“Lost Expectations” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Lost Expectations” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Lost Expectations

June 20, 2015

HANS:

Oh, Hi everybody! It's so great to be back onto a regular schedule again. We've been all over creation and working, doing lectures,workshops, what-have-you and so I've been back home... For those of you who've been emailing me "How am I doing" - I'm doing better folks. I had a really, really nasty lung infection and a great doctor over here has got me up and running. I feel so much better, I can't tell you.

So I want to talk today about "Lost Expectations." How do we handle Lost Expectations? You know - "A wish is a prayer the heart makes." And sometimes we get ourself locked into something that will change our life or make us feel better and we start to get invested in it and we start planning what we're going to do when "that' happens and how our life is going to get better because this happens.  But there's also a little tiny thing in there that says "If I get it, God still loves me."

I had a lady say that to me yesterday: I know if this shows up Hans, it proves to me that God still loves me. God always loves you. Not every thing that you're praying for and hoping for comes true in the moment. But if you're patient, and I needed to use some patience today, believe me when I tell you... And I caught myself getting very fussy about something that I knew I had no control over. But it was an expectation that I had to give up.

In any case, coming back up the mountain tonight I thought to myself: Perhaps this is a good time to practice what I preach. And so I caught myself laughing and I'm still doing it. Expectations... Lost Expectations. Because something doesn't show up in your expectation in the moment and/or in the timing does not children, again does not mean anything is wrong. On the contrary, it's working it thing through... for you.

Most things that we pray for come true in one form or another, if we're patient. We get impatient when it doesn't show up in our time expectation. Then we start to add all kinds of negative energy to it. Have you noticed that Alfred, when something doesn't show up in our expectation time wise, we start running our mind crazies?

ALFRED:

Absolutely. And the issue here is that the mind thinks it not only can expect something externally but it actually has some type of control over what happens outside of us.

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

And the spiritual truth is that you have little or no control over what happens outside of you. So when your mind has an expectation of the result of what's going to happen, but the spiritual truth is that you really have no control over anything outside of you, you're literally just wasting energy. See, your mind is really lying to you telling you have control and people should do what you asked them to do. 

Where, in reality, the truth is free will. Everyone has free will. You have free will. Everyone external to you has free will. So by the law of free will, no one has to do anything.

HANS:

That is correct. Nicely put, Alfred. Thank you for that. Nicely put. Sometimes we take our expectation and we begin to talk to our friends and our family and we share our expectation and then everybody gets excited about our expectation and nothing happens. It's just quiet. It's just... what happened? Nothing happened, children. It's working through its timing. If you listen to the Questions throughout the years here on the Show... and Alfred, I believe we're in our 5th year...

ALFRED:

Yes, I think we are.

HANS:

Yep, I think so. And if you listen to the Questions kids, you will hear so many people say: But when? When you pull your expectation of the time, you begin to open the door for the natural free will of the event, which Spirit already knows, God already knows, and if it is for you, They are currently working on it and will see it through to its rightful conclusion.

However, this is what concerns me as your Teacher. In the process of it not showing up, we start to run the mind chatter that disconnects to our belief. And that is something we all need to be careful of. We don't want to do that. If it doesn't show up, we say: I know it is and I'm preparing myself for when it does. Removing the expectation that says: It has to show up in my expectation, in my time, in my need, so I can feel certain that God loves me. You see?

Now I can hear many of you say: Oh, I don't do that. And I would say to you: You want to bet? For instance, I had a young lady who went to dinner with another young lady friend of hers and they are in their 40's... and a friend of one of them came by to say: Oh, hi. And said: Oh, this is a friend of mine, we're out for the evening. Nice to see you. What's your name? Anyway, that girl went from that place of: Hi, nice to meet you "to" getting married, having children, moving, setting up a whole new life, when there was nothing in the conversation that even mentioned the date. 

That's how our mind starts to set an unrealistic expectation. Rather than say: I know someone like that is on the way. I know my perfect partner is, in fact, on the way and I will be ready for it when it happens. And then get on living and loving your god and get on with your life. We don't do that. She's terribly crushed. And she's terribly disappointed because she never heard from the gentleman. The fact that he doesn't have her phone number never seems to enter her mind. But if my god loved me, my god would have set this up for me. You see how that works, Alfred?

ALFRED:

Absolutely. And it's our mind that interferes with the spiritual process of Spirit working “with” us. When we have expectations, when the mind chatter comes in, when we try to figure out how things should be, when we try to control the outcome, then we're telling Spirit: We know what's better. 

HANS:

Yes.

ALFRED:

We know what's best for me. And the truth is, while we're in humanness, we have no clue. We don't have the slightest idea about our path in life. 

HANS:

No.

ALFRED:

And so the Other Side says: Okay, great. Let me know how that work for you.

HANS:

Right.

ALFRED:

(Laughing)

HANS:

So what I'm trying to get at today, kids, is that living in the wonder of the moment... You have heard Alfred and I discuss this for years now. Just learning to be in the moment - all is well. And you can feel when your mind starts to disrupt your joy. You can feel it! Alfred's always pointing out and saying: And how do you "feel" with this? How do you "feel" when that happens? He's big on the feelings because it's true. And you can "feel" Alfred when you go from being in the bliss to having the mind chatter take over and start kicking you around. You can feel it.

