satisfying as real relationships?"

HANS:

Oh, absolutely not. No, no, no, no. You have to develop, Alfred, a relationship by being "with" someone. Even if its going for a coffee or the two of you sitting on the beach watching seagulls walk by. That's how you develop a relationship. You do not develop a relationship electronically. I don't care what any scientist out there tells me. You will not have the same impact on your life from a computer generated relationship as you will from a personal related person... a person who is relating to you, a person who can see you, a person who gives you actual hugs... a somebody who kisses you on the forehead and says: I see your value. I get who you are. I really like being with you.

You can't get that on a computer, Alfred. And where my fear comes is that no matter how many of these computers are going to be around, for a long time, in the end it will always boil down to the need for human companionship - always.

ALFRED:

And that's what I see as the major issue is people are trying to "replace" human contact with things like posts and tweets. 

HANS:

Yes.

ALFRED:

And what we're trying to say is "no," you have to start from having human contact.

HANS:

That's right.

ALFRED:

And if it's fine for your human friends that you have human contact with to tweet them and post them once in awhile. But a lot of the depression is that people are thinking they don't need to go out, they don't need to interact, that they're going to get the same type of meaning, the same type of fulfillment by using Facebook and Twitter. And what we're really telling you is that could lead to serious depression.

HANS:

Very much so... and to suicidal thoughts.

ALFRED:

Yes.

HANS:

That, folks, is a proven fact now.

ALFRED:

So if you're online a lot and you're feeling depressed, what we want you to consider is the place that you're looking for happiness may be leading you in a direction different from what you're seeking.

HANS:

Yes. And you know it doesn't make any difference who you perceive yourself to be. God and Spirit perceive you to be love personified. And even though you look around your life, kids, and you say: But, there's nothing here for me. It's because you're not creating anything. Maybe you come from a broken home, maybe something bad happened to you as a child and you don't trust society anymore... But Spirit loves you. Every single one of you.

And when you put yourself into a position that says: You know what? There's got to be something more than this. There's got to be something more than me sitting here 15 hours a day playing on the computer and trying to find romance... trying to find someone who sees me. It won't happen. They're all temporary. It's all a mirage. It's all an illusion. And in the end you'll be left empty handed.

Kids, get out there. There are hundreds of clubs, if not thousands, in this nation of ours who will help you if you're straight, if you're gay, if you're bi-gender, it doesn't matter. What matters is you get out and you interact with other kids and young people who are going through the exact same thing that you are. And you're going to find that you'll meet somebody and they'll say: You know what? I really feel a lot like you.

And I want you to know that in that moment when you hear someone say: I can feel you... Oh, my God there's another one, I'm not the only one. Your life changes for the rest of your life in that moment. Okay? And kids, and you adults also, this scolding from Uncle Hansie - stop that incessant putting everything you are and everything you do on the internet. It is going to come back and bite you. So bad is it that even our President has said to the kids: Don't do it.

And some of the accounts out there, that own these accounts, are saying: You know what? You're putting too much information out here. Hold something back that is called "you." Don't confuse who you are with what you do. I don't care that you put out there what you do, but I care a lot that you put out there who you are. Because you don't want anybody out there to be aware of who your little baby angel is until you want to share that with a partner.

ALFRED:

I think it's that people are really trying to replace real life with an online life which is why they're so willing to post absolutely everything. I don't need to this in real life because I can do it online...

HANS:

Right.

ALFRED:

And what we're trying to say is: No...

HANS:

No, you can't.

ALFRED:

First comes your "real" life. And do a couple of things here and there online. But if you're depressed searching for "meaning" and you're replacing physical contact with online interaction, then you really need to take a look at it. Because you're losing your social skills by being only online. You're losing physical contact by being online. You're not feeling anyone's presence. You're not feeling anyone's touch.

HANS:

That's very important. Even a hug, Alfred... for a lot of these people. No...

ALFRED:

A hug, a handshake, what's it like just to be in someone else's presence. All of these things you do not get from online. That energy... you share energy, you share emotions with other people. And the human body needs those things.

HANS:

Absolutely. We were born for love. We were born for affection. And you cannot, children, get that on a computer. You just simply can't. And I hate to say this to you but many of the online relationship people who have said: Oh, I found somebody. I would say to you that 50% of those have dissolved already.

