“Soul Mate Family, Friends and Animals” - Rebroadcast from February 14, 2013 Modern Day Mysticism - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Soul Mate Family, Friends and Animals” - Rebroadcast from February 14, 2013 Modern Day Mysticism -  by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Soul Mate Family, Friends and Animals

September 28, 2014

Jennifer:

Hello everyone. Welcome to GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE - Wisdom for Your Soul. This is Jennifer, grateful to be with you on this beautiful day. Hans is a little under the weather today so we're broadcasting a Replay on the theme of Relationships that Hans has been teaching about recently. Hans will be well very soon. But if you'd like to send prayers to him for a speedy recovery, please do so via The Prayer Request link on HansKing.com.

For those of you who have sent in questions, we do appreciate your patience. Hans will respond to those questions on the next radio show. As for the Announcements this week - Hans' Interview "Transform Your Life By Changing Your Intentions" is playing all of this weekend on “Your Life Without Limits”. You can find the link to this on the Events Page on HansKing.com and on Hans' Facebook Page.

If you haven't already done so, please look for Hans Christian King1, on Facebook and check out Hans' Daily Quotes and Upcoming Events and have a look at our Random Acts of Kindness Event where Hans is giving away Lessons, Classes and other goodies to those who share his posts. All upcoming Interviews  and Events are always posted on Hans' Facebook Page.

That's all for the Announcements this week, so sit back, relax, and enjoy today's Show.

Alfred:

Hello everyone and welcome to MODERN DAY MYSTICISM being broadcast on The World Puja Network. Today's topic is: Soul Mate Family, Friends and Animals. And to discuss the infinite forms that soul mates come from, I present to you Hans Christian King.

Hans:

Good evening everyone. Welcome, welcome, welcome. We have a tendency to forget the value of the people who are presented to us for our lessons. Those come in many different kinds. They come in parents, lovers as friends, lovers as lovers. Even our little animal friends have agreed to come forward to help us to learn to love and to give unconditional love. 

Most of the time we reincarnate with specific parents and soul mate friends because we find it easier to work with people that we've actually worked with and have known before. So what happens is that when we have that little rountable meeting that you've heard me discuss with you and someone who was your mother last time and you were the child says: Well, you know you didn't get the grasp of what I was doing, how about we reverse the roles? And you'll become the opposite of the last role that we had. And you'll say: Well why? And your Guides and Helpers say: Because you're looking at it from only one point of view. You see?

Let's take the lesson for all old souls - the lesson of self-esteem, for instance. We are presented with the lesson of self-esteem because as an old soul it is sort of in the end, it's sort of the last of the things that we have chosen to learn...not an easy subject, my friends. Not an easy subject. So we will have set in place a series of events that have a debilitating impact on the humanness of us. A parent may not ever say I love you. A parent may not be there. Just not show up or be working or gone all the time. A parent may not be able to see who you are to recognize the wonder of who you are and you're always searching, searching, searching, trying to get the parent to acknowledge the importance of you. 

Why would we do that? Why would we put ourself in a situation where we couldn't be seen by the parents? We do so because our soul has chosen to arise above the appearance of humanness to be the essence of God in the form you are in at the moment in your evolutionary process. That just who you are...you've heard me say this forever now...just who you are is enough. Despite what a parent might say, or a boss might say, or anybody might say. So your job is to rise above that. And as much as you may love your parents, the fact that they can't get who you are is not your problem, it's their problem.

Now you've heard me say this many, many times and I know it always sounds like it's insulting, but it isn't. It is a truism: What someone thinks of you is none of your concern. What you think of what they think of you should be very much your concern. I have asked Alfred in the past to expound upon his parents, I have told all of you all of you what my situation was about a father who left when I was 4 or 5 years old and a mother who loved me, there was no doubt about that, had no idea who I was, absolutely no idea who I was. But that doesn't speak to the character of the person, it speaks to the pain of the child. The child doesn't know that it's set this lesson in place, and actually the parents don't know. 

So one of the things that I say to parents these days: Take the time to find out who your child is. Not who you want the child to be. But who the child actually is. Because the child is the embodiment of the Godforce in human form. And attached to that form are a series of lessons that that child has chosen to learn. So it doesn't behoove you to be guilty because you might have said something, or might have done something. What you need to do to help the child advance is to recognize the child. Help the child become better than their current perception.

