“Accepting The Now” - by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Accepting The Now” - by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: Accepting The Now

July 11, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody. What a beautiful day it is today no matter where you are. This is a beautiful day, absolutely beautiful. Today's topic is "Accepting The Now." For many years you've heard me discuss about trying to look at where you are. You know most people live a daily life that is a projection of what they'd like to see in their life today. But it's "out there." It's out in the ethers. You'd like to have this place, or you'd like to have this partner, you'd like to have this job... And we spend most of our time outside of our own spiritual and emotional arena looking at what "could be." What we'd like to see.

And Spirit always brings us back to the moment of "it is now." Your life is about "now." Where are you "now?" And we simply don't want to do that.  We want to say: Well, I'm here but I'm going there. I'm here but someday I'll be there. And we constantly do this. We constantly live "out there" in the possibility that the mind creates for us. Rather than in the actual moment. And one of the things that Spirit teaches us is that each minute has a value. Each day has a value.

You've sometimes heard me say that on any given day 4 billion people would trade places with you in a heartbeat because their perception of where you're at is so much greater than their reality. We look at it and say: Oh, gee well...  I got the rent paid, or the mortgage is due, or the car payment needs to be paid. And we constantly are doing battle with the “not enough” syndrome. Things are not enough.

A wise person would say to you: Have you all you already need in this moment? If you listen to the emails that come in today, and every week, almost all emails are about what “could” happen... what you'd like to see happen... why isn't this happening... why isn't that happening... And each time you do that you invalidate the lesson of "the now"... the moment of now... how important "the now" is in your life. Remember, we put a series of "nows" together and that creates our life, you see? Not what we fantasize on, not what we imagine, not what we prayed for, not what we hoped for. 

Life is in the moment. Accepting the moment in your life, right now, as the most important time in you life right now. And finding a value. Going out in the garden, finding a flower. Yesterday Alfred and I saw an Iguana who was doing battle with a bunch of blackbirds over some bread and chasing the blackbirds because they were stealing his bread. Now all he knew in that moment was he wanted that bread, and so he scattered everybody else away and puffed himself up and nodded his head up and down and showed how tough he was. But really, he just wanted the bread.

So in your daily life, when you wake up in the morning, say something like: I love this day. I appreciate that I have this day. I wonder what this day holds for me. Not immediately start wondering about this thing or that thing or something else... but just "in the moment," what's in this for me today. Alfred, do you have something on this topic?

ALFRED:

A lot of our clients are confused about the difference between everything you need is “in the moment" and us teaching, and everyone else... a lot of spiritual teachers teaching about manifestation, abundance, things that you want in your life and how do you reconcile the difference between the two? But the reality is they go hand-in-hand together. And how can they? If you have everything, why do you ask for something?

The reality is that in the brain's way of dealing with things.... it holds the energy.  I'm going to happier “then,” I'm going to be peaceful “then,” “when” I'm abundant,  “when” this thing manifests. That is very human way of going about it. Spiritually speaking, you hold your energy in the moment and when you are abundant, you are abundant in the moment. Now asking Spirit to work with things... You can create the energy, ask for the vibration, ask for the feeling, but "release it."

See, that is the major difference... you're not holding the vibration about something manifesting or abundance happening. You are releasing your wish, releasing your desire, and going back to being in the moment. So there is no problem with asking Spirit for something. It's whether or not you are holding onto that energy or releasing it and trusting the Other Side.

HANS:

Thank you, thank you, thank you. As I do this show, I have flowers on my computer... it shows me my different kinds of flowers. And I have to tell you each and every flower is living it its moment. It's not worried about tomorrow. It's not worried about anything. It's just in the moment. And then comes the bee along to sit in the flower. The bee is where it wants to be and the flower is where it wants to be. So in the moment, it is perfect.

I'm just going to run a little scenario here. This is Spirit speaking... this is me speaking. Let's say that you have a nice little one bedroom, or for that matter a studio apartment at this time in your life, and you long for a larger apartment, you long for a bigger experience. Perhaps an experience of living somewhere that's different than where you're living. We spend far more energy producing those thoughts than we do being grateful for where you are at the moment. Acceptance. Being available to know that this "here," wherever you are right now is the foundation or the groundwork for that tomorrow. 