You have to build it. It's a good way to open a door for you. Because what so many kids and young people have out there today, Alfred, is a No Vacancy sign on their forehead. Because something has burned them, something has hurt them. Maybe someone said that they weren't attractive. Maybe somebody said they'll never amount to anybody. But they need to know that the Spirit, when it  looks at you, says: Oh, my goodness you're perfect for me. And God says: You're perfect for me.

And I'm not going off on a religious path. I'm just telling you you guys need to go back to the source. The emotional source where all human beings is that we're baby angels in human form. Pure and simple. And there are organizations, there's social clubs, meeting clubs - free things - won't cost you a dime, that just go sit and listen to somebody or some music. Your chances of meeting people are very, very good if you simply shut off the No Vacancy sign.

ALFRED:

Yeah. And just make an effort. For example, "Meetup." Yes, it's online, but you schedule meeting other people in person. And there's a Meetup on just about every topic in the entire world. There are spiritual groups, there are book clubs, poetry clubs, hiking clubs, bicycling clubs...

HANS:

There's more of that in the United States than anywhere else on earth, Alfred.

ALFRED:

And whether you look on meetup.com or just search for local groups another place, the point is to get "offline" and actually have physical contact with people. Yes, it may be awkward because you have to have a little bit of social skills, but you need...

HANS:

Yeah, but you can't learn social skills without being social.

ALFRED:

That's the whole point is you're going to lose social skills by being online... But get off, get interacting with people. Then you'll find what you're looking for.

HANS:

Absolutely. And you know, Alfred, there's a large group of my clients, that are basically hard working people. Most of them are single. They go to work and they stop at the grocery store and they get home and they say: I'm too tired to go anywhere. Somewhere in that week you can find something you can do where you don't get up the next day to work and you can go and do it. I had one lady say to me: Oh, I'm terrified of driving at night. I said: Have a friend take you. Get out of the house.

ALFRED:

Take a taxi...

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

Just take a taxi. Go to a bar. You don't want to drive anyway.

HANS:

No. And don't go to a Movie because that's more, you know, closing yourself in. When Alfred says: Go to a bar. He doesn't mean to get drunk. He means: Go around. There's some Jazz Bars, there's all kinds of young organizations that play music and have non-alcoholic beverages, and they have all kinds of hiking, swimming classes... All of that stuff. It's out there. 

And for you older people who have given up... you 55, 60 year olds who have given up, you're doing that to yourself because there are plenty of people out there that would love to get a hug by you... plenty of people who would like to share their children with you and you share your children with them.

ALFRED:

Things like classes for us younger to middle-aged kids, take a class at a community college. I took a Welding Class last year.

HANS:

You had a ball.

ALFRED:

It was absolutely hilarious! Take a class. What's it going to cost you at a Community College - $50. You don't need social skills. You sit there and talk about whatever the class is. Take a Cooking Class. Okay? All of these options are to get out and meet other people.

And for those of you sick of the bar scene... Well, yeah, there's a reason you're sick of the bar scene because it's all about ego, it's all about alcohol. So that's what I mean. In a Meetup group, find something you like to do, whether it's a common interest like biking, roller blading, art, poetry...

HANS:

Well there's just so many things out there now, Alfred.

ALFRED:

Yes. Just check meetup.com and use that to get offline and interacting with other people so you can find what you're looking for.

HANS:

Folks, have you ever noticed that when you're using the computer how fast the time goes? You suddenly look up and you started at 7:30 after dinner and it's a quarter to 10? And you accomplished absolutely nothing. If you took that time to run down to your local book store... Because most of the good book stores have speakers for free, doesn't cost you a dime, you don't have to buy anything whatsoever... Just little things like that. That's what Alfred and I are talking about.

Make yourself available for you to get out to become someone... risk becoming someone other than that person who's becoming reclusive, who's becoming housebound, who's only safe going to the market and work and back. Be something better than that.

Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today. 

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“Being In Spiritual Truth”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Being In Spiritual Truth”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Being In Spiritual Truth

May 17, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody and welcome. Today we are going to be talking about Spiritual Truth. What is Spiritual Truth? What does "Being In Spiritual Truth" mean? For so many of my clients through the many years I've been in service, I will get an email or a letter saying: Oh, my gosh, what a difference! Oh, this is working for me! And what happens oftentimes is that people read a book or they go to take a class or they have a reading, for instance, and they'll say: Oh, I got it. When really what has happened is that the mind has captured the conversation. The mind has captured what is trying to be said. And the mind captures what is being said.