So we reincarnate with soul mate friends, soul mate lovers, soul mate animals,  based on what our soul has chosen to learn. You agreed in advance that your parents and friends would present karmic lessons to you. They don't know that, and you don't know that. But that's how it works. You can say to me: Oh Hansy, I would never have done that. I would never, ever have set that in motion. But you don't know that. You think you know that, but you don't. You don't know exactly what your lessons are. But if you watch yourself and you keep repeating the same lesson over and over and over...  Like how we choose our partners. If you find you're fishing in the same pond all the time, trying to get a different result, then you have a serious problem. 

If you and your parents realize you and your children have karma with each other... Here we go again: You're not here by accident, you're in fact here by design...by design. So both parents and children have the same vested karmic interest in the lessons we have chosen to learn with each other. You see? 

Now I know that my father loves me. And how do I know that? I know my father loves me because he came back to a very fine Medium one day in Asheville, North Carolina, and he said to me: Son, remember that your mother only has one side of the issue. There are in fact, two sides to the issue. And at that moment, I realized that my mother in her anger, her rage about my father, had started manufacturing things out of her subconscious mind that actually weren't true. So that helped to free me up to understand that my mother had a terrific lesson, I mean really a hard lesson, because she set that in motion and my father had agreed to do what he did, and I had agreed with my father that he would not show up in my life, and I had agreed that my mother would cause all this trouble... All that, you see...all that minutia made me who I am today.

So what you have to do is you have to look at where you came from, and if you're very clever, which you all are, you can watch the synchronicity as you move through your life. As a child you may have agreed to present your parents with lessons. I'm quite certain that I did. Both my parents. You did also. So as a child you have agreed to present your parents with lessons. And your parents have agreed to present you with lessons. As a parent, please look for ways that you might help your children along their path.

Alfred, I would like to bring you in here, and I'm going to just sit here, and I want you to tell the people how you navigated through that karmic situation with your parents.

Alfred:

Well that's a good one, Hans. That definitely is a, oh, I like to say a mind bender, when you start looking at karmic relationships from a human perspective because it's really difficult for the human mind to comprehend that children, for example, have a karmic obligation to present lessons to their parents. And that is really difficult to think: Okay, I can get the fact that as a child my parents have presented lessons to me, but at what point do I, as a child, turn around and present lessons to my parents, and what lessons are those things? 

All of this, of course, is preordained, already agreed upon, and of course we have the wonderful part of nobody remembers anything that they agreed to. But it is part of the enlightenment process. It does become clearer the more spiritual you become, and it does help when you follow along your own path to really just go with the flow, not try to blame anyone, just simply say: I'm following a spiritual path and if my parents want to follow that path and they want to learn from it, great, if they don't want to learn from it, great. That's what I really got out of it.

Hans:

Was that difficult for you?

Alfred:

It was really difficult because you have to follow the lessons of having no expectations. And having no expectations of saving or helping your parents is extremely difficult. I think we get that issue in every single class we do.

Hans:

We do. It's just common.

Alfred:

When children wake up and they become spiritual and they become happy, they instinctively want to help their parents in the same way that they've been helped, and that's an investment, that's an expectation, and it's incredibly hard not to have an expectation that your parents are going to understand you, what you're doing, or that they're going to want what you have. However, it's you job to present what you're doing. It is not your job to have an expectation that they're going to learn from it.

Hans:

I have a question for you. I know how difficult your childhood was. In the process of coming out of the old awareness into the new awareness, what did you do with the anger?

Alfred:

That's part of the spiritual growth is as you let go of your past, of illusions, of opinions, the anger goes away instinctively. The anger is just a by-product of hanging onto the past. And once you let go of the past, the anger goes away. It's the same thing we used to say in the classes that: If you're standing in front of a fire, you can pour water over your head until kingdom come, and you're still going to be hot. What we say is: Pour water on the fire and then you won't be hot anymore.

Hans:

(Laughing) And then you'll be fine...exactly.

Alfred:

So you deal with the root cause of the symptom. The symptom is that you're angry. What is the root cause? My parents abused me. I'm an abused child. Well, I'm sorry those are past events. That's your opinion of a past event, and if you just let that go and live in the now, you won't be angry. And that's easier said than done.