We've set our intention in place. And we "know" that this is so important because we cannot get "there" without being "here." It's impossible. There's an old saying in England that I love that says: The person who starts at the top is certain to drop. This I have found to be absolutely correct. You must climb your way up the ladder. But you start, number one, what I have I taught you - Intention. Making the moment okay for now. Not struggling, not using this to say: Oh, my apartment's too small... or you know I don't like the area that I live in and my neighbors don't like me... No, no, no. Being grateful for “the moment of the now"... that's what's important.

ALFRED:

And being grateful for what you have also goes hand-in-hand with manifestation and abundance. Because if you hold on to what you don't have, you're telling Spirit: I'm not grateful for what I have in my life right now. Why would They give you anything more? The lesson here is to be grateful for where you are in the moment. That understanding where you are is perfect. And if something happens to show up in your life well that would be fine. But it does not take away from your gratefulness for which you have in your life right now... or where you are in your life right now.

And this is very difficult for older souls. Because older souls, as we know, go through more difficult lessons. And that is a very difficult thing...

HANS:

That's very important, Alfred.

ALFRED:

… is to understand that regardless of how long the lesson goes on... how old we are in our lives... to be grateful for the situation that we're in because it's a lesson that we asked for. Okay?

HANS:

Yes. Isn't that one of the keys?

ALFRED:

It is the key because even if your life isn't as you want it to be... as your mind tells you it "could" be, as your mind perceives the way it is, the truth is, for many of us old souls, we're in the middle of what we asked to work for, to work through, to learn, to experience. And it is "that" which you need to be grateful for. It is then that Spirit realizes that you've learned the lesson.

HANS:

Absolutely, Alfred. If I have a deck of cards and it looks full but only one card is missing, can you actually play a game without that card? It would be very hard. So by accepting where you are, in the moment, in the wisdom, in the knowledge, in the understanding that it is part and parcel "of" your dream. Not trying to go to a better place from a place of victimization, from a place of something is wrong, from a place that is the appearance of lack. But a quiet knowing and a quiet understanding that I accept this because this is where I am to be and am supposed to be here, at my request.

This is part and/or parcel of my tomorrows. And when someone comes into your life and they're in your life for a long time but the relationship just doesn't seem to work anymore, we should never throw stones at that person - ever. We should be blessing that person, loving that person, wishing them well. That's what's important is appreciating the moment. Because it's out of the moment that all of your tomorrows come. Okay?

Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.

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“Living Fearless Of The Unknown”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“Living Fearless Of The Unknown”- by Hans Christian King 
Spiritual Radio Show Transcription
GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show
with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com
and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com
Topic: Living Fearless Of The Unknown
April 20, 2015





HANS:
Hello everyone. Today's topic is "Living Fearless of the Unknown." One of the things I've always noticed that Spirit does is try to teach us about how to not live in the human scene and all the fear that it generates. The Spirit once said to someone who said she was very fearful of something... And he said to her: How can you be fearful of it if you don't know what it is? She said: I don't know but I'm afraid of everything.

I think, from when we're very young, we are given things to be aware of, to be concerned about, shall I say. And we have a tendency to look a little towards the darker side of possibilities. In other-words, when a situation comes up, we have a tendency to say: Oh gee, I wonder if it's going to work, what if I get in trouble, what if this isn't for me, what if I lose my job...

So "Fear," as Spirit has always said to me, is its own food. It tends to feed itself. But learning to live a fearless life sounds so simple doesn't it? But living a fearless life means: Refusing to allow fear to be part of your mental and spiritual dialogue. The dialogue you have with yourself. Now remember, that humanness in and of itself, children, is limitation. Humanness is limitation. Humanness is only aware of what it is aware “of.” But it is not aware of all there is.

So no matter who the person is, no matter what category of life they're in, no matter what their teachings have been, no matter what they're trying to teach, all humans have a fear based mentality. So your job, being in the human form, is to learn to rise above the appearance of fear knowing there is nothing to be afraid "of".

You've often heard me say during World War II, Franklin Delano Roosevelt addressed the Congress after the attack at Pearl Harbor and he said, very specifically, an old metaphysical saying: And it said: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” Remember that's all we have to worry about is that when we give power to fear, fear presents itself to us. And it does so in such a way as it presents itself as "real."

Now Alfred, I'm going to ask you to step in here. Your thoughts on these particular subjects that we're talking about today...