But unfortunately, the mind does not send it to the peaceful place in the heart. It holds the information in the head. That, children, is not spiritual wisdom or spiritual truth. That's trying to control how Spiritual Truth looks. Allowing the mind to send a clean and clear picture to the heart, of trust and faith and belief, learning to wake up every day knowing and hearing that you are perfect for God today... This is a whole new concept.... it's a whole new understanding... a whole new awareness. Because your mind chatter, for all the many years that you've been alive, short or long... all those years, the mind has tried to keep you safe. And unfortunately, it has really kept you unsafe. 

So Spiritual Truth means "trusting"... not just "knowing" it... not just "learning" it, not just “hearing” it... by putting it into practice every single day. And when you do that, when you wake up in the morning and you say: My goodness, I don't have to struggle today because I'm enough for God... Oh, my goodness I'm okay, God hears me. Oh, I'm not alone... I have Angels and I have Guides. My whole life has changed because "I believe." And Spiritual Truth is about "believing."

Knowing, in your heart, that beyond any reasonable doubt that there's no judgment of you from anyone on the Other Side. Not God, not Spirit, not your Helpers and Friends... no one. There's no judgment of you. All that judgment that's been going on all these years came out of the mind chatter. So when you truly "believe," when you truly get it, you begin to set the mind chatter "off." You begin to let it go. It no longer plays a role in your life. Yes, it's there to open the car door, to put the dishes in the dishwasher. Of course... all maintenance stuff. But it has no control any longer who "you" are and what is best for “you.” Because your heart chakra will always show you what is best for you.

So Spiritual Truth is literally about "belief." But you will find, so often kids, that when you're in the mind chatter learning about these things and thinking that you've got them, your mind is still running its crazies. You can see it in the questions that come in. We're all family here, so hear me through. Very enlightened people on this Show still send in worrisome questions. That means you're still working on your belief. Nothing wrong with that, kids... nothing wrong with that at all. 

However, the truth of the matter is that as long as you continue to do that, the longer it will take you to come into a place that says: "I am. It is sufficient unto this day and always for me." "I already am enough." When you can say that, you will find the mind chatter still trying to instigate trouble, still trying to cause up a fear: What if I lose my job, what if I get a divorce, what if I never find a partner... All of that nonsense that it plays up and plays out will not be of any value to you any longer and you will refuse to listen to it.

We get a lot of people who say: No, but I do believe BUT... A lot of BUT's, guys. Well I believe perfectly Hans, BUT this situation has continued to come up in my life... I believe absolutely Hans that God loves me BUT... I'm not certain that I'll ever find a partner... I'm not certain I'm on the right track. So basically what happens is, not to put too fine a point on it, your mind chatter gives lip-service to "belief"... does not give heart to belief. It gives lip-service. And when you finally understand what the mind is up to, then you really can begin to motivate yourself back into the heart chakra and say: Wait a minute, I don't want to be in that mind chatter. I don't want that in my life. I want this. I want peace.

I talked to a client the other day folks that most of you know from the Radio Show. And what it was about was that they had gotten to a certain place in their intuitive development but their mind chatter just literally refused to turn loose of a certain fear on a certain subject. And what I explained to the individual was: Well that's not exactly true. The mind chatter created it, yes. But you have the control over it. Nothing you're doing in your life is greater than who you are. No action the mind chatter takes can ever stop you from eliminating the mind chatter. You have the power.

Alfred, do you have something on this for us today?

ALFRED:

From all the time that I've been with Hans and following his teachings, the greatest gift that I think I've come across that I want to share with you is the difference between "learning" spirituality and "being" spiritual. One is the traditional way of going about something which is: I'm going to learn it. Unfortunately that invites the mind chatter. That tells the mind chatter: Oh, we can learn this. I, the mind, the human aspect of you, can participate in this spirituality. And what we're trying to tell you is you're still in limitation if you're giving the mind chatter permission to participate by thinking you can "learn" spirituality, then you're running into limitation.

