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Hello everyone. Today's topic is "The Perception of Death." It's certainly an interesting title, and I want to say to everyone that life is a continuum. There is no beginning and there is no end. In the human form we are guided by a perception that says you become alive when you are born and you die when you die and your soul goes to Heaven and... Basically what it is is throughout our lives we are constantly going to different levels of consciousness to enrich our soul. So when we're here in the human world, we have human attachments. And those human attachments, these wonderful people who love us and... I had a lovely lady come up to me at Agape and she says: Hansie, are you taking care of yourself? I said: As best I can. I said: Why? She says: Because I would die if we lost you. And I said: No child you would not. Because I would continue to impress energy on you after I left. All you have to do is call me. Just ask for me.
Death is something that is not real. All that's happening is that the physical attachment... Let's say the car we bought is getting rusty, it's getting old, but the interior's still fine... So my interior's still fine. I don't believe I'm going anywhere for any number of years to come. However, a lot of people have an awareness that they believe in the totality of death. That when you pass away that's it, goodbye, no more. Nothing, children, could be further from the truth.
A lovely lady at Agape came up to me and said: Hans, my mother died last week and we didn't have a good relationship and I'm so sad we parted the way we did. I said: Were you there? She said: Yes. I said: She passed through you on the way home. And when she got home, she was quickly able to see what had happened. She's at peace now and she's hugging you and saying: Don't believe what happened was who I am. You see? Don't believe what happened is who I am. So it's time for all of us, at some point, to say goodbye. There's no one in this listening audience who will not lose someone. That is the way of life. How you approach it is another matter entirely. Our Irish friends hold a Wake and celebrate and sort of get a little sloshy and they honor the person that Hawaiians do. So many of our oldest cultures honor the person on the way out of this adventure - which is all it ever was in the first place.
Sometimes we have only one friend and that friend is a parent, or a lover, or a loved one. And that person gets sick and terror fills our heart. And we say: What will we do if they leave us? And I would say to you: You'll be fine because God is great, love is eternal. You will never lose...never ever lose the love of that individual. I lost my partner of 47 years some years ago. How did I handle that? Not well. Even knowing what I know, I still suffered. I wound up in the hospital. And then magic occurred. Out of all that. And Alfred showed up. And so what I'm saying to you is there is no beginning, there is no end, there simply "is."
Many of you have relationships with individuals you would have never dreamed you would ever be in with that one. But what you don't know is the "why." So you have contracts with people who will come into your life and you have contracts with people who will leave your life as you will leave your life one day. And what you want to always be certain is that you stay on track to accomplish all that you came in to do the best you can. You may not, children, get to everything in this lifetime. I don't know that I will. But Spirit doesn't look at that. Do they? They always say: And what was the intention? That's where they come from.
At the moment of crossing, the Spirit cuts our silver cord, you know nothing about it, you don't feel anything, nothing happens, you simply go to sleep for a moment. 5 minutes later, if there is such a thing is time, that's what they guesstimate, you wake up and oh, oh, it's you, it's you. Oh, oh I forgot. Oh my God, I forgot...all my family and friends. And then a party ensues. Alfred's Italian so he's going to have a very big party. Aren't you, Alfred?
Absolutely. And that's one of the big things is the mind cannot fathom life without the body because it is the body. However, the soul truly knows that this body is merely an experience and there will be many more of those experiences.
Many, many more.
And you know Alfred, this is how strange we are as Spirit in human form. We say we're afraid of death and every night we ask to go to sleep, to lose consciousness, believing we will wake up. Every night we go to sleep. Oh, for a lovely night's sleep. Oh, oh... We're not afraid to die at all. You see? Because you have a consciousness that's says oh, but you'll wake up. Folks, when you make your crossing you also will wake up. You see what I'm saying? So that's why I say that life is a continuum.
Please don't be afraid of death. If you want to worry about anything, worry about life. It's very complicated (laughing). Death is very simple. The Other Side is beautiful. But you've got to stick it out, finish the job. And you'll know, you'll know that when your partner, your mom or your dad or your sister or brother or your child leaves you, they're in such love, such love. The abundance of love is everywhere. And for all these 60 years I've been in service I've heard Spirit come back and say: I had no idea. I feared for nothing. Everything is beautiful.
Good evening everyone. How nice to be back with you all. Today's topic is "Walking in Both Worlds." One of the great lessons that Spirit taught me many, many, many years ago was that we are really not human with a spiritual attachment but we are spiritual beings cloaked in a human body, if you will. So we're actually Spirit in human form. This can often be a little off-putting for many people because they don't feel that way. They tend to feel the essence of the moment or the moment is about the mind chatter and you know Aunt Sue has, you know, a problem and your mom or your dad are going through something, and so we begin to turn from that wonderful, wonderful baby essence of the angel inside each and every one of us and we start to go into the appearance of the non-reality that is our daily life.
This, I veer just slightly, every so slightly, on that teaching just for a second to say to you: Remember that when your life presents itself every day, there's nothing going on in your life you did not create. I want to hit that home again. Remember there's nothing going on in your life you did not create. You chose your job, your clothes, your home, where you live, your spouse. Everything is a choice. Now, periodically when things tend to begin to fall apart we begin to forget the essence of the little angel. Wouldn't it be fun if we could go back and say to ourselves: I wonder what the angel would say? I wonder what the baby angel would want in this situation? And almost always it comes back: Love and acceptance. You don't need acceptance people, but you do require love.
So these little loving angels that we are that have put on these clothes, and this body of ours in other words, and walking into this world that we're about, sometimes we just lose our way. We lose our wisdom, we lose our knowledge, we lose so much of the essence of the inner-child which is our little angel. So we are, in effect, baby angels having a human experience. That's very difficult for a lot of people to believe. But it is in fact the reality. Who we are in appearance on the external only stays here for 70 to 90 years, that's it. No matter what you do to it, how you clothe it, no matter how much medicine you take, vitamins, no matter what you do, the body will leave you. Always.
So spiritual beings cloaked in human bodies - sort of our focus this evening - how does that manifest? Well when we're on the Other Side and before we're getting ready to come back to this world, a bunch of us get together with our angels, our buds, our friends, and we have a look at the past life and what was it we intended to accomplish before we went to that life. And we look to see did we do what we said that we wanted to do, did we have the experiences we wanted to have, and if not we say, well maybe I'll go back and try that one over again. You've heard me say to you your friends and everybody get with you. And say: Well, I'll go with you. You can work on this with me and I'll work on that with you.