ALFRED:

That's right. Your connection to Spirit is through energy and vibration. 

HANS:

Yes.

ALFRED:

That is universal energy, that is clairsentient abilities to communicate and receive guidance from Spirit. And quite simply, if you have an expectation, you are in your head. You're blocking your ability to receive that feeling, to receive that guidance. So basically the lesson here is "it's a choice". If you have an expectation, that's fine. But if you're wondering why expectations hurt, it's because you're approaching life through your mind chatter. The spiritual lesson here instead is to release expectations and live in the moment. Where, from the moment, you'll be able to receive guidance and “feel” if something is for you or not.

HANS:

Absolutely... absolutely. And Alfred, there's a certain bliss that comes from being in the moment. I've been up here for 2 weeks with Bella, just she and I. In these beautiful mountains we go out and sit in the rocking chair out on the front porch in the morning and I have my coffee and I think these words every day: Oh my goodness, how blessed am I to be in this moment. And she curls up, because she doesn't like to get up early... and we just talk and it's a wonderful feeling of no mental activity. Just peace and joy in the moment. Because our mind isn't telling us that anything is wrong. 

And that's the only thing... as far as I am concerned about is that the mind chatter brings fear, doubt and sadness to us. You can retrain your mind to start expecting joy, to start expecting peace... you can do that. We've got lots of products on-line that can help you get to that place.

Alright Alfred, I think that will, in fact, conclude the lesson for today. 

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“The Pain of Lost Expectations” Rebroadcast from October 2014 - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“The Pain of Lost Expectations” Rebroadcast from October 2014 

- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: The Pain of Lost Expectations

June 6, 2015

HANS:

Hello everyone. Welcome to the show. Today's topic is "The Pain of Lost Expectations." You know folks, throughout my lifetime in service, there is one recurring theme that is extremely painful for a lot of people. If you listen, everyone, to the questions that people send in, there sort of is a theme. Now what is that theme?  A lost expectation. 

How do we get to lost expectations? In our humanness, we, from time to time, have a strong feeling in our heart or in our mind that we should know this person or we should move to this place or we should be doing this kind of a job or we should be doing this service work of some kind... And oftentimes, the expectation isn't met.

Let's go to relationships, folks. A lot of people will say to me: But Hans I knew it in my heart. Let's talk about the gals first, then we'll talk about the guys. Gals, a lot of times you see somebody, and there's this tug that comes in the chest and you just feel that you know this person, you just feel you want to have something to do with this person, even perhaps become lovers and partners. And this is very strong, and this is POW! It just hits you so hard. But nothing happens. And the person is very nice to you. They talk to you about their partner or what they're doing, but you don't see a lean in towards a relationship. 

What is happened there is, most likely, you have met someone from a previous lifetime. So it isn't just the mind and the heart, the soul recognizes that person. And when the soul recognizes that person, it hones right in, and says: Oh, there's my old friend; Oh, there's my old husband, my old wife... Okay? But what you're doing is, what you've heard me refer to before as "soul crossing." Where you just go by each other to say hello and to be remembered. 

But the humaneness of you sets an expectation. And when the humanness of you sets an expectation, because you believe, you tell God you would like a response to your expectation. Even if God, the Spirit, is trying to say to you: Just passing by. You don't want to hear that, you don't want to know that, you don't want to project into this. Because you "know," because you have this "feeling." So this feeling of "I know that person and I know I'm going to be with that person"... A lot of the times comes out of a need to be loved. It comes out of a need to be "seen," a need to be "accepted," a need to be someone's "everything." Even though it isn't to be, for you. 

I cannot tell you how many people Spirit and I counsel a week just listening to people talk about they know that this person is to be in their life. And sometimes, no matter what I say, no matter what I do, they don't want to hear it. You might check around yourself, see if there's some things in here that you might be holding onto with expectations that you may want to say: Is this causing me pain? 

Alfred, what do you say on this? I always like to bring Alfred in when it's like a deer in the headlight moment...

ALFRED:

Expectations are a very difficult spiritual lesson. Yet this lesson can have really profound results...

HANS:

Absolutely.

Alfred:

… in terms of your peace and happiness. Expectation is the mind's view of what should happen, the outcome, in the future. So what you're looking at is getting your humanness, your mind chatter involved as to what it thinks the future should be. Spirituality as we all know is surrendering the future, being in the moment, and letting go of those things that we desire, or our mind chatter tells us we “should” have. And that's where we get ourselves in trouble is when our mind sets us up to expect something in our life and it doesn't happen. The mind has a really hard time understanding: Well, why didn't this happen?

HANS:

Exactly. And oftentimes Alfred, I'm sure you've found, like I have, that the mind often blames the Spirit or blames God. Why didn't God do this for me? Why didn't God give me this? This is what I wanted. I knew it would happen. And we kind of get ourself into a belief trauma as well.