ALFRED:
Since I've been studying under Hans for the past several years, I've learned this term called "transcending." I would have never, ever used the term transcending in my prior life that was full of all kinds of very large consulting words that I will not indulge you with... But what does transcending mean? Transcending to me means going over and above, to go past, to go so far beyond whatever you were considering, that you transcend it. 

And the way I look at fear personally is to transcend it. To say: Fear is keeping you from those things that you don't have. Fear is keeping you from all the possibilities of Spirit. And if Spirit is just pure love, pure support, the love that a parent would give a child, the love that God has for you... if that is what you don't have, then do the complete opposite - embrace it, go after it with all your heart. Fear is a human trait. Transcending fear is thinking that you absolutely deserve to have in your life the unknown.

HANS:
Well, all our potential is in the unknown. All of our potential lies in not knowing. In other-words, everything that we do every single day is based on an unknown. In other-words, you're going to go to the market... you're going to go to the barbershop... you're going to go on a trip. But somewhere in your humanness you'll manufacture things like "I wonder how the traffic is... I wonder if they'll have the item I'm going to buy... I wonder if I'll be safe in the car...".

So again, humanness, in and of itself is a limitation. Now Spirit, in and of "itself" is boundless, it's limitless, it breathes clearly, it has no sense of fear or doubt. You ever notice a very young child? Basically, they're born with no fear. My little dog Bella has no fear. She's never been treated to anything that would bring fear into her life so she basically thinks... I call her "AB" - anybody's baby... She just thinks that everybody is just there for her and is wonderful and kind and might have a treat of some kind, you never know.

This is how we should be. Afraid of what? We're mesmerized in the human form by the human condition. We're mesmerized. We believe it. It's on television. The President said so. Some journalist said so. So the way we operate in the human form is to expect that there needs to be fear somewhere along the way, caution somewhere along the way. But when you begin to walk in both worlds, when you have one foot in this dimension, one foot in the spiritual dimension, all of that fear begins to dissipate. And you begin to understand that The Spirit, again, is endless, it's boundless. It affords us the opportunity to truly transcend the illusion of your humanness.

Now people will say: Well I'm here to be human. No, you're not. You're here in human form to work through some lessons. Again, be in the world but not of it. So, you see, we're here, as Spirit in human form to work through certain things we chose to learn. One of them is: Not to be fearful. 

Any advice, Alfred?

ALFRED:
It is a choice. Just as all spiritual lessons, especially when presented by Hans himself, he presents it in a way that it is a choice. We've said many times: Here's a possibility to live your life. Not just not in fear but to embrace the unknown, to welcome to unknown, to be absolutely psyched out of your mind.

HANS:
Well isn't it wonderful, the unknown? Just think of the potential in it.

ALFRED:
Exactly. And considering that it's being presented by your Guidance, by the Universe, by all the love that the Universe and your Guidance have for you to embrace the unknown. What's the difference? The difference is you made a choice. 

HANS:
Because all of your tomorrows are in the unknown. 

ALFRED:
And it simply, believe it or not, a decision to say: I'm going to be psyched out of my mind. I'm so excited about the unknown. Or, to let... da, da, dah, your mind chatter say: No, I'm in fear of the unknown. Believe it or not, when you go deep inside, it's a choice.

HANS:
The more we surrender our human awareness, the more we lose control. And the more we lose control, the more power we have. Because when we turn loose of the way we think it needs to look, the way we think it needs to feel, and we say: I am available for that which is truly to my highest good.

We go back to what we said - that Spirit is limitless. Our associate with the Spirit is limitless. But if we hold on very tight and we say it needs this way or it needs to look that way... Then what happens is we lose the possibilities in the moment. And in the moment is everything... always. In the moment is our life. Not yesterday and not tomorrow. Right here today. So the less control, the more available we become to the unknown. And therein lies our hopes, our joys, and our possibilities.

ALFRED:
Letting go of control is just about part of every spiritual practice there is. Whether it is Buddhism, whether it's Healing, whether it's Reiki... Any type of spirituality there will be these words: Surrender... Let go... Let go of control. Okay? And part of the practice of when you decide to let go of fear is to let go of control of what you have so that you can make space within your being, within your life, for the unknown. So that you make space for your Guidance, for the Universe, to provide you things that you don't have.

So that's why it's the next step, should we say, after you make a choice is to then look at other things such as... Okay, I'm going surrender. I've made a decision to let go of fear... I'm going to let go of control... I'm going to make space in my life. That's part of the process that all aspects of your life follow through with letting go of fear, embracing the unknown, embracing that what is going to be presented for you is for your highest good.