Hans:

Well, I think for all of us, even for those of us who follow a spiritual path, I think it's still hard to deal with the inner child, and soothe that child. We might be able to rationalize, Alfred, that this is what we should do, and there's a reason for all of this. But there still is a little wounding in the child, no matter what happens. That's for you, for me, for just about anybody listening to the show tonight. You make the pain okay. It's okay. It's alright. And I know with you Alfred, if I say to you the plate is hot. What will you do?

Alfred:

I'm going to touch it.

Hans:

There you go. That's what I'm getting at.

Alfred:

I love that. It drives Hans crazy.

Hans:

(Laughing) It drives people in restaurants crazy that are trying to serve him. And they're saying: Hot plate! He'll pick it up anyway...

Alfred:

Well I've learned not to pick it up, I just touch it a little... Nothing like a little pain to wake you up.

Hans:

Oooohhhh! 

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

You got it! 

Alfred:

Yes.

Hans:

You see? Nothing like a little pain to wake you up.

Alfred:

And that's what we try to teach people is when you feel a symptom, look for the root cause of the symptom. It's not: Okay, I'm aggravated, let me go to the Gym. I'm aggravated, let me have a drink or do something else. I'm aggravated, let me do meditation. No. What we try to teach is that if you're aggravated, what is the button that somebody pushed that triggered that aggravation? Look at that root cause and I guarantee you it has nothing to do with being in the moment.

It's either: I'm frustrated, I'm not where I should be in the future, I'm aggravated because something happened...

Hans:

I don't have as much money as I thought was going to have...

Alfred:

I don't know what you're talking about...

Hans:

(Laughing) I know you well.

Alfred:

Yes. So it's looking for the root cause of the aggravation. Yes, you can do it in meditation. But it's getting at the root cause of it and a lot of what we're trying to explain in this soul mate topic has to do with a lot of the things that you have an opinion that are negative, or hurtful, or painful, really aren't. They're actually lessons that you requested people present you with.

Hans:

Yes. You hit upon that and I think it's really, really important. You simply can't blame others for your pain. We all want to do this. We all want to believe our parents did this to us, or our husband or our wife did that to us in the divorce... We all want to blame, blame, blame. But what we forget is - we set it in place. 

The main lessons of this soul mate topic are, for instance, don't blame others for painful relationships. Know how much you love them. But also, how much you will not allow them to put guilt upon you. That's a very big lesson because that guilt is put there deliberately to demean you. It is put there deliberately to demean you because you chose for it to be put there. Your job is to turn to anybody who demeans you and say: Excuse me. That is only your interpretation of who I am. My interpretation tells me I'm wonderful and my God loves me. They have no comeback for that. 

Be grateful, be grateful that you have had all these lessons come into your life because one day, one day when you make that transition...one day, as I like to say when you fall off your perch... One day you'll be able to look back with a bunch of friends and loved ones and see this last episode of your incarnation cycle and say: By golly, here's what I wanted to do and this is what I left having learned. And then your soul soars.

Sometimes I have to say to people very difficult things. I remember when Alfred was getting started, he just fought me tooth and nail, thinking he had the answer. And time after time after time, Spirit proved he did not. That is was nothing more than a lesson.

So what I want you all to hear is there is no way you should ever be so angry with anyone that you lose your self-awareness, that you lose your spiritual being. There should never be a time in your life when lessons are so strong that you want to give up. Because the truth of the matter is you put them in place. And the wonderful thing about it is once you really begin to understand: Oh, I see there's a continuity in what I'm doing, I keep repeating the the same things over and over again. Why are you doing that? What is going on for you that you continue to do this? Time in, time out, over and over and over. It is because you have not learned the lesson of the lesson. You have not gotten the value. But the moment you get the value, it's like this great weight is suddenly removed from you. Relax children. Soul mate friends, soul mate animals, are there for you to also have fun with, and provide unconditional love.

How many of you today emailed someone that you think may be feeling alone and wished them Happy Valentines Day? I did that this morning. I sent out Valentines to people I know happen to be by themselves right now. Think, everyone of you, send one person, even though it's late, send one person a Valentines Greeting. Just a kind word, that's all. And watch how much better you feel for doing that. It will help change your life.

Alright Alfred that concludes the lesson for this evening.