ALFRED:

Yes, and a lot of spirituality is about surrendering. It's about being peaceful and happy in the moment, about being grateful for what you have, realizing that your glass is half full. Having an expectation is that my glass is going to be completely full, or it's going to be more full than it already is. The opposite is: No, I'm peaceful and grateful where I am in the moment.

HANS:

Very good, thank you Alfred. That's the key right there - being peaceful in the moment. Not setting an expectation. Folks, do you think the Spirit doesn't know what's in your heart? Do you think They don't know your longing, your needs, your desires? Of course They do. But They also know your plan. They have a carbon copy of your dharma. They know where you're supposed to be and who you're supposed to be with. But in the game of life, as we see it, people come by us, who we recognize and we think: Oh, there's my soul mate.

Now let's go away from relationships for a minute and let's go to expectations regarding things that you would like to have in your life - a new house, a new car, a new job... Let's go to job. A lot of times we set our expectations for a new position. If we don't have a job, we set our expectations for a job. But when we do that, we also fantasize into it about how it needs to look so we can be okay with it. Rather than say: I'm available for that perfect job that is for me at this time. Not tomorrow, not next week, at this time. Thank you for bringing the doors for this to me.

We set our statement, and then we add all of these little subtleties to it. And before you know it, what was just getting you a maintenance job for the moment, has turned into this life-long dream of yours to be this or to do that. So, lost expectations come about when we set them. So the expectation happens when we say... Rather than say: I would like the feeling and I would like the awareness of this particular thing... and I would enjoy seeing how this might be in my life and letting it go... and I would say: to my highest good always. 

So They get it. They hear where you're coming from. You're not saying you're going to be less than if it doesn't happen. You're already enough as you are right now. You don't need anything whatsoever. You might like the experience of something. And as Alfred would throw in: And here's how I would like to feel in the experience. That's how you set, what we call today, expectations. Where we don't say: And I want it to show up this way, and I need for this person to love me, and I need this particular job... and all these things that we do in our humanness. They're roadblocks. Somebody wrote, Alfred, I don't know who, but they said: "Expectations are limitations." You remember that?

ALFRED:

Expectations are a limitation because it is something that your mind chatter created. It's part of ego, maybe it's something that you saw on television, maybe it's something that your parents told you you deserved, maybe you're trying to live up to the Jones or your friends, and unknowingly you set an expectation of "this is what I want in my life" and it becomes a limitation because everything else that comes across that doesn't look like what your mind is telling you you should have, is now instantly dismissed. However, how do you know what is being presented to you isn't for your highest good? A person that may not meet all of your items on your list may be your soul mate.

HANS:

Yes.

ALFRED:

However, you have an expectation written down in your list of what your soul mate should look like and the Other Side presents you with your soul mate and you dismiss that person. So having an expectation, having an opinion, a judgment of what should be in your life and what it should look like, is an absolute limitation because then you are dismissing, without even a consideration, those things that Spirit presents to you.

HANS:

Folks, sometimes when we set our agenda, we sort of say to Spirit, taking off on what Alfred was just talking about: And this is how I want it to look, and this is how I want it to arrive. If you have perfect faith, if you believe, then you tell the Spirit what you would like the experience of and that's it... and how you would like to feel. Those two things. I think two-thirds of all the questions that come into this Radio Show are from lost expectations. If you go back and you listen to all the Shows... My gosh Alfred, how many shows have we done now? Quite a few...

Alfred:

Four years... about four years.

HANS:

Well that's almost 200 shows. And many of you are the ones who are in the pain of the lost expectation. Folks, I'm not saying it isn't painful. But what you don't realize is why would you want someone who doesn't want you? Why would you do that to yourself? Why would you put yourself in that position? And I hear people say all the time: Oh, I knew that they were for me. I knew it. It's their fault. They're not living up to what they're supposed to do. And very rarely, but it does happen, that's true. But Spirit always has a contingency for a contingency for every contingency.

So if you're supposed to be loved at a certain level, you will be. It may not be by this person. But they bring another person in and you'll say: Oh, I'm so glad that I didn't get first person because this person really works wonderfully for me. Letting go of expectations regarding parents... This is the tough one folks. When you let go of the pain and the expectations of the parents, your life gets so much easier. Does it not, Alfred?

ALFRED:

It really does because then you stop putting energy towards something that might happen in the future. That's number one is you think that thing in the future will actually fix you. If this happens, then I'll be happier, if this person comes into my life, I'll be better. And the reality is, by letting go of anything that has to do with the future, the past, as we all know also, helps you become more peaceful and happy and blissful and joyful in the moment. Expectations are a reflection of what's happened in our past and projects us out into our future which takes us away from being grateful in the moment. So again, it's a huge step towards your spiritual growth to let go of expectations in order for you to be grateful and peaceful in the moment.

HANS:

Folks, many of you run on a time constraint. Oh, I'm getting old... oh, if I get much older I can't have children... will she still want me when I get to be 50? We run under this fear umbrella of we're running out of time. Folks, there is no time. Oftentimes when the Spirit speaks to you, They say something, They're saying that person will be in your life, probably coming up next lifetime. Not always this one. So letting yourself simply learn to "be" with “no expectations.” I'm here in this moment, this is the experience I would like to have, I give it to you to do for me to my highest good, and bring those doors to me. Then you're saying: I trust you. I know that this pain in my heart really is self induced. 