Well, what's the difference? "Being"... Are you “being” the principles? Are you “being” peaceful? Are you “being” loving? Are you “being” caring? Are you “being” trusting? Do you have faith? Are the spiritual principles dictating how you behave? Your behaviors... How you behave is how you are. I am. I am peaceful. I am loving. Or is your behavior that I'm in fear, I'm scared, I am worried... which is your behavior. 

So in order so that you can incorporate spiritual principles into your life, the difference between "learning" and "being" is learning stops with your mind thinking you can learn it. It doesn't change your behavior. And what we're saying is there is nothing to learn. All you need to do is say: Am I in trust? Do I have faith? Am I peaceful? Is my behavior according to spiritual principles? 

How's that, Hans?

HANS:

Well, absolutely, Alfred. And that's exactly what we're trying to work on today. Thank you. And I remember back in the day when Alfred was first coming on-board he really didn't struggle with thinking that the heart could operate his life as well as his mind. And for all of you, I'm not trying to disconnect you from your mind because it's a tool you use. But I am trying to disconnect you from the thought that it's who you are. That's the key. 

We think our mind chatter is actually who we are. And nothing, kids, nothing could be further from the truth. That who you are is that little boy or that little girl that hugs the pillow at night and wonders if anybody knows who they are... if anybody hears their thoughts... if anyone knows that they're alive. Does God see me? I'm so small... I'm so insignificant... Can God hear me? Do I have Angels, really? 

So setting yourself on a path that says: You know what, I'm going to use my mind for what it needs to do but it has nothing to do any longer with who I am. And I'm going to come from a place in my heart that speaks with the power of Spirit. And remember, kids, when you identify with yourself, in “belief,” “spiritual belief,” your Angels, your Guides, your Helpers, your Friends... they're all there, you just plug right into it. And you feel so much better... you feel so much nicer... you feel as though you have hope. You feel as though you have dreams that can come true. No matter what they are - because they're your dreams. And yes they can come true and they will come true if you "believe them." Okay?

Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today. 

For more information, you may like: 
Stop Searching and Start Living 
You are Enough

“Patience”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Patience”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Patience

May 9, 2015

HANS:

Hello everyone. What a beautiful day indeed. I'm sitting here in the middle of all these trees. Everything is good. I thank God and thank so many of you for the lovely emails that you sent offering us up prayers for us. Thank you very, very much.

Our topic for today "Patience." This is a subject that comes up in readings a lot. And it happens to be a subject  that for many, many years, I did not like. It's called patience. You all know that ugly little word patience. What could possibly be the lesson in patience? The lesson in patience is "believe," "belief." “Believe” that even though you're striving for this particular job, even though you're wanting to be in a relationship, even though you're trying to buy a house and things are just falling down all around you... This is what you have to understand, gentle people, to not be involved with the outcome of this situation.  Give it to Spirit, in the "belief" that by being patient, the Spirit knows what's in your heart. They know what you are longing to accomplish. 

But they also have a duplicate of your dharma. You know that little piece of paper that was stapled to your butt when you were born that says: This is so and so, and this is what they wanted to accomplish... that little thing. So the mind chatter gets busy and it runs off on this tangent, it runs off on another tangent, it'll say: Oh, you're not well, there's a bump on your skin. It'll say: Oh, look your paycheck is being cut a little bit. Oh, are we going to make the mortgage payment? Your partner said something to you... are they leaving me? Or will I ever get somebody? All that "stuff" that the mind chatter runs through is totally, children, absolutely irrelevant... irrelevant.

The truth of the matter is that the lesson is in the patience. I remember some years ago, folks, I really wanted to participate and have the feeling of a certain thing. And I really longed to have this thing. And it wasn't a relationship or anything like that. It was something that I wanted to acquire. And it just seemed to me that no matter what I did I was thwarted. And I remember a very, very nice young Tibetan monk who I met at a seminar... He and I were talking and he said: You know Mr. King, the more you grab after it, the further from you it gets. And I had to stop for a moment and I said: You know it doesn't make a lot of sense. He says: I know it doesn't. But hear me out. He said: If something is "for you" you know it and you connect it to your heart. And when you connect it to your heart you no longer fuss it because you believe that the Universe and the Spirit is moving and configuring events to bring you to that reality. You see?