When you arrive here, you have the word within you. And the word is: Love. You don't necessarily know that, but it will be pervasive in your life. That's why we worry about love, will we find love, will love be kind to us, will love hurt us... That is what they call the world outside of us, and visiting us through our mind chatter. The word within us says: I am enough. The word within us says: I and my father are the same. The God-force that is, is me. The God that takes care of me, that provides for me, is in me. There is nothing I need. Because all of my needs have been taken care of since I was born. The world outside of us, which is what we are taught to believe in, as though it was real, presents us with pitfalls, presents us with fear and doubt, presents us with...actually fundamental untruths. And so we tend to follow that fear. We follow that mind chatter to the world outside of us. And people begin to hammer home this is the real world. If it were the real world, it would stay the same. But it's not, it's constantly changing. Because the real world is based on other people's ideas of what is so and what is not so. And they put a number on over everyone and say this will provide to everyone. Be afraid of this, be happy if this happens...
Our entire nation, and most of the world, is being shaken to the ground. As you all know I have what's called My Prayer Request on my webpage. And I get a tremendous amount of emails everyday from individuals, including my dear loving friends you, asking me what happened? Am I going to be safe? Will I ever crawl out of this debt? Will I ever begin to live normally like I did before? What many of you didn't know is that was an illusion you were living in. The United States of America overspent for 30 years and borrowed money for 30 years and borrowed itself nearly into oblivion. We will get through this because we have the most diverse economy on earth. We will get through this. And you've heard me say: But we'll never be the same.
The word within us tells us we are enough. The word within us reminds me, reminds you, that we don't need to search for what we already have. We already are angels. The experience that we seek to have is only something we wish to visit us, it is not us. But the outside world bangs on the door of us telling us we're broke, telling us we're not enough, telling us we're alone, telling us all the horrible, awful things that could happen to us. You've heard me say: That the mind chatter never tells us how wonderful we are. Only the heart tells us how wonderful we are. And every day the Spirit reminds you, in any way they can, how wonderful you are to them.
Trust in your spiritual growth. Choosing what feels best. This can sometimes be a very difficult thing because the outside world tells us what it believes. Our mind chatter tells us what it believes. So you have two things that are just telling you what you should do. But if you listen to the heart... In other words, if you had what used to be called your druthers, which now is your options, if you had your options and everything were equal, what experience would you choose for you in this time in your life? Watch the mind chatter, watch the outside of us try to diffuse that.
I talked to a dear friend of mine today who said: Every time I start to do something for myself I talk myself out of it. And it's been like that since I was a child. I know a person who told themselves: Yes, I can. Yes, I am. From very, very humble beginnings. And accomplished those goals in their lifetime. You get on a daily basis feedback from the Other Side. Who is constantly trying to enforce and renew the wonderful baby angel that you are. It's constantly renewing that angel, constantly saying why not, constantly trying to get you to dream past your limitations. So feeling that baby angel in you, trusting that baby angel in you, choosing what feels best for you...
I knew a wonderful young lady who, some years ago, decided that the experience that she wanted was to be a lawyer. A wonderful profession, I don't poke fun at lawyers, they're very necessary...good lawyers. And Spirit says to her: You're too soft for that. It will be difficult for you. It's not who you are. Well anyway, the outside of her, the outside world, her parents, all the children in the family were lawyers... She proceeded down that path and one day she came to see me. And she said: I didn't listen to your advice. And she said: I'm faced with the terrible task of telling my family, especially my mom and dad, and my siblings, I don't want to be a lawyer anymore. We gave her the courage. Spirit gave her all the courage they could give, reinforced her heart.
And at a big family event she announced that she was dropping, not renewing her credential to be a lawyer. And her parents were absolutely aghast, aghast. And her father said: But why Jane? She said: Dad, it doesn't work for me. It doesn't feel right. And he said: But child you will find your entire life that you do things that don't feel right. And she said: I've decided not to go down that path. I'm only going to do things that feel good to me. And he said: Well honey you could find yourself in a lot of trouble financially. She said: No, I don't think so dad. Because my God, my soul, my Spirit will take care of me.
This same young lady eventually opened a very small shelter for lost animals, lost puppies and kittens. And she turned that into one of the biggest concerns of that particular profession in the nation today. Because she believed. And she believed what she was told by Spirit when Spirit said to her: Have you all you already need. Just like Yoda. Follow your dreams, pursue your dreams, all will be well. And because she believed that, her life changed so dramatically that her parents are just thrilled for her. And her father said to her: You know child, I never would have believed it. And she said: Dad, that's what I was talking about. And she said to him: Did you really want to be a lawyer. And he said: No, I did not. I did not want to be a lawyer. But my father was, and my grandfather was, and his father was. It was what we did. We became lawyers.
It is a very good idea, wherever possible, to surround yourself in a community of like-minded others. In other words, people who see you. People who hear who you are and support that. People who were there to literally add positive energy to whatever endeavor you might embark upon, to open as many doors as possible. The problem that has been out there for many years is so many people don't have or can't find a community where they feel they can go and be loved and appreciated. And so what I say to those of you who want that - create it. Create it yourself. If you have a friend who you believe might benefit from something you've been reading, share it. Talk about it. Find a book that you feel has helped to change your life. I'll mention a few - The Dragon Doesn't Live Here Anymore, you all know I support this book. Spiritual Unfoldment 1 by Grace Cooke (White Eagle).
Get together and read a chapter or two a week. A different soul reading a different chapter each week. Build a community of what I'm going to call light-thinking and watch and see the miracles that happen as others begin to join your group. I've had to, on many occasion, limit the size of the groups that I have had around the country. Because it simply was not able to accommodate all the people that wanted to from our classes in San Francisco and Los Angeles. We have people that came out of our classes, went out, hooked back up again, created little mini, if you will, centers. It's just really groups of people that get together who are teaching what we taught them, who are helping open doors for others who may not have been able to attend the class or maybe wasn't aware that the class was available on-line from our webpage. But finding a community of like-minded souls, souls who refuse to be dragged down by the appearance of mind chatter, world mind chatter, personal mind chatter... There is an old saying "That there's got to be something better than this." I think that was from Sweet Charity, Broadway show.