And one thing in lost expectations, children, never, ever, ever, become a victim or make the other person a villain. I know clients who have made other people villains in their life only because they didn't live up to this person or that person's expectation of how that person would be. So they pre-set the expectation of how it had to be. But the other person wasn't at that spot. But that doesn't make any difference. Because these people say: Oh, but I knew it was for me, there was no doubt it was for me, and I'm coming to stick this out.

One of the biggest things that people do is when they fall in love with married people, or committed people. I know she's for me... I know he's for me... and I know they're going to leave that person... and I know they're going to be with me. What you are picking up is your experience of that person from a previous lifetime and you get confused about this. If a person is in a relationship, you need to honor that and walk away - period. Under almost any circumstance. If that relationship is to be, it will show up somewhere down the road with you having absolutely no expectations and nothing to do with it. Okay?

Now, as you go through your life, there are going to be moments when you see someone or something you would really, really like the experience of. Sit down, be quiet, and say to Spirit: I don't know if this situation or this person is for me. But I am available if they are. I'm available to my highest good. Please show me where I need to be with this issue and drop it. Make yourself, of course, available in your heart. But have no expectation of how it has to happen, how it has to show up. 

I know a person, a couple of months ago, who met a person on an airplane. And they struck up a conversation and he was a married person and this girl felt she knew him and she started running all the fantasies and what have you... She drove herself to the point where she had to go to the hospital in a panic attack because he had not called her, when he never said he would. But she knew it, in her heart, that he was going to call. This is what I'm talking about when we disturb our peace, when we disturb our ease. Okay? 

So having a quiet awareness that where you... Folks, why do you think Alfred and I talk so much about being in the now? Making this moment right now all there is. I am enough. Why do you think we do that? Because it's only the mind that brings attachments to the peace. The heart doesn't have to. Only the mind disturbs the peace. The heart never does. So when we learn: Oh, I got to feel something, isn't that wonderful, I'm still alive...

The other day Alfred and I were walking somewhere and the wind was whistling and Alfred's dressed up looking like a polar bear, you can't even see his face with the hoodie he's got on, and I'm in a T-shirt. And he said something and I said under my breath: Yes, but at least I have feelings. I can feel it. Isn't that wonderful? Feeling the cold wind on your face, feeling the Caribbean sand in your feet, feeling a smile on your face when you see a puppy... Those are the things folks, that are important.

So the greatest gift you give yourself is to stop expectations and replace them with a knowing and an understanding that Spirit is here for you. They know what is supposed to be for you. Let Them do their work and many times their work does not show up in your expectation. Alfred, what did Mick Jagger say in that song? You don't always get what you want...

ALFRED:

… but if you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need.

HANS:

There is a metaphysical statement if ever there was one. So where you already are, right now folks, is perfect. Have you ever noticed everyone that no matter how bad things seem to get, somehow you always get through? No matter how broke you are, no matter how poor you may be in a moment, somehow, something happens and you get through? Have you ever noticed that when you've had a relationship you think it's your end-all, be-all, and this person says: I'm sorry it doesn't work for me. Your heart is broken, it's shattered and on the floor. A year later you wonder what you ever saw in the person because you're with somebody else. 

Just being peaceful, in the moment, will bring to you all the lessons you need to learn. So less expectations is less pain. Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.


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“Online Social Life”- by Hans Christian King

“Online Social Life”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Online Social Life

May 24, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody. Today's topic is "Online Social Life.” This is a question that my friend Dan has asked me quite a few times... and I've kind of avoided it and I know I shouldn't have done that. Because Spirit is ready to address anything. 

But, folks there's a huge amount of people... many of them very young people coming into this world who actually believe that life originates out of the computer screen. Now hear me through, don't get made at me... they do. And they move all of their life - hopes, desires, problems, personal satisfactions out of the computer screen.  And they're beginning to believe that's what life is.

I can remember a time when I had to pull Alfred up short because everywhere we went he brought his iPhone and every time we sat down he was taking emails and sending texts. And I had to say to him: Wait a minute. That's not life. He said to me: What do you mean? I said: No, no, no. That's what you do, that's not your life. And he wanted to argue with me... and then he began to see how dependent he had become.

Alfred, throw something in with this will me will you?

ALFRED:

Business online is a wonderful tool. It really helps you communicate with others. But, of course, what we're talking about here is spiritually speaking... Are you looking for a social life or even meaning online? Could looking for meaning or social life online lead to happiness or could it lead to depression?

HANS:

Exactly, Alfred. And that, Alfred, is one of my main concerns. We have an awful lot of lonely youngsters, teenage children, young adults, who... for whatever their situation is at home are longing for some companionship, for someone to see them, for someone to understand who they are and where they are and what their frustrations are. And they believe they can get that through the computer. But mostly, Alfred, somebody will sell something to these people.