HANS:
Yes. And you know folks, making ourself available is where Spirit can guide us to places we cannot imagine. Making ourself available for us means turning loose of the way you perceived it... the way you perceived it had to look.

ALFRED:
We cannot even imagine what "could" come into our life by letting go.

HANS:
No, you can't. By letting go you say: I trust you to God. I believe in you to Spirit. I'm willing to not have a judgment what I'm going through, what you're presenting to me now, because I "know," beyond any reasonable doubt, it is to my highest good. I know it. You see how that works? You've heard it your whole life... When someone says: Let go and let God. We hear it and we digest it. But do we ever really "hear" it? Let go and let God.

There are times in my life when every path that I was going down was closed. Every single, solitary path... And I used to say to God: Why? And I would get this rather sweet little voice that said: It's to your highest good. You just don't know it yet. But that's the truth, you see? My consciousness, your consciousness, in order to feel good about the conditions of our life try to define what it has to look. And when it doesn't look that way we suffer from something I call - lost expectations. And it's in those lost expectations that fear grows. 

Rather than saying: I don't know what's in this but I'm going to hang on because I'm dying of curiosity and I trust my God, and I trust my Guides, and I trust my Angels, and I know they're going to take me where I need to be. So making ourself available for Spirit guides us to places we can't even begin to imagine.

When I heard the interview between Deepak Chopra and Oprah when she said to him: Did you every dream this? He said: No, I didn't have the capability. And he turned to her and said: Oprah, did you ever dream you'd be... She said: Oh, no. I didn't have the capability. She said: Spirit dreamed this dream for me.

Neither one of these people... even though Deepak's father was a very well known Doctor of Ayurvedic Medicine... even though Oprah was a deeply religious individual... Neither one of them believed they would be in control of billion dollar empires... for good. It's nice to think about it. But they did what Spirit sent for them to do and the rest is history. 

I'd like to talk a little bit about how to turn fear of the unknown into a deep desire for that which is beyond our thoughts. In other-words I want to turn about turning the fear into possibilities. Many years ago, I don't have a copy of it, it could be in my library, I'll have to take a look... A gentleman by the name of Jerry Jampolsky wrote a book called "Face the Fear and Do It Anyway." That's a line from Spirit - Face the fear and do it anyway. We now have programs where people can go on zip-lines and people jumping out of airplanes... What are they trying to do? They're trying to get past their fear which has been their limitation. 

I had a dear lady who was married to a gentleman who, for whatever reason, became very angry and resentful. And she had three children and he was coming home drunk. And they got therapy for him. Nothing worked. He was just this very angry man. And one day he hit her in front of the children. And she called me... booked an appointment. And I said these words to her after hearing her story... I said: Mam, I don't understand why you're calling me. You should have already made your decision. She said: But I'm struggling. And I said: No, you're afraid. She said: What do you mean? I said: You're afraid. You're afraid to jump off the cliff into the unknown. It's time to let this gentleman go. He will be in your life forever because he is the father of your children. But that he hit you in front of the children says to you: Oh, I'm out of here. I will not live under a place that is fearful for me. She did, of course, do the right thing for herself and her children and in the end it wound up being the right thing for ex-husband as well.

When we agree to no longer be bound... to no longer being bound by  humanness, our whole life opens up. 

Alfred, let's talk a little bit about how to turn fear of the unknown into a deep desire or form... say that which is beyond our thoughts.

ALFRED:
There's something I've known for a very time that if you're in control, you're by yourself.

HANS:
Yes. If you're in control, your out of control.

ALFRED:
If you're in control, you're alone. You're alone with your thoughts; you're alone with what you think you know. The other option is to surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally, people who have your highest good in mind at all times, people who know more than you, people who are not in limitation, people who are spiritual. So who am I talking about? It's surrounding yourself with Spirit. Opening yourself up to that. That is the complete opposite of fear. If you're in fear, you're trying to control the outcome, you're trying to buffer yourself, you're trying to protect yourself. Hence, you're pushing away those people who are trying to help you.

That's the opposite of spirituality. Instead the opposite of fear is embracing and surrounding yourself with knowledge and guidance and wisdom and love. That is exhilarating.