You know, my friends, you all know the wonderful actress Shirley MacLaine. As I look back over the last 30 years, I cannot think of another soul who brought the awareness of life after death, Spirit, Spirit Guides, Angels. I can't think of anyone who ever risked their career as much as that wonderful person did. And because of who she was and because of her intention to serve and make a difference, she opened doors for hundreds of thousands, if not millions of people. She would not be dissuaded. She absolutely held her ground. And in the end she won because the world has moved towards the light. And there are new people coming on-board today. There are more people than there have ever been saying: You know what? This doesn't work for me. This doesn't work.
Walking in this world and the spiritual world at the same time, learning balance while walking in both worlds... You don't want to completely dismiss all of your life's lessons because you say they don't matter. Because that isn't true. You still will have your life's lessons. However, when you're armed with the awareness that you have one foot in one dimension and one foot in another dimension, you can literally, and I mean literally, motivate your life in wondrous ways. Your human self looks at a particular situation as a catastrophe. Your spiritual self will say: Ah, but that's only the appearance and what can we learn from this today? How can we be better? How can we use this to grow? How?
You know folks, the best plants in the world, the best bushes, the best trees, all grow in the dark. We never grow in the light, we always grow towards the light. Armed with the essence that you are Spirit in human form and you connect to that form, the Source, if you will, you can sail through life in many, many, many different directions, always. But always knowing that that God is your Source and being very aware of how much the mind chatter tries to interfere with our peace.
Having an awareness, knowing to balance between the two worlds helps create a belief within ourself. A belief that we are the Spirit operating in the human form. And when you learn to do that, there's this sense of a wonderful freedom. It's like a heavy weight suddenly is lifted from you and the divine you begins to emerge in such a way as to create all these wonderful possibilities. You see? The divine you has been pushed down behind your heart chakra. And it lives back there in the hopes that maybe someday its light will shine greater than the lies that the mind chatter and the world are creating for you. And it dreams to take you back to the essence, if you will, of who you are. Never pondering pain, never pondering how life is out there, never worrying about all the stuff on the television and the newspapers. Oh my goodness people, go to the garden please. Go to the garden. Feel the wonder of God surrounding you. Look at the clouds, see a kitten, see a baby with its parents. Go to the park, it's free. Feel God in action.
Belief, knowing. Knowing that no matter what happens, no matter what transpires you will always be fine. You have nothing to fear. No matter how bad things get. Even if you get a pink slip. I had a wise friend who used to say to me: Kid, he said, there's only two ways any one thing can go for you - either fer ya or agin ya. And if you're prepared for either eventuality, you'll be just fine in life. Having the belief that says: I know in my heart I am okay. I know that Spirit is my co-pilot. I know God does not love anyone more than me. I believe.
Folks, I have to bring up a difficult subject called patience. Now we all know patience, don't we? Patience is when we feel we would like for something to show up and Spirit says: Eventually. But before you can do that you have to do this. Patience. Setting your feet, and your heart, upon the path of a new experience, letting go of it, giving it to the Spirit and saying: To my highest good please, thy will be done on this issue. And believing that you are not being ignored, believing they're busy at work trying to manipulate energy and possibilities and people to bring you to that wonderful conclusion.
I will say to all of you there has never been anything in my life that I have ever asked for, ever, that I did not get. Mind you, there were times when I had to ask myself why I asked for certain things (laughing)... So the old adage of: Be careful what you wish for, pray for. But you are entitled you know. All of you. You are entitled to your heart's desire. That is the law of life. For Heaven's sake, my angels, have fun. Have fun. Don't take life so seriously that you ruin each day.
I saw a bumper sticker and it just really pained me. It says: Life is what you do while you're waiting to die. And I thought: How horribly cynical. I wonder, I said to myself, if people actually believe that. Life is what you do - period. Life is what your dharma speaks to. Whatever your path speaks to. Every day of your life find something beautiful. I look at Bella in the morning, my little Shih Tzu. And she is small for a Shih Tzu. She looks like this little toy. And every day I say to her in the morning: Thank you for coming to visit my home. I love you very much. Even when you're naughty, I still love you.
You know our animal friends, our daily life, has the potential to teach us in a wonderful way...in a wonderful way. Have fun every day. Even though, my friends, you don't feel like having fun. Remember I told you that every day my dad used to wake up to make somebody laugh? He did. Every day of his life that he had an awareness. He did have dementia in the end. He made somebody laugh. He made me laugh every day. He used to pull tricks on me. He loved to tell me something and it not be true and then he'd laugh and laugh and laugh because he thought it was the funniest thing.
Have fun with life. Don't take it so seriously. The only part of you that will ever turn out for you is the little child inside of you, the baby angel having the human experience will always be there for you, will never let you down. Only the mind chatter is capable of doing that.
Topic: Best of 2012 and 2013 – Soul Mate Relationships - Revealed!
February 14, 2015
Part One: "Soul Mate Relationships."
Good evening everyone. It is so nice to be back with you this evening. We've picked a topic that I believe presses more buttons in our life than any other single topic. And the topic of course is "Soul Mate Relationships." Why are relationships so complex? During the next 3 to 4 weeks we're going to be dealing with various kinds of relationships because we have soul mate relationships in all kinds of forms and as I said last week, even some animals become soul mates for us. So this is our opportunity to help you to understand that soul mate relationships are very complex and yet quite understandable if you understand the principles and why they occur. So if someone were to say to me: How and why Spirit guides us to soul mates? It's because it's a pre-recorded condition. In other words, there is a contract in place between you and others.
You've often heard me say that before we reincarnate we have a sit-down and look at our last life, sometimes both lives, previous lives, to get an understanding of what we were trying to accomplish, what goals were we working on, what relationships, what soul mate relationships were guiding us and helping us then. So that we get a clear understanding of what we would like to work on as we travel back to this particular dimension in this planet.
Now, we've also discussed how we sit at that big table, after looking at the past lives, and we sort of say to each other: Okay, well I think I'm going to go back because there's some stuff I want to work on. Here's what I think I want to work on. And so a list is made of the various things you wish to work on. And then people that you have worked with before who are also at the table, they tend to come forward and they say: Alright, well Alfred I'm going to help you with this because you helped me with that before. What is it you would like me to challenge you with? And so a design, an outline, is etched, and as it's etched more people come in to offer whatever help they can. Because there's things they want to do to enhance their higher good at the same time they're helping you. In other words they become mirrors. You see?