And so one of my pet peeves is that we don't steer our children back out into society at an early age through games, or through fun classes, theater, music, all kinds of stuff that are out there for youngsters today. We don't do that. We keep babysitting them with the computer. And what you're doing is destroying the childrens ability to form natural relationships. The relationships like I had, Alfred had, my parents, his parents, all of your parents out there. 

We did not have the computer to tell us who we were and who we could become if you believe the computer. All the computer is there to do is deliver information. And much of it, when you are searching, has to do with buying something. So what I'm trying to get across to people is it may be time to look at the way we hold value in our children. Because so many kids are so very lonely. They come from, perhaps broken homes, their parents may not be able to see who they are.

And there is this quiet frustration and anger. And may I say folks - suicide. If you can believe that. Suicide from youngsters who feel so alone. They feel there's absolutely no hope. Nobody will every hear them. Nobody will ever see them. But we do have organizations that help these children. We do have groups... even Government money has been thrown into trying to help people to see there's life outside of the computer.

Now about 2 years ago, I think it was, Alfred, maybe 3 years ago, I was blessed to be able to be Keynote Speaker at Agape's Revelation... where we're going next week. But one of my joys was I got to speak to the Young People's Group. And they were just the same as any other kids. They were blown away. They finally got to see what I do and one kid said: Oh, I used to do that when I was a kid. How do you get back and do that? They're involved in programs with each other. They were learning how to communicate with each other. And my heart just soared. It was a big hit. 

And as we go down life's path I want to do more of those. Helping people to understand, helping these kids to understand that they are somebody. Not waiting to become somebody... that they already are. And I want the kids out there to know, that however you perceive God to be, it does not love anyone more than you. You are the reflection of God in human form.

Alfred, when did you come across that awareness for yourself?

ALFRED:

Really when I sold a phone and didn't have a phone for a month. (Alfred chuckling)

HANS:

Oh, I remember that. I was a little worried for you honestly. (Hans chuckling)

ALFRED:

Yes. I actually went through withdrawals. I actually forced myself, on purpose, to sell my phone early and knowing I was going to wait for a new phone to really wean myself off of it that I realized how addicted I was. And that was something I really didn't even realize is that people are searching for meaning, people are searching for something online.

And Hans, what's your opinion of "are online relationships as satisfying as real relationships?"

HANS:

Oh, absolutely not. No, no, no, no. You have to develop, Alfred, a relationship by being "with" someone. Even if its going for a coffee or the two of you sitting on the beach watching seagulls walk by. That's how you develop a relationship. You do not develop a relationship electronically. I don't care what any scientist out there tells me. You will not have the same impact on your life from a computer generated relationship as you will from a personal related person... a person who is relating to you, a person who can see you, a person who gives you actual hugs... a somebody who kisses you on the forehead and says: I see your value. I get who you are. I really like being with you.

You can't get that on a computer, Alfred. And where my fear comes is that no matter how many of these computers are going to be around, for a long time, in the end it will always boil down to the need for human companionship - always.

ALFRED:

And that's what I see as the major issue is people are trying to "replace" human contact with things like posts and tweets. 

HANS:

Yes.

ALFRED:

And what we're trying to say is "no," you have to start from having human contact.

HANS:

That's right.

ALFRED:

And if it's fine for your human friends that you have human contact with to tweet them and post them once in awhile. But a lot of the depression is that people are thinking they don't need to go out, they don't need to interact, that they're going to get the same type of meaning, the same type of fulfillment by using Facebook and Twitter. And what we're really telling you is that could lead to serious depression.

HANS:

Very much so... and to suicidal thoughts.

ALFRED:

Yes.

HANS:

That, folks, is a proven fact now.

ALFRED:

So if you're online a lot and you're feeling depressed, what we want you to consider is the place that you're looking for happiness may be leading you in a direction different from what you're seeking.

HANS:

Yes. And you know it doesn't make any difference who you perceive yourself to be. God and Spirit perceive you to be love personified. And even though you look around your life, kids, and you say: But, there's nothing here for me. It's because you're not creating anything. Maybe you come from a broken home, maybe something bad happened to you as a child and you don't trust society anymore... But Spirit loves you. Every single one of you.

And when you put yourself into a position that says: You know what? There's got to be something more than this. There's got to be something more than me sitting here 15 hours a day playing on the computer and trying to find romance... trying to find someone who sees me. It won't happen. They're all temporary. It's all a mirage. It's all an illusion. And in the end you'll be left empty handed.

Kids, get out there. There are hundreds of clubs, if not thousands, in this nation of ours who will help you if you're straight, if you're gay, if you're bi-gender, it doesn't matter. What matters is you get out and you interact with other kids and young people who are going through the exact same thing that you are. And you're going to find that you'll meet somebody and they'll say: You know what? I really feel a lot like you.

And I want you to know that in that moment when you hear someone say: I can feel you... Oh, my God there's another one, I'm not the only one. Your life changes for the rest of your life in that moment. Okay? And kids, and you adults also, this scolding from Uncle Hansie - stop that incessant putting everything you are and everything you do on the internet. It is going to come back and bite you. So bad is it that even our President has said to the kids: Don't do it.