So you set in motion a law of abundance for this particular thing. Your job is to know it, believe it, don't look for it again, don't ask about it again, it's already in the making. Now, you may come back to me and say: Well Hansie I've been waiting for this darn thing now for 10 years. Then that's what the lesson is: Wait the 10 years. I got what I was looking for 13 years afterwards. But it arrived "exactly" as I had wanted. And when I queried Spirit as to why the delay, They said: Because there were so many lessons along the way that you had to acquire in order to have a full appreciation of this that you wanted. You see?

So as the years have gone by, when somebody says to me: I'm losing patience. And I always say: Then you're losing belief. It isn't the act of acquiring the object or the person, it's the act of belief along the way that's the lesson. Because no matter, children, what you're going to acquire will you get to keep. So everything is in the construction of the lesson. Now people will tell you who knew me back when... which was a very long time ago "back when"... that I didn't have the best patience in the world and I'll tell you right now that's the absolute truth. I wanted it and I wanted it now. But life is not so constructed that way, kids... it's not.

I remember when Alfred first came and he wanted to do "this" with his spirituality... and he wanted to do that... and he wanted to take giant steps over all the lessons that just arrived. Remember that, Alfred?

ALFRED:

Well, of course.

HANS:

Expound on this a little bit for you and how you learned patience. 

ALFRED:

I'm still working on that one...

(Hans Laughing)

ALFRED:

I think everybody is. This is why patience is one of those lessons that is so important because there are so many levels to patience that we think patience is simply something that oh we learn the lesson and we're over with. No. Patience has to do so much with having absolute faith and belief in the Other Side coordinating things on our behalf. Why isn't this showing up? Well if you're asking the question: Why isn't this showing up? Then quite simply you don't have faith in the Other Side. That is an amazingly difficult and simply complex...

HANS:

But it is that, Alfred. It is exactly that.

ALFRED:

…. lesson that when you have perfect faith and belief in the Other Side coordinating things on your behalf, that They know what your dharma is, They know what the lessons that you should have learned before things arrive according to the design that you set up for your life. Then you'll have learned the lesson of patience. And that is incredibly difficult. Especially to those of us who are in service. To say: Why is service so difficult? Well, it's designed that way.

HANS:

Yes, it is. It is designed to force you to look at the lessons you need to teach. And by looking at the lessons that you need to teach, you begin to see all your little human frailties... which are wonderful. And then you can maneuver them, you can manipulate them into showing up more often so that you can begin to work that lesson. Faith and trust is very much a part of patience. Because the truth of the matter is, very clearly, that when you decide to believe, and you decide to let go and let Spirit in to work your life with you, everything in your life begins to change.

Remember what somebody said: It's not a matter of getting to the top; it's a matter of the journey up the hill. Nothing could be further than from what your mind wants to hear. You want to hear that you struggled to get up to the top and now you've got the top. No you don't. You don't have anything. You have the top, that's it. But all the friends, and all the lessons that you learned along the way... if you have perfect faith will lead you to that... whatever it is that you are seeking to have.

I have friends who are stuck in the perception of loneliness. Believing that not having a spouse, believing that not having a partner, is the worst thing that could happen to them. And as long as they believe that and they stick in that, then that's what the mind chatter will keep feeding them over and over and over. One day Alfred was hollering and screaming at me when we were doing a lesson. He said: I'm so darn sick of all these lessons, I've learned enough now. I need to be able to do this and I need to be able to do that. And I just looked at him and I said: Well you can't until you believe. He said: I do believe. I said: No, if you believed you wouldn't be telling me these things you're telling me. He said: Well what am expected to do? I said: Let go. They already know what you're looking for. They already know what you want.

And that applies to all of us. We all have moments, being in human form, where we do face issues of patience. Unfortunately, so many people have attached patience to being loved by God and Spirit. So if it isn't answered right away, Alfred, they believe God doesn't love them. Have you noticed that?

ALFRED:

And that is the... oh shall we say oxymoron of the lesson of patience. It is the more you try to reach out and "get" and "control” the outcome, the more you try to hurry things from the human side, the slower they will arrive. The more you let go, the more patient you are, the more trusting you are, the more you are peaceful, the faster your life will arrive.