So the Spirit, once it has the outline, the Force if you will...once it has the outline of what this particular incarnation is going to be like for you, or for Alfred, they begin to put into place a series of events, introductory events. Events that bring people to us we never would have dreamed would ever come into our life. I've heard people say to me: It takes a long time to fall in love. That is absolutely untrue. I have out there today many, many couples, all different kinds, who when they met a certain person, it was settled. They knew, the person knew, that was it, and the struggle for the development of the relationship was over. Now the incredible complexity of the relationship begins. So Spirit knows what our Master Plan is. Spirit is working with us, with our permission, we ask for the help, we are being involved with the help and slowly a pattern is set. In the beginning sometimes Spirit simply runs someone under our nose who simply says a word or two or illustrates something or does something that catches our attention. You see?
I once related to all of you that I was once involved in a very large lawsuit in San Francisco. None of which had anything to do with me whatsoever. And as a young man I was really quite fussing and fretting and I was taking a cable car ride over Knob Hill down to California Street and a quite elderly woman with a beautiful cane, pillbox hat, beautifully dressed, crossed the street. And as I saw her crossing the street, I got down off the trolley car to help, she was probably 85, 88. And she got up and I gave her my seat and she said: Well thank you young man. And then as we got to California Street, she grabbed my hand. And she squeezed very, very hard and she said: Don't worry son. It'll be over soon and everything will be alright. God bless you. And she got off the trolley car and walked away. And I thought: How very strange. And then Spirit said to me: No, she's letting you know everything will be alright. That was all she ever was supposed to do for you.
So you see, people come into our life sometimes, the Spirit guides those people at certain pivotal times, they guide us and show us... Okay, now we have free will in place but here is someone who will help you with your free will. You know we choose who we wish to interact with before we were born for many reasons, including lessons. Oh lessons, of course, we all know about lessons. So knowing about lessons, which are on-going, omnipresent in our life, sometimes what we don't realize is that the lessons that we're going through that look so painful are really for our highest good. And sometimes and old friend, an old soul mate friend delivers the lesson. And sometimes the lesson can be very, very painful. But we need to bless that person when they depart. Because without that pain...
I said to you recently that the pain of my mother was that we never spoke for thirty some years. And when she died, I remember saying to you folks, Spirit said to me: You should get on your knees and kiss her feet for the lessons that she taught you because you would not be the person you are today without her behavior, which is what you asked for. And you know no matter how many times I've taught that lesson, no matter how many times I wanted to pretend I knew all that, when it comes to me it's quite a different matter sometimes you see. So I was teaching and my mother was mirroring all the disconnect, all the disconnection, all the abandonment, all of those issues, I asked her to do. God love her. Because if she hadn't been who she is I would not be who I am today. I would not be able to empathize with people who say: My parents didn't love me or my dad didn't know me or my mother didn't love me. And I can get in there and work with them now, Guidance helps me as we work with them to help them to understand oh what a blessing they are to you.
The last couple of shows I've been trying to show all of you that that pain that is caused by the appearance of abandonment, selfishness, by those that we hold dear or are supposed to hold dear, our parents, siblings, are actually nothing more than lessons we chose to learn. Therefore we cannot blame them and I know many of you say: I just can't buy into that. It's too painful to believe I would have asked for this. But you did. You did. You asked for these lessons, people to act as mirrors. So before you were born, for many reasons including lessons, you put this in place.
You know folks, soul mates are chosen according to our past incarnations, you know like our karma and the law of free will. In other words, we made decisions during our previous couple of lives and in those lives we said we wanted to complete this goal or that goal, all to the betterment of our soul. We wanted this experience, we wanted that experience, the experience of lack of money, the experience of lack of ego, self-ego, the appearance of being someone that we would not even choose today to be a friend to. We chose those lessons to toughen our soul, to rise above, to rise above. And a lot of times we don't get there in each lifetime. And this causes a reaction when we get home because when we see this we...oh lord, look at the karma we put in place, oh I didn't mean to do that, I should have exercised better free will. So we look at this and it starts to fold us into a better awareness of what we would like to see and accomplish in the next lifetime.
So soul mates are chosen according to our past reincarnations. You see? Attached to that are some karmic obligations that we need to look at that we put in place and maybe we're not too happy with and we'd like to address some of those. But always the law of free will allows us to make that decision but you don't have to. The problem is that when you get back home again, you're sort of saying oh darn, I had that opportunity to fix that and I chose not to do it. I listened to my mind chatter. I listened to that silly mind chatter that caused me so much problems this time and has caused me so much problems in the past. I've got to get out of that place.
Many soul mates may have agreed to be a mirror. This is important. Really important. A soul mate may have agreed to be a mirror for you. So you may not like them. You may get angry with your parents, you may get angry with your siblings, you may get angry with family and relatives. But remember something that you cannot deny kids, you chose them to do what they're doing. How then can you be angry with them? You may not choose to like their behavior but their behavior and who they are are two different things entirely.
I had someone say to me once... I went to an event and there was a Medium taking the podium and he looked down and me and said: You know sir, your mother loves you more than you know. And I said: I don't think so. And he said: I reaffirm. Your mother loves you more than you know. And so what happened with that information is that it caused me to take a look at how I was holding that relationship. And the way I was holding it was of no benefit to her, absolutely no benefit to me, and accomplished and proved absolutely nothing except my humanness was hurt.
So these soul mates that we'll be talking about over the next 3 weeks, these soul mates are terribly, terribly important to the larger picture of who we are. So many of you struggle with this concept. But we know that everything is perfect in the universe, it needs no help. So if everything is perfect in the universe how can anything be really wrong? You've heard me say at the end of each show "You know God doesn't love anyone more in this world than you". I cannot tell you how many emails I've had from people saying: I love that statement. I wish it applied to me. I wish I could believe that that's true. Now, how did they get to that reasoning? Right away you see there's a lesson here. What is the lesson? You are already enough. We've gone over this many times. By letting go of the preconceived judgment and allowing whatever soul mate or person to develop you without them even knowing it, you open yourself up to all kinds of possibilities.