And some of the accounts out there, that own these accounts, are saying: You know what? You're putting too much information out here. Hold something back that is called "you." Don't confuse who you are with what you do. I don't care that you put out there what you do, but I care a lot that you put out there who you are. Because you don't want anybody out there to be aware of who your little baby angel is until you want to share that with a partner.

ALFRED:

I think it's that people are really trying to replace real life with an online life which is why they're so willing to post absolutely everything. I don't need to this in real life because I can do it online...

HANS:

Right.

ALFRED:

And what we're trying to say is: No...

HANS:

No, you can't.

ALFRED:

First comes your "real" life. And do a couple of things here and there online. But if you're depressed searching for "meaning" and you're replacing physical contact with online interaction, then you really need to take a look at it. Because you're losing your social skills by being only online. You're losing physical contact by being online. You're not feeling anyone's presence. You're not feeling anyone's touch.

HANS:

That's very important. Even a hug, Alfred... for a lot of these people. No...

ALFRED:

A hug, a handshake, what's it like just to be in someone else's presence. All of these things you do not get from online. That energy... you share energy, you share emotions with other people. And the human body needs those things.

HANS:

Absolutely. We were born for love. We were born for affection. And you cannot, children, get that on a computer. You just simply can't. And I hate to say this to you but many of the online relationship people who have said: Oh, I found somebody. I would say to you that 50% of those have dissolved already.

You have to build it. It's a good way to open a door for you. Because what so many kids and young people have out there today, Alfred, is a No Vacancy sign on their forehead. Because something has burned them, something has hurt them. Maybe someone said that they weren't attractive. Maybe somebody said they'll never amount to anybody. But they need to know that the Spirit, when it  looks at you, says: Oh, my goodness you're perfect for me. And God says: You're perfect for me.

And I'm not going off on a religious path. I'm just telling you you guys need to go back to the source. The emotional source where all human beings is that we're baby angels in human form. Pure and simple. And there are organizations, there's social clubs, meeting clubs - free things - won't cost you a dime, that just go sit and listen to somebody or some music. Your chances of meeting people are very, very good if you simply shut off the No Vacancy sign.

ALFRED:

Yeah. And just make an effort. For example, "Meetup." Yes, it's online, but you schedule meeting other people in person. And there's a Meetup on just about every topic in the entire world. There are spiritual groups, there are book clubs, poetry clubs, hiking clubs, bicycling clubs...

HANS:

There's more of that in the United States than anywhere else on earth, Alfred.

ALFRED:

And whether you look on meetup.com or just search for local groups another place, the point is to get "offline" and actually have physical contact with people. Yes, it may be awkward because you have to have a little bit of social skills, but you need...

HANS:

Yeah, but you can't learn social skills without being social.

ALFRED:

That's the whole point is you're going to lose social skills by being online... But get off, get interacting with people. Then you'll find what you're looking for.

HANS:

Absolutely. And you know, Alfred, there's a large group of my clients, that are basically hard working people. Most of them are single. They go to work and they stop at the grocery store and they get home and they say: I'm too tired to go anywhere. Somewhere in that week you can find something you can do where you don't get up the next day to work and you can go and do it. I had one lady say to me: Oh, I'm terrified of driving at night. I said: Have a friend take you. Get out of the house.

ALFRED:

Take a taxi...

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

Just take a taxi. Go to a bar. You don't want to drive anyway.

HANS:

No. And don't go to a Movie because that's more, you know, closing yourself in. When Alfred says: Go to a bar. He doesn't mean to get drunk. He means: Go around. There's some Jazz Bars, there's all kinds of young organizations that play music and have non-alcoholic beverages, and they have all kinds of hiking, swimming classes... All of that stuff. It's out there. 

And for you older people who have given up... you 55, 60 year olds who have given up, you're doing that to yourself because there are plenty of people out there that would love to get a hug by you... plenty of people who would like to share their children with you and you share your children with them.

ALFRED:

Things like classes for us younger to middle-aged kids, take a class at a community college. I took a Welding Class last year.

HANS:

You had a ball.

ALFRED:

It was absolutely hilarious! Take a class. What's it going to cost you at a Community College - $50. You don't need social skills. You sit there and talk about whatever the class is. Take a Cooking Class. Okay? All of these options are to get out and meet other people.

And for those of you sick of the bar scene... Well, yeah, there's a reason you're sick of the bar scene because it's all about ego, it's all about alcohol. So that's what I mean. In a Meetup group, find something you like to do, whether it's a common interest like biking, roller blading, art, poetry...

HANS:

Well there's just so many things out there now, Alfred.

ALFRED:

Yes. Just check meetup.com and use that to get offline and interacting with other people so you can find what you're looking for.

HANS:

Folks, have you ever noticed that when you're using the computer how fast the time goes? You suddenly look up and you started at 7:30 after dinner and it's a quarter to 10? And you accomplished absolutely nothing. If you took that time to run down to your local book store... Because most of the good book stores have speakers for free, doesn't cost you a dime, you don't have to buy anything whatsoever... Just little things like that. That's what Alfred and I are talking about.

Make yourself available for you to get out to become someone... risk becoming someone other than that person who's becoming reclusive, who's becoming housebound, who's only safe going to the market and work and back. Be something better than that.

Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today. 

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“How To Find Your Life Mission” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

“How To Find Your Life Mission” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic:  How To Find Your Life Mission

January 16, 2015

Hans:

Hello everyone. So nice to be back with you today. It's an interesting topic "How to Find Your Life's Mission." You know if you can remember back to when you were a very young child... if you found yourself, for instance, being drawn to coloring airplanes, or mechanical things – I had tinker toys and wanted to put things together, intricate things together. If your parents are wise they kind of know what direction they may want to bring to you. If you find yourself wanting to do something for someone else, a neighbor, go help the little lady across the street who's a widow, just wanting to give and help people and it just comes really natural to you, that's a sure sign that you're going to be in service in this lifetime. Some people have multi-talents, Alfred, and they may head down one road and experience that but that door often leads to another door. Now you remember that don't you?

Alfred:

Absolutely, Hans.

Hans:

Did you find that when you were going down the one road... Did you find that you felt when you were doing that that's where you needed to be at that moment or did you feel you were doing that but there was something else gnawing at you?

Alfred:

No. I knew that's what I was supposed to be doing at that time in my life. There was just some reason, which I didn't understand, that drove me to go in certain directions and do certain things and leave opportunities that people couldn't understand in order to go in a direction that even I couldn't understand.

Hans:

This is often the case and what I try to help people to understand is throughout life Spirit presents us with what I call "Doors of Opportunities" and they'll... You know you say: Well, I want the experience of this. And now their job is to help you to do that but they also see the larger picture and they know there's another thing that your soul wanted to experience so they put in the one but they leave this little second door, sort of always there, sort of almost like gnawing at you just a little bit, like I wish I had a look at this. And eventually that interest, that bit of intrigue on that grows to a point where you actually say: You know, I wonder if I should do that? And I always say to people: Follow your impressions. They are given to you by your Guides, they are given to you by the God-force. Follow your impressions. Because when you simply deal with the mind and the mind chatter and all that goes along with that, you immediately are in limitation. You know, I know people who are so invested in the way something needs to be and maybe they've gathered around them a group of friends who also agree this is the way this needs to be, this is what's supposed to be. But that can't affix a change for some reason. The reason is that they're not supposed to make that change. They are to use that as a vehicle to change themselves. That's what people don't want to deal with, is they have a problem, I find Alfred, in seeing past their limitations. Have you found this to be true?

Alfred:

And that's part of the hard part... is to just begin with the simple understanding that Spirit is there to guide you to a career, a job, a place, to people that you asked to experience before you were born. See all of those reasons "why" you wanted to experience those things were based upon karma, dharma, previous lifetimes, where you are in your soul's growth. Then you come down here and you get bombarded by media, friends, pressure, and sometimes the two just don't match. So Spirit is guiding you in one direction saying you asked us to point you in this direction, thus we're giving you this little feeling that you should do that. And all of these other social pressures, family pressures, are taking you in a different direction. And what we're trying to tell you is if you want to begin finding your path in life, you need to start looking within, feeling within, connecting to Guidance, to find why you're here.

Hans:

You know Alfred, sometimes when we don't feel that we fit or we don't feel we're being recognized by family, or by work, or friends, we have a tendency to blame the situation rather than look at ourselves. And so we find ourself saying: Well, this person doesn't understand me, and this group should be doing this, and this organization needs to change... And we find ourselves blaming others for refusing to deal with the self in the situation. Rather than say you know this situation doesn't suit me or this situation doesn't serve me. What we tend to do is then become victims of this situation, throwing our life's lesson right to the wind.  And we are bigger, we are better than that situation. That situation is not who we are. But we begin to continue to sever... and we build an entire identity around the suffering of the situation. That can be a relationship, Alfred, it could be work, it could be any number of things. But once we slip into that self victimization role, it takes a very long time to get out of it. Don't you find that's true?

Alfred:

And that's a lot of the teachings that we go over is you have a choice and we're explaining to you what that major choice is. The choice is to follow human thought, what human's think is important, what is important or perceived to be important in the physical world or you can follow these teachings to guide you what is important spiritually speaking. Now of course the issue is is because we're in the physical world, the physical aspects of image, ego, money, family, media, that seems really relevant. It's there. It seems like it's real.

Hans:

Yeah. Those are the key word there Alfred – seems like it's real.

Alfred:

And what we're trying to tell you do is see past the illusion. That's why you're here. I think in every major religion they talk about "overcoming." Well, they all define it differently. Our definition of "overcoming" is - see past the illusion, overcome the illusion. Practice being and connecting to Spirit to find your life's mission.