HANS:
Yes, it is. I think what is very, very helpful for people is when they realize they have a partner in God... that they have a partner in Spirit. You know what I've noticed throughout the years is, over the thousands and thousands of people I've seen, I would say 20 to 35% of all spirits in human form, these wonderful souls of ours, believe that they're alone.

They believe there is a God, they believe that there are Spirit Guides. But they're not so certain that they have their own Guidance. They're not so certain that Spirit hears them or that God considers them good enough to listen... to hear their prayers. And I want to assure everyone here that the Great Spirit hears everything. Spirit hears everything. They know who you are before you ever came here. They're aware of you. They love you. They support you. It is when you in your need to complete your lessons get caught up in the appearance of humanness. I refer to it, as Joel Goldsmith did... the human scene. The human condition. The human scene and the human condition are about what's "wrong." Not what's "right." But what's "wrong."

And since we're bombarded daily, yearly, monthly, with this constant barrage of the media... It's interesting... Alfred no longer listens to any news. In fact, he barely watches TV unless it's something to do with auto racing. Because he found out that it disturbs his ease. It disturbs his peace. 

ALFRED:
It is, in general spiritual practice, that you want to be happy and peaceful. But going back to what Hans was previously saying is that just feel deep down inside that the family and friends you always wished for are there.

HANS:
Already there... absolutely.

ALFRED:
They are already there.

HANS:
Yes.

ALFRED:
By just a simple perception change to say: I don't have to look for the most awesome friends and family that know me deeply, who already know who I am, who already know my life-path. I don't have to look for them.

HANS:
No.

ALFRED:
They're already there.

HANS:
They're already there.

ALFRED:
And if you take that simple perception change, all of a sudden you "know" by just simply asking and saying: I need some help - regardless of what it is. Even today I'm putting back together one of the computers. Literally had to rebuild a computer before...

HANS:
And you asked. Remember?

ALFRED:
And I said: Guys, this is a little stressful. I don't want to do this by myself. Please help me.

HANS:
This is him talking to his Guidance.

ALFRED:
Reassemble the computer. Okay. Fine. All of a sudden I just put together like about 20 tiny, I can't tell you how tiny, itty bitty, these screws were. Anyway, it just "felt" so wonderful to have these people who just love me and support me and want me to do good by my side helping me do something.

HANS:
Always. 24/7.

ALFRED:
Whatever it is. And it's "that." That deep inside "knowing" which creates a burning desire to get help, to reach beyond what we know, to reach beyond our abilities, to... ready? "Surrender." And to have help doing anything. Any part of your life. It just sits inside you and just feels so wonderful.

HANS:
Yes. You're never alone, children. Always remember - You're never alone. Look at your thoughts each day. See if your thoughts are gravitating towards human awareness or spiritual awareness. Walking with one foot in this dimension and one foot in the spiritual dimension will make your life a wondrous joy.

It doesn't happen overnight people, please. But you start with the intention: By not allowing the mind chatter to find its way to your heart and to scare you. Have no fear. You are never alone.

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“The Appearance of Lost Dreams”- by Hans Christian King Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

“The Appearance of Lost Dreams”- by Hans Christian King 

Spiritual Radio Show Transcription

GUIDANCE FOR YOUR LIFE Radio Show

with Hans Christian King www.HansKing.com

and Alfred Ricci www.AlfredRicci.com

Topic: The Appearance of Lost Dreams

March 8, 2015

HANS:

Hello everybody. What a beautiful day today. Thank you for joining us! Our topic today is "The Appearance of Lost Dreams." I opened my emails this morning and I had 122 Prayer Requests. And I started busily on those as I do because I open each one and pray on the issue for each person. And I would say that probably I've gone through 30 this morning and answered them as best I can. And all of them, almost all of them, had to do with Lost Dreams - The Appearance of Lost Dreams.

Something doesn't happen that we put our heart into. We work so hard and a relationship may flounder, a business may flounder, a job may flounder... Any number of things happen as we're moving through our life. But I would like you all to remember - that the Spirit sees everything. And sometimes They try to warn us and They'll say: Oh, the timing is not quite right for this. Or: Not quite right for that. And we have this little hesitation before we set out but we're going to do it anyway. So sometimes what happens is, we're actually Alfred, in front of our own timing. You've had that happen to you haven't you?