What if...you've heard me say this for a long time now. What if you you found out that absolutely nothing was wrong? That there was lessons you were supposed to learn... There are always children, exceptions to every rule. You would never set up to be molested for instance. You would never set up to be murdered or to murder somebody. These are human exceptions that people who don't believe in Spirit and the law of life. Sometimes these are people who have very, very poor relationships with themselves, very angry with themselves. Sometimes they are literally mentally unbalanced, chemically imbalanced, rage imbalanced. But most of us will never experience any of that. Relationships as we said, with soul mates, are arranged when you request to be incarnated. So you said you wanted to be here. You said it. Now I'm going to ask Alfred if he would step in here for me and kind of give you folks his idea of sort of what I'm talking about. I hate to do this to him, I just...he's busy typing, doing all the stuff...
It's all right Hans. I'm right here.
Ah well good.
Excellent. I was trying to come up with an example of a soul mate relationship that changed my life. And I came to a really funny example. For the longest time in my life, I think until I was about 35, I couldn't eat bananas. Just bananas drove me absolutely crazy. I couldn't stand the smell of bananas and...
That's strange now. (laughing)
Yes. And all of a sudden I had a friend who says: What's wrong with you? My friend says: Why can't you eat bananas? I said: I don't know. The smell just drives me crazy. And so she just kept pressuring me, and pressuring me, here try this banana, try this banana, take a little bit, try this little banana, just try this little bit. After about an entire year I finally got to eat a bite of banana. Well to make a long story short, about 2 or 3 years later bananas are one of my favorite things. What's the point here? You can think of this as she was a soul mate that was there to help me get over an issue. Well what was the issue? Well the issue was I went and did a past life regression and back in the days where they had sails, not motors, I was sailing across from Europe to America, and by the end of the voyage what's the last thing that is left on the boat is rotten bananas. And guess what? It was the smell that I remember.
So as I was starving, the only thing that was left to eat on the boat was bananas. So this particular soul mate helped me get over that issue. It's an extremely simple lesson that people appear into your life and push your buttons and stick a banana into your side until you get over it and realize: Oh, I can let that go. I can get on with my life now.
That old adage of "Get Over Yourself and Get Our of Your Way." Great lesson.
Yes. And you don't realize it but for example parents present you with lessons to help you get over self-esteem issues. Friends that out of nowhere that reject you and you really don't have any clue why. People push your buttons. Ready? By your request. And, you ready? For your own good. And that's the craziness about soul mate relationship. The only other thing I have to say about this is the worse the lesson, the more you should thank the person who is presenting it to you.
Yes. Because the harder the lesson...
The harder the lesson. Because why? Because you're on the Other Side and you're saying: Okay, I've got a real tough one. Okay, I really need you to present this to me. I don't want to be that much of a jerk. I need you to be that much of a jerk. But you know what a pain in the neck it is for me to be that much of a jerk? I'm sorry, but I have to ask you to do this, okay? So this person agrees to be, for lack of a better word, a complete royal jerk and push your buttons for what may seem like years, and you may not even get it in this lifetime, and then you're completely mad at this person for doing what you asked them to do. That is the definition of a soul mate. Talk about a mind-bender. So the people who present you with the hardest lessons are actually your truest friends. Granted they don't know it at the time.
But that's just like your parents, my parents, Hans' parents, and anybody who's a soul mate probably has parents that you absolutely don't understand, they don't know who you are, and you're going to go back to the Other Side and say: Wow, that was really tough. Thank you for presenting that to me. How's that for changing your perception?
Because it's true. It's absolutely true. And sometimes people, for instance Alfred, who we've been... Let's say we have a boss and the person's been our boss for 15, 20 years. And one day they tell you they have to let you go. But they don't really say why. They just say: Well, we're downsizing or this or that. And we suddenly find ourself disliking this person. How dare this person do this? How could they do this to us? But we never stop to think these words: Perhaps it's time to go from this job. Perhaps this job is keeping you from moving forward. And this individual agreed to do this to you, for you. You see? But that's not how it feels at the moment does it? It feels like woe is me, look what's happened to me. So thank you, Alfred.
You're welcome Hans.
Spirit delivers, with the loving guidance of the universe, according to your request. So they look at all the situations. They line up the people, if you will throughout the 70 to 80 years that we're here. They line up the various people who agreed to hold up a sign post or hit us over the head with it to get our attention. And as you now, when you get to be a little later on in life you kind of look back and you see the synchronicity of it all and you go: Wow, that's amazing. So I lost this job, I thought I had to have. But I had no idea that this was going to open up over here. Or I had to get a divorce but I had no idea that because I got a divorce I can marry this person over here. So I go back always to the preface: What if you found out nothing was actually wrong? Only sometimes, mind chattering a little. Learning to cope. For those of you who have been down that long, dark road of this last recession and you found that you've lost your job, you may have lost your home, you may have lost your relationship and your car... The pain of it, a lot of it comes from not being able to maintain the situation that actually was no longer maintainable.
As the country shifted out of the years of gluttony and more towards the world of common sense, we all down-sized. Alfred and I did. A lot of people had to down-size. But out of the down-sizing came all kinds of wonderful opportunities and this is where various soul mates have come into play. Alfred and I can look back and say to you honestly well this person came out of nowhere, that person came out of nowhere, this thing happened that I never would have believed could have happened, not even in our wildest consciousness would we believe that could have happened. But it did.
So soul mates play a tremendous role in our life. Some come in but for a word or two, as the lady on the trolley car. Some come in for a week, maybe one conversation. You ever have a conversation with somebody that just took up and you just heard a talking but you felt so much better because you felt like they heard you? They can hear what you were trying to say. They can see you. A soul mate passing by to reinforce you. So Spirit delivers with the loving guidance of the universe according to each and every one of your requests. When you go back and you get your facts sheet out and you start to check off - well did I do this? Well that looks good, I like that one. I did that one, oop I didn't like that one, I shouldn't have have... All those people over 70, 80 years one day that all helped you will be present for you to say thank you to. Even the ones that you believe caused you terrible pain, they were supposed to.