Hans:

Excellent. You know Alfred, I had a client any number of years ago who was like number 3, number 4, in a very large corporation and this individual had worked themselves up from a sales clerk ,as a matter of fact ,clear up to the top and he just couldn't get over the next hurdle. Years went by. They didn't affix the changes that he wanted, they continually bypassed him for promotions, and he began to become a victim of the situation and he kept saying I don't understand why they won't do the things that I know are best for them. And finally one day Spirit said to him: What makes you think they're supposed to? Oh, and then he gave us this litany of reasons why they're supposed to. And then Spirit says: What makes you think that you're supposed to be there anymore? Well, it's my job, this is all I know, this is what I worked for. And they said: No, this is what you've done so far. There's much more for you to do. And he absolutely refused to believe it. And a year went by, and another year went by and Spirit said the same thing each time he came to visit. So finally one day he said I've decided to take a package that's been offered to me by the company. The day he took that package he said, Alfred, it was like someone took a huge weight off his shoulders. Within 3 months, a smaller, fairly established start-up company hired him, heard about him, hired him, for more money than he was making before, with terrific stock options and he's now number 2 in the company and working towards the chairmanship.

Alfred:

And that's a really difficult story. So let me try to explain that because I came from...

Hans:

You lived that I know. (Hans laughing)

Alfred:

... one of those corporate backgrounds. But it applies to everyone. We want to find out what "is" our life mission? But that's not the way the Other Side works. 

Hans:

No.

Alfred:

And Hans taught me this very early to say... because I asked the same question for a couple years and every time Hans gave me the same answer. If you knew your life's mission, you would change it.

Hans:

Yes.

Alfred:

Because you're addressing it from a human perspective. The Other Side is not going to give you your life's mission until you are a spiritual being functioning as Spirit, being as Spirit, and then you won't have any judgment and opinion from a human perspective to change your life's mission. In other words, by the far majority of the people who are listening to this, you're not going to get your life's mission, you're going to get what is the next step...

Hans:

For you on your growth.

Alfred:

... on your life path. Okay?

Hans:

That's correct.

Alfred:

So if you're looking for your life path, like this guy, it's what is the step in front of me. And then once you take that step, the next step will appear and that is how you find your life mission. By far, for the majority of us is if you're looking for your life path – okay, like every other spiritual lesson – look in the now. What is the lesson that is directly in front of you?

Hans:

Exactly Alfred.

Alfred:

And that is your path - what is directly in front of you in the moment.

Hans:

You know, I'm reminded Alfred, that sometimes we keep fishing in the same pond for a fish that doesn't exist in that pond. But by golly we're going to make certain that it appears so we keep fishing in it. And that's what people do with relationships, it's what they do with their employment, it's what they do with their friends. If something, kids, isn't working for you, it isn't for you. There are other options, even though your mind chatter may tell you oh no, there isn't, even if your friends say oh no you can't leave this job, oh no, if you leave this job you're done for. No. Because one day that same job that gave you your identity will be taken away from you whether you like it or you don't like it you're out the door. So all the time that you spent wanting to have this thing show up in your expectations was for absolutely no reason whatsoever. The ego then becomes in involved.

Alfred:

Yeah, and that's something you need to look at. If you keep trying something and it doesn't work, you keep trying something and it doesn't work, you keep trying something and it doesn't work... You have all these friends that keep doing the exact same thing, the lesson keeps getting presented to you over and over and over again. Take a look at it.

Hans:

Yeah. You know there's a saying Alfred that's out there today and I don't know why but it just cracks me up. But so many times in my career I've had to say to someone who is insisting that my teachings don't work for them, or this will never work, or this is too simplistic, or they need to have this change. And then I'll say: Okay, well how's that working for you? Are you winning that battle? Are you getting your point across? Are you affixing the changes you're trying to do? How's it working for you? And most of the time, Alfred, they will say: It's not. And Spirit will say: Then why do you keep trying it? Because I know, they say, that's where I'm supposed to be. You see? So that is their ego taking over responsibility for their life. If you are in a job and that job doesn't work for you, just simply doesn't work... you're not promoted when you should be, you don't get the respect from your peers, from the people at the top, if that isn't working for you, somebody tell me why in the world are you in that job? Why are you doing that to yourself?

Alfred:

And that's the hard one to understand is we're taught to push, to work through the stress...

Hans:

Right.

Alfred:

... to work through being tired.

Hans:

Well, you were taught that. And that's for sure.

Alfred:

Yes, yes. I had it drilled into me. What we're saying, spiritually speaking, that's human. And it's a choice whether to live your life according to human ways or if you want to find the reason you were born, to look at it from a spiritual perspective. If it's not working, then you're off your path.

Hans:

You're off your path. And if you're suffering in your work...

Alfred:

Then you're addressing it from human values, human thought, ego.

Hans:

Right:

Alfred:

If you're following our teachings, you'll understand – there is no suffering. That's a choice.

Hans:

That is a choice. You know Alfred, that's interesting you bring that up. A lot of times I have found that people feel that they're spiritual. People feel that they have the answer; they've grown spiritually. If you are suffering in any element, whether it's your work, a friendship, a job, you are not developed spiritually – period. No matter what you say to yourself, no matter how many lies you tell yourself, you are not. Because a true spiritual being knows there is nothing wrong – period. Nothing. So for all of you who are unhappy in the circumstances in your life, what a blessing. It is announcing to you it doesn't work, time to let go of your perceptions and open yourself up to that true spiritual nature of who you are and your life at that point will really begin to change. Alright, well that concludes the lesson for today. 

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