ALFRED:

Absolutely. Even if you know something is "for you," you just have this gut feeling - “time is not real” - especially in terms of spiritual awareness. You may be aware that something is for you. But when it happens in physical form, when it manifests itself on this side, it's all about the flow. Are  all the important people in the flow? Are you in the flow? And sometimes things just don't flow, they just don't gel, and sometimes you're just way ahead of things. That's really tough.

HANS:

Yes. It is because, Alfred, so many times what we do is we pin a hope or a dream onto God loving us. You see? And when it doesn't happen, in our time-frame, it's not necessarily that it's not going to happen, but if it doesn't happen in our time-frame we begin to think: Oh my God, God must not love me, what did I do wrong, maybe my belief system isn't correct, and we begin to tear our belief apart. 

Now what I want to say to you... Remember I always talk about my friend Alexandra, everybody? And when anything would have the appearance of harming her dream, or anything like that, she would turn to it and say to God these words: Oh, I wonder what lesson is in this for me today? And she said to me: Honey, it almost was always that I was doubting my own belief. I didn't know, she said, when God had this. This is when I wanted this to be done. And she's now 102 and she said: But I've learned in my long life, she said, that most everything I ever prayed for came true. One way or another, it came true. And so the lesson she learned was not have a time-frame affixed to a dream. 

When you remove the time scenario from a dream, you let Spirit run with it, literally. And yes, you may say: I'd like to buy this house. And you and your partner, you get together, you put your resources together, you iron out your financing, you look at the possibilities and the cost of moving and everything and you finally get it together and you say: Okay, this is the house we want and this is the dream we have. And you say: I'm giving this to Spirit. And then Spirit doesn't buy the darn house. Oh, dear what happened? You weren't supposed to have that house. It's very simple.

Alfred, have you noticed that in your short life, that you get what you're supposed to have at the right time?

ALFRED:

And that's really, really, really tough to reflect upon. But the most wonderful thing is the more spiritually aware you become, the more you let go of your past, the more you see your past for what it is... I never saw all the miracles that happened to me in my past because I was so angry at the time. But once you let go of the anger, the blame, the could've, should've, would've, you let go of all that stuff. Then you finally get to see your past and what really happened and all the miracles that happened in your past. You don't really see them when they happen. It's when you can really reflect upon your past clearly, that you see them.

HANS:

Absolutely, Alfred. And therein lies the crux of the teaching for today. BELIEVE. If you hold absolute belief... Now, let's use the housing situation... You can attach it to anything that you want. Rather than say: I would like the experience of having that house. Say: I would like to have the experience of a house that has some of these and many of these characteristics and here's how I would like to feel when living in the house. Then you remove from the 'have to have that house' from Spirit. And you say: I believe that a house like that, that has everything I need, is on the way, at the right time. And that's how you begin to dream. A dream is a wish the heart makes. Okay? I think Disney said that. "A dream is a wish the heart makes."

Life, for most of us, is actually longer than we imagined. It's short, but it's longer than we can  imagine. And you're not going to pass away, you're not going to get sick, nothing's going to happen to you on the way to your dream - if you believe. You're going to get a cold, there may be a fender-bender, there may be a lost job. I remember very well, Alfred, this young couple, husband and wife, and they wanted to get their dream house as all couples do. And they applied and they barely passed it because they were both very young with their credit, but they got the loan. And the day after they got the loan, she was let go. Through no fault of her own. The company just decided that they were going to down-size, first hired, first fired. And she says: Hans what do I do? And I said: Tell the loan company. Be honest. Go to the loan company and tell them. 

Do you know what the loan company did? They talked to the escrow people and they gave them a 60 day extension on the deal. And during that 60 days, within a week and a half, she actually got another job that made her, not much but maybe $300, $400 a month more. She called the loan company, the escrow people, and boom they were in the house. And she said: What did it for me Hans, is you told me to believe that the experience was mine.

Don't give up on your dreams because your mind chatter is busy telling you it didn't happen this way therefore it can't happen. Because nothing children, nothing, can be further from the truth. You remember that old saying that says: The Lord moves in mysterious ways, the wonders to be hold.

Where my sadness comes is when I see my beautiful students and all my friends out there and they have a dream and the dream gets squashed in their opinion. In their eyes they see their dream squashed. I'll give you an example. I know this gentleman... Met this wonderful lady and they just hit it right off and within 6 months he asked her to marry him. And she said: Well of course, I'd love to be your wife. Okay, sounds great. So he's busy and she's busy making all of these plans and she woke up one morning and she said: I don't think this is going to work for me. And he had said to me already: I don't think there's anybody I could ever love more than her. So he was pre-setting it. So she came to him and said: Honey, I love you very much but this isn't going to work for me. And she said, rather than continue the relationship, I think I will end the relationship. But know that I love you very much. But I don't feel marriage is the place I need to go.