You've often heard Spirit and I say to you: “Don't hold on to anything because nothing lasts.” Everything in your life is passing by. Everything. Over the last 3 years I've been literally forced to look at all the stuff that I had and I have to tell you I had a lot of stuff. It was years and years and years of collecting things, things that people left to me. And now I find myself just wanting the things that mean the most to me around. And I realize that I was trying to hang on to a bunch of other family members' dreams, hopes. And I couldn't carry their hopes and their dreams but they taught me so much. Each and every person was there for me. And I look back, and even in the roughest of times, I realize that those soul mate people or those old soul people, you see, those soul people who agreed to help me with lessons are actually nothing more than angels helping me to get through.
Part Two: "Soul Mate Family, Friends, and Animals."
Good evening everyone. Welcome, welcome, welcome. We have a tendency to forget the value of the people who are presented to us for our lessons. Those come in many different kinds. They come in parents, lovers as friends, lovers as lovers. Even our little animal friends have agreed to come forward to help us to learn to love and to give unconditional love.
Most of the time we reincarnate with specific parents and soul mate friends because we find it easier to work with people that we've actually worked with and have known before. So what happens is that when we have that little round-table meeting that you've heard me discuss with you and someone who was your mother last time and you were the child says: Well, you know you didn't get the grasp of what I was doing, how about we reverse the roles? And you'll become the opposite of the last role that we had. And you say: Well why? And your Guides and Helpers say: Because you're looking at it from only one point of view. You see?
Let's take the lesson for all old souls - the lesson of self-esteem, for instance. We are presented with the lesson of self-esteem because as an old soul it is sort of in the end, it's sort of the last of the things that we have chosen to learn. Not an easy subject, my friends, not an easy subject. So we will have set in place a series of events that have a debilitating impact on the humanness of us. A parent may not ever say I love you. A parent may not be there. Just not show up or be working or gone all the time. A parent may not be able to see who you are to recognize the wonder of who you are and you're always searching, searching, searching, trying to get the parent to acknowledge the importance of you.
Why would we do that? Why would we put ourself in a situation where we couldn't be seen by the parents? We do so because our soul has chosen to rise above the appearance of humanness to be the essence of God in the form you are in at the moment in your evolutionary process. That just who you are...you've heard me say this forever now...just who you are is enough. Despite what a parent might say, or a boss might say, or anybody might say. So your job is to rise above that. And as much as you may love your parents, the fact that they can't get who you are is not your problem, it's their problem.
Now you've heard me say this many, many times and I know it always sounds like it's insulting, but it isn't. It is a truism: “What someone thinks of you is none of your concern. What you think of what they think of you should be very much your concern.” I have asked Alfred in the past to expound upon his parents, I have told all of you what my situation was about a father who left when I was 4 or 5 years old and a mother who loved me, there was no doubt about that, had no idea who I was, absolutely no idea who I was. But that doesn't speak to the character of the person, it speaks to the pain of the child. The child doesn't know that its set this lesson in place, and actually the parents don't know.
So one of the things that I say to parents these days: Take the time to find out who your child is, not who you want the child to be. But who the child actually is. Because the child is the embodiment of the Godforce in human form. And attached to that form are a series of lessons that that child has chosen to learn. So it doesn't behoove you to be guilty because you might have said something, or might have done something. What you need to do to help the child advance is to recognize the child. Help the child become better than their current perception.
So we reincarnate with soul mate friends, soul mate lovers, soul mate animals, based on what our soul has chosen to learn. You agree in advance that your parents and friends would present karmic lessons to you. They don't know that, and you don't know that. But that's how it works. You can say to me: Oh Hansie, I would never have done that. I would never, ever have set that in motion. But you don't know that. You think you know that, but you don't. You don't know exactly what your lessons are. But if you watch yourself and you keep repeating the same lesson over and over and over... Like how we choose our partners. If you find you're fishing in the same pond all the time, trying to get a different result, then you have a serious problem.
If you are parents, realize you and your children have karma with each other. Here we go again: You're not here by accident, you're in fact here by design. By design. So both parents and children have the same vested karmic interest in the lessons we have chosen to learn with each other. You see?
Now I know that my father loves me. And how do I know that? I know my father loves me because he came back to a very fine Medium one day in Asheville in North Carolina, and he said to me: Son, remember that your mother only has one side of the issue. There are in fact, two sides to the issue. And at that moment, I realized that my mother in her anger, her rage about my father, had started manufacturing things out of her subconscious mind that actually weren't true. So that helped to free me up to understand that my mother had a terrific lesson, I mean really a hard lesson. Because she set that in motion and my father had agreed to do what he did, and I had agreed with my father that he would not show up in my life, and I had agreed that my mother would cause all this trouble. All that, you see, all that minutia made me who I am today.
So what you have to do is you have to look at where you came from, and if you're very clever, which you all are, you can watch the synchronicity as you move through your life. As a child you may have agreed to present your parents with lessons. I'm quite certain that I did. Both my parents. You did also. So as a child you have agreed to present your parents with lessons. And your parents have agreed to present you with lessons. As a parent, please look for ways that you might help your children along their path.
Alfred, I would like to bring you in here, and I'm going to just sit here, and I want you to tell the people how you navigated through that karmic situation with your parents.
Well that's a good one, Hans. That definitely is a, oh I like to say a mind bender, when you start looking at karmic relationships from a human perspective. Because it's really difficult for the human mind to comprehend that children, for example, have a karmic obligation to present lessons to their parents. And that is really difficult to think: Okay, I can get the fact that as a child my parents have presented lessons to me. But at what point do I, as a child, turn around and present lessons back to my parents, and what lessons are those things?
All of this, of course, is preordained, already agreed upon, and of course we have the wonderful part of nobody remembers anything that they agreed to. But it is part of the enlightenment process. It does become clearer the more spiritual you become. And it does help when you follow along your own path to really just go with the flow, not try to blame anyone, just simply say: I'm following a spiritual path and if my parents want to follow that path and they want to learn from it, great, if they don't want to learn from it, great. That's what I really got out of it.
Was that difficult for you?
It was really difficult because you have to follow the lessons of having no expectations. And having no expectations of saving or helping your parents is extremely difficult. I think we get that issue in every single class we do.
We do. It's just common.
When children wake up and they become spiritual and they become happy, they instinctively want to help their parents in the same way that they've been helped, and that's an investment, that's an expectation, and it's incredibly hard not to have an expectation that your parents are going to understand you, what you're doing, or that they're going to want what you have. However, it's you job to present what you're doing. It is not your job to have an expectation that they're going to learn from it.