HANS:

Absolutely. It's in the "nothingness" children, that what you want arrives. Not in the complexity. It is in the nothingness - period. Spirit "knows" what is best for you. They know it. I'm not going to sit here today and tell you that I don't become impatient from time to time because that would not be true. What I will say to you is that the lesson kicks in and then I say: Oh... let it be... let it be. And if you're very still, you're very quiet, what you are longing for arrives in ways that are unbelievable. I am living proof of that. The things in my life that I thought were never attainable... every time I sought after them, they never arrived. When I let go of the way it needed to show up, they always arrived.

Alright Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for the day. 

For more information, you may like: 
Beginning Communication with Spirit Lessons
Intermediate Spiritual Lessons

“Gratefulness”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Gratefulness”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Gratefulness

May 2, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody. What a beautiful day! Glad to have you all with us today. And I want to thank everybody for the wonderful emails you've been sending in about how our teachings have helped you to restructure your life to move you into new places of joy and happiness that you didn't know were available. Today's topic is "Gratefulness."

I want to give you a little story today. Many years ago... probably 8 or 9 years ago, I had done a product for Nightingale-Conant called "Stop Searching and Start Living." And after the contract has expired and all that, Alfred thought of what we might be able to do with it. And he said, you know there's a book in this. And so for almost 5 years, on and off, we worked on the book. Alfred actually worked on the book. And he took the talkings and put them into writings... which is very difficult to do folks, believe it or not. And he worked on this over and over and over again. And we hired editors who had no idea... They were spiritual people but they tended to write me out of my own book and it became very painful... and frankly, we gave up for awhile and then we started up again. 

All the time "knowing" that somewhere in time was a place for that book and the decades of teachings that I've been blessed to give out. Whenever I would lose track of it, Alfred would reinforce it. Whenever he would lose track of it, I would reinforce it to him. And so it's been a long, long journey. The reason that today we're speaking about "Gratefulness"... If you ever notice how Spirit works on your behalf... you keep looking and looking and searching and looking when it's right underneath your nose. And it's called "Faith." Faith's best friend is Trust. Trust has a "quiet knowing" that everything is as it should be.

Now to be very honest with all of you, I had reached a point with the book where I was tired of excusing it away. Why didn't anybody come forward? Why would the people that we hired that charged money and all that just take the money and do absolutely nothing? What was all of that about? And so it was hard, as time went by, to keep the hope up in that. But we did it nonetheless. As time went by, we were given an opportunity, through a friend of ours, to speak with someone who changed the direction and the course of the book. It's an editor. She could see and hear what we were attempting, and certainly what I was attempting before Alfred came on the scene, to say and to do.

And I was looking for a manual... a how to book in spirituality and mediumship. And just nobody could see it. But she could. And so for over a year, she and Alfred and myself have been working together to create the outlines and to write the chapters... rewrite all the chapters... well the chapters that we had already written anyway. And we were led to meet two people. And those two people are some of the nicest human beings I have ever met in my entire life. They told someone at a major publishing house about me and that person said: Oh, I know about Hans, I know about Hans. We'd like to publish his book. Site unseen as I said that. And today, after a meeting on Sunday last, they sent us an email agreeing to everything that we would like to see happen with the book. 

And I called for Alfred to come and read the email with us and it's a firm offer. And I thought: Everything that we had talked about... about what we would like to do with the book is in the offer. Every single thing we could have ever dreamed for or asked for is in the offer. So I'm proud to announce that Simon & Schuster will be publishing my new and first book within the next year. So to all of you I thank you for the wonderful work that you let me do with you. And I look forward to going into the future. This book... We're already looking at another book. We already have a title for that one. So I thank you all and Alfred, how do you feel about this?

ALFRED:

Well one of the reasons we're bringing this topic up under the subject of "Gratefulness" is we literally have been working on this book for 9 years... 9 years. And that has been a really long time. And that is really where Faith and Belief come in to play is to be grateful for the way things are, to be grateful for what you have, to be grateful for the unknown, to be grateful for knowing that the Other Side is working on your behalf, to be grateful by letting go of expectations, by being grateful for letting go of the way you need things to be, to be grateful of the need to know when and how something is going to unfold. That is just "is."