He was devastated. He called me, he's crying. Set up 2 appointments to try to work it out. And I said: What you are saying isn't true. He said: What? I said: You said: I'll never love anyone as much as that person again. I said: You don't know that. You don't know that whatsoever. He said: No, I know how I am. He said: I'm 42 years old. This is the greatest love I've ever had. I said: It is an opening for you. It has taught you how to love. Now your true love will come in. 5 months lady, sure enough, in comes this other lady, out of nowhere and they are now married and have a little daughter. And he said to me during his Christmas salutations, he said: Hans, I would never have believed it without you. I said: It had nothing to do with me. You changed yourself enough to allow for the miracle to happen. 

So "The Appearance of Lost Dreams" is only an appearance. It is not a reality. Alfred, anything you'd like to say on this so far? You always have these pearls of wisdom.

ALFRED:

A lot of it has to do with simply trusting. Number one, that if you have a dream, that Spirit did hear you. You don't have to pray a million times. That They heard your dreams. But even more important than trusting that They heard you is the simple belief that each one of us has a dharma - a path in life - that we actually had a huge part of creating. And when we come down here, the Other Side has agreed to help walk us through those experiences that we asked to experience. If your dreams, if your requests, are in bounds of helping you experience those things that you wished to, according to your dharma, then they probably will appear in one form or another. 

But the huge aspect of this is those things that you dream for that would take you off your path, are purposefully excluded, as per your instructions.

HANS:

Absolutely.

ALFRED:

Okay? So you really have to believe in the cycle of incarnation and the review process and that 'you' actually created your dharma. 'You' are the one who determined what would be in and not be in your life.

HANS:

Exactly.

ALFRED:

So if you get over here and all of a sudden you see something oh, shiny, pretty, I want that! And the Other Side says: No, you purposefully told us not to give you that because you wanted this over here.

HANS:

Right. You know Alfred, this conversation feeds into spiritual teachings that say: What makes you think anything's wrong? It sounds sort of crass, but there's a teaching: Why are you thinking that anything's wrong? That's using a lower vibration. Okay? Many of you may not be Country and Western fans but I'm a huge Garth Brooks fan, and in one of his songs he says, and I've said this many times before... He says: Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers. 

And I think we need to all hear that. You're not abandoned. You're not alone. Spirit hears you. No matter what your mind chatter says to you, They're working on the deal. Doesn't matter what the deal is kids, They're working on it. And you can say to me: Well Hansie, I've been alone for 20 years. No, you're not. And then I would say to you: And why are you making yourself alone? There are 320 million people in the United States of America. But you think there's no one for you? 

But sometimes when somebody leaves us, or a relationship doesn't pan out and we're heart-broken, that's a real term – heart-broken - we believe that we better lock ourself in a closet lest we get hurt again. On the contrary, turn to that little child inside of you and say: If not this one, God is then sending the next because God has my back and God knows what's best for me. And you can go ahead and cry, you can go ahead and moan and groan, and  you know have a good cry-day. And that's perfectly fine. Spirit doesn't care. But don't stay there and don't believe what its telling you. Okay?

ALFRED:

That's a really tough one, a lot of times, for people to hear that they are the reason something or someone is not showing up in their life.

HANS:

That's right. It's like the man who's standing at the subway station and all the subway trains keep going by because he never gets on when the door opens and saying why can't I catch a train?

ALFRED:

Yes, I don't know how many times you've said...even recently at Agape, where we're going to be teaching classes, that when somebody says I want a relationship and you tell them: Well you need to take the Not Available sign off your heart...

HANS:

Off your forehead actually... 

ALFRED:

....off your forehead. And they wonder why they're not getting a relationship.

HANS:

What I say is: How about taking the No Vacancy sign off your forehead?

ALFRED:

So a lot of that again has to do with the inner work to see not just your past clearly but see where you are presently clearly. To say: If you want a relationship, did you do your inner work so that your soul shines through so that your soul mate can find you. Okay?

HANS:

Alfred, I think that will conclude the lesson for today.

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