I have a question for you. I know how difficult your childhood was. In the process of coming out of the old awareness into the new awareness, what did you do with the anger?
That's part of the spiritual growth is as you let go of your past, of illusions, of opinions, the anger goes away instinctively. The anger is just a by-product of hanging onto the past.
And once you let go of the past, then the anger goes away. It's the same thing we used to say in the classes: If you're standing in front of a fire, you can pour water over your head until kingdom come, and you're still going to be hot. What we say is: Pour water on the fire and then you won't be hot anymore.
(Laughing) And then you'll be fine...exactly.
So you deal with the root cause of the symptom. The symptom is that you're angry. What is the root cause? My parents abused me. I'm an abused child. Well, I'm sorry those are past events. That's your opinion of a past event, and if you just let that go and live in the now, you won't be angry. And that's obviously easier said than done.
Well, I think for all of us, even those of us who follow a spiritual path, I think it's still hard to deal with the inner child and soothe that child. We might be able to rationalize, Alfred, that this is what we should do, and there's a reason for all of this. But there still is a little wounding in the child, no matter what happens. That's for you, for me, for just about anybody listening to the show tonight. You make the pain okay. It's okay. It's alright. And I know with you Alfred, if I say to you the plate is hot. What will you do?
I'm going to touch it.
There you go. That's what I'm getting at.
I love that. It drives Hans crazy.
(Laughing) It drives people in restaurants crazy that are trying to serve him. And they're saying: Hot plate! He'll pick it up anyway.
Well I've learned not to pick it up, I just touch it a little. Nothing like a little pain to wake you up.
You got it!
You see? Nothing like a little pain to wake you up.
And that's what we try to teach people is when you feel a symptom, look for the root cause of the symptom. It's not: Okay, I'm aggravated, let me go to the gym. I'm aggravated, let me have a drink or do something else. I'm aggravated, let me do meditation. No. What we try to teach is if you're aggravated, what is the button that somebody pushed that triggered that aggravation? Look at that root cause and I guarantee you it has nothing to do with being in the moment. It's either: I'm frustrated, I'm not where I should be in the future, I'm aggravated because something happened...
I don't have as much money as I thought was going to have...
I don't know what you're talking about...
(Laughing) I know you well.
Yes. So it's looking for the root cause of the aggravation. Yes, you can do it in meditation. But it's getting at the root cause of it and a lot of what we're trying to explain in this soul mate topic has to do with a lot of the things that you have an opinion that are negative, or hurtful, or painful, really aren't. They're actually lessons that you requested people present you with.
Yes, I think Alfred, you hit upon that and I think it's really, really important. You simply can't blame others for your pain. We all want to do this. We all want to believe our parents did this to us, or our husband or our wife did that to us in the divorce... We all want to blame, blame, blame. But what we forget is - we set it in place.
The main lessons of this soul mate topic are, for instance, don't blame others for painful relationships. Be grateful for the lessons learned from others. Kind of relax. Sometimes soul mate friends and animals are there to have fun and provide unconditional love. Learn to see things from a different point of view. Don't blame others for painful relationships. If you are in a relationship with someone and you're in pain all the time you need to ask yourself why. And if the relationship is not working you don't want to become a victim of it. You want to be certain that your parents know how much you love them. But also, how much you will not allow them to put guilt upon you. That's a very big lesson because that guilt is put there deliberately to demean you. It is put there deliberately to demean you because you chose for it to be put there. Your job is to turn to anybody who demeans you and say: Excuse me. That is only your interpretation of who I am. My interpretation tells me I'm wonderful and my God loves me. They have no comeback for that.
Be grateful, be grateful that you have had all these lessons come into your life because one day, one day when you make that transition...one day, as I like to say when you fall off your perch... One day you'll be able to look back with a bunch of friends and loved ones and see this last episode of your incarnation cycle and say: By golly, here's what I wanted to do and this is what I left having learned. And then your soul soars.
Sometimes I have to say to people very difficult things. I remember when Alfred was getting started, he just fought me tooth and nail, thinking he had the answer. And time after time after time, Spirit proved he did not. That is was nothing more than a lesson.
So what I want you all to hear is there is no way you should ever be so angry with anyone that you lose your self-awareness, that you lose your spiritual being. There should never be a time in your life when lessons are so strong that you want to give up. Because the truth of the matter is you put them in place. And the wonderful thing about it is once you really begin to understand: Oh, I see there's a continuity in what I'm doing, I keep repeating the the same things over and over again. Why are you doing that? What is going on for you that you continue to do this? Time in, time out, over and over and over? It is because you have not learned the lesson of the lesson. You have not gotten the value. But the moment you get the value, it's like this great weight is suddenly removed from you. Relax children. Soul mate friends, soul mate animals, are there for you to also have fun with, and to provide unconditional love.
How many of you today emailed someone that you think may be feeling alone and wished them Happy Valentine's Day? I did that this morning. I sent out Valentines to people I know happen to be by themselves right now. Think, everyone of you, send one person, even though it's late, send one person a Valentine's Greeting. Just a kind word, that's all. And watch how much better you feel for doing that. It will help change your life.
Many, many children who do have early childhood experiences are forced to relinquish those experiences because of the thoughts of others. Oftentimes a child will say to a parent: You know I see people on the Other Side. And you know I heard this lady say something to me today, a very kind angel came to visit me today, and she told me some things. Most people will say: You have a very vivid imagination child. Or well that's alright, that's called your imaginary friend. And rather than say: It's your imaginary friend, it would be very helpful for parents to understand that if they would simply say: Well that's wonderful, what did they say? What was the experience about for you? Tell me more. Let's record it so we won't forget it when you grow up. We tend to be fearful that our children speak to us about Spirit and about seeing other people or getting a message.
I have a client, for instance, whose husband had passed away before the child was born. And the very first memories of the child were he could see his father. When he first started speaking he would say: You know daddy brought me to life. Daddy brought me here. He said to me that I had to come here and be with you. And she just couldn't bring herself, she was so devastated, to honor that with the child. She hid all the father's pictures. And when the child was a little older he said: Daddy says you have those pictures in a box in the garage and you need to bring them out so we can be a family again. And he said he especially likes the one with the motorcycle.