And that's why we're bring up this topic is because Hans and I have dedicated ourselves to being of service. It's been a very long road. We've put an enormous amount of work into it. We just continued to have Faith and Trust in the Universe that this was going to unfold as it was going to unfold, when and how it was going to. And it is incredibly difficult to be grateful for what is in front of you and to release what is coming at you.

HANS:

Yeah. And I'm not going to say for one minute that Alfred and I didn't have to practice our teachings folks. Because we did. And there were moments of disappointment... phone calls that were missed or never arrived. But when something is supposed to be, it simply happens. So what I am the most grateful for is first of all for my Guidance, for Spirit, for God. But I'm grateful for Alfred, I'm grateful for Anita, I'm grateful for John and Rikka... I'm grateful for all the people who came into my life to make this possible. I'm very grateful for Nancy and she knows why. I'm grateful that I have this chance, at my age, to do something that my father made me promise I would do and I'm happy to do that. 

But I do want, Alfred, I do want people to know that there was a little struggle every once in awhile.

ALFRED:

Yes. And that's probably the second part of why we decided to choose this topic is anyone, anyone who is in human form will find this a challenge. One of the examples when we start teaching spirituality in business is: Okay. Everybody understands the difference between your glass is half full, your glass is half empty. Well can you be grateful when life is so burdensome and difficult that you think you could be grateful when your glass is 20% full, when your glass is 10% full? Can you be grateful when your glass is 1% full? And that's when...

HANS:

That's a key thing you just said. Gratefulness all the way along. Even if it's just 1%.

ALFRED:

To realize that to transcend this lesson you really need to realize that it's not about the glass, it's not about what you have. It's about who you are and being of service and continuing to be of service. In order to transcend the lesson of your glass is half full, your glass is half empty, you have to realize it doesn't matter what's in the glass. What really matters is your "intent" to be of service and whatever it looks like really doesn't matter. That's not up to you what it looks like.

HANS:

That's nicely put. No, it isn't up to you what it looks like. It's up to you knowing what is best, that Spirit knows what is best for you and for your dharma. Alfred and I have been reminded by one of our members that this show is nearly 5 years old. Now folks, in my wildest imaginings I never would have believed I would have had this little radio show for 5 years. It just didn't come into my consciousness.

So I'm grateful for all of you who help me and remind me of who I am and what it is that I do. By putting your trust and faith in Alfred and I with your very, very personal issues, with your spiritual issues, with your spiritual growth, we are enormously grateful.

Alright Alfred where would you like to now go with this morning? Because this news was important for us to get out and I wanted to do that... let you all know what's going on. We are also leaving, by the way, tomorrow for Asheville. So we will be back there in about a week. We are driving with Bella. Luckily this time I don't have to drive myself out. Alfred's coming with me, we'll share the driving. So again for those of you along Highway 10 if you see us go by, wave. We'll wave back.

ALFRED:

Well I think that's basically it. A lot of times... or should I say a good part of the radio show, we really focus on the basics. And what we're trying to tell you here is an advanced lesson. That the basics would be your glass is half full and to be grateful your glass is half full instead of focusing on your glass is half empty. Okay? That's a very basic spiritual principle.

And what we're trying to tell you here... what we've been living through the past 9 years kicking and screaming the entire way is overcoming the lesson,  transcending the lesson, transcending the lesson that you need "anything" in order to be happy. Transcending the lesson that you need "anything" to be of service. Because it is not what you have that enables your happiness. It is not what you have that enables your ability to be of service. It is simply what is "inside" of you that determines your service, your clarity, your ability to work with the Other Side, your happiness, your bliss, your joy. 

We have mentioned many times that happiness and bliss come from the simplest of things. The things that cost no money or maybe $1 to feed bread to ducks...

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

So in this lesson that we're passing on to you is even in the most difficult times, consider transcending the lesson that anything that is happening external to you is an illusion to let go of. There's no reason to judge it, there's no reason to perceive it, there's no reason to have an expectation. Those are all "human." Simply let go, have “faith.” Be grateful for the happiness you have inside. Be grateful for the ability to have this incarnation. Be grateful that the Other Side is working on your behalf in order to transcend the lesson that anything outside of you, including how much is in your glass, really doesn't matter. It's simply a distraction.

HANS:

I think, Alfred, that will conclude the show for today.

For more information, you may like:
Stop Searching and Start Living
Communication with Spirit Lessons