When we listen to our children and we get past ourselves, we give our children the opportunity of that experience. You are in fact a baby angel having a human experience. And once that sits in you and you realize that you have resources, that you have tools, then you can be child-like again like the Bible says. Being child-like really means being close to the Source. Which is where we came from, it's where we're going. And it gives us an opportunity to learn to live. To live the life you were meant to live. This program will give you an opportunity to stand back of yourself and view your behavior and see what's stopping you, what's keeping you from getting where you want to go. You know the program really is very simple. It's seeing past the illusion and stopping the fear. As children, we don't have that concept of fear, we don't have that concept of death. We're full of love, we're full of light. Just listen to your children and they'll tell you their story. I think that's very important to do.
Hello everybody. Thank you for being on-board with us today. Today's topic is "What if Nothing is Wrong?" I've noticed with the questions there is this sort of flow of concern that comes with almost every question. And I've addressed this before but I'm going to try to see if I maybe work it a little differently to help you out. Every time you send in a question, I want you to notice the manner in which you send the question. I am always here, along with Spirit, to answer any question, no matter what. Always happy to be so, without having a judgment of where you're coming from or what's going on. But Spirit is taking this opportunity to maybe give us a little lesson on love and acceptance. In other words, knowing that everything is okay. It is only our perceptual mind that is taking an unknown and making it a wrong for us. Making it scary for us.
For instance, someone says: this person isn't responding to me the way I would hope that she would respond to me, can you tell me if she's going to respond to me? Spirit will say, at that point: Now, now. What's the importance? Why do you need this to happen? And why are you making it sound like there's something wrong if she doesn't respond to you? Because in the Spirit they operate out of "exactly's," as I call them. Something either "is" or "it is not." They don't have a gray place, like maybe it could be or maybe it could happen. So right now, what they're trying to help you all to understand is, coming from a basic place of spiritual reality, that nothing is really wrong. And if you want answers to the question, it's just out of curiosity, nothing more. But so many people, when you listen to their questions... Now we have 2 groups of questions that we're going to be answering this week because we were traveling. And so everyone listen to the questions and feel the concern from the individual. If you remove the concern of the situation from you and simply have a quiet knowing, it is what it is and will be what it's going to be. Without having expectation, all the concern, the worry, the fussing, starts to disappear.
I know a lady, who I'm very fond of, who is worried and concerned about every single solitary thing in her life and she does it every waking moment of her life. What if the coffee maker is broken? What if I can't make coffee? What if there's ice on the step and I can't go get my mail? And she starts with this the moment she wakes up. And her life, for someone who is financially as blessed as she is, her life is simply miserable because of the concerns. So her questions are always directed at: is this going to happen, is my mother going to understand what I'm saying, how long do I have to wait for an answer from this company. She just never stops it. And therefore she disturbs her ease. And she's constantly ill.
When you're asking a question, try not to make it sound like your life depends on the answer. Because it really doesn't. And I know about those heart ones, those love questions, I understand those. But sometimes you get questions from individuals who already know the answer to the question but they're asking it anyway. And all of you can see where that comes from. Does he love me? Well now you know the answer to that. Because if he loves you, you know it. Does she want to stay with me? You know the answer to that question also. Because if you're asking it, there is doubt. And if there is doubt there is a problem. You see?
So the way our world operates is in a constant flux of survival. This constant flux of: will I get this job, is this going to happen, is that going to happen, does my partner love me, are my kids going to be okay... It's a non-stop flow of fear and uncertainty. So I want everyone to start going back to a quiet, simple place. So I think a good place, Alfred, for everyone to start and graduating to that peaceful place is for them to listen to "You Are Enough."
Yes. A lot of it has to do with you understanding that you don't need anything. Everything that you need is available to you in the moment.
Yes, you already have it.
And it is through things like worrying that you separate yourself from that which you have and place yourself into a place of limitation, a humanness place, a place of suffering, pain, by worrying about it, by trying to find that which is already available to you. By focusing on the You Are Already Enough and everything you need is available to you if you simply have faith, have trust, believe in what we're telling you, then all of a sudden that which you're looking for will appear.
Yes. So asking questions to clarify things that you already know is you trying to change the outcome of what you already know to make it what you would like to see and hear. That doesn't work well. You know, you can fit a square peg in a round hole if you shave the peg to make it fit. But does that mean that's supposed to be in that hole? A whole other thing entirely. So what I want all of you to understand is that you have a resource here with Alfred and I that can basically change the outlook of your life. And when you change the outlook of your life, you change the direction of your life. You see? So when we say: What if you woke up tomorrow morning and found out that nothing was wrong? It's really hard to wrap your head around that. When I first said that to Alfred he said you're full of prunes. So the more he worked on that, the easier it got. Yes, Alfred?
And it is something that can be worked on. It is part of the inner work. It really is removing those aspects of you that think you have to be in control, that you have to protect yourself, that the outcome is up to you, you get what you negotiate. It's by removing the things that protect you by focusing on your goals. All of these things were beat into us. We all know what they are. And it is through the inner work, by removing them piece by piece, brick by brick, that you're much more able to be in the moment. To understand that there's nothing more important than to be connected with universe, to be in-sync with your Guidance, to just simply be in bliss and listen to what the Other Side has to tell you. Even if they tell you: Everything's fine, everything's okay. Your job is to "not to understand," to just have faith that what they're telling you is the truth. By questioning, by trying to understand, you separate yourself from that which you're trying to get. If that makes any sense at all.
It makes sense. Thank you. Try to write that down will you?
What I've noticed throughout the years we've been on the radio with you is that questions from a lot of people come in to us from a place of fear, a place of doubt, a place of unknowing. When if we could teach you to simply know that there wasn't anything wrong. Only our perception of what is going on. That's what's telling us. Our perception is telling us something is wrong. You see? So just look at this as a new way of being, a new way of learning for this new year. Okay? That this is a time now when everyone can start to let in all the light, all the hope, all the joy that is theirs, without having that filter of fear. That filter that says: Well this could happen, or that could happen, or what if this doesn't happen, how will it affect that? And we build up this scenario of fear and doubt.
And sometimes when things happen to us that appear bad, well it's actually a blessing in disguise. And if we knew that in advance, we would be able to say: Well, that's the way it was supposed to be so I'm good with that, I'm on the right track. Now your mind chatter's going to come in and is going to tell you a whole new story. Like if you break up with someone, for instance. You'll going to run all of this stuff by about what you might or could have said better, what they could have said, or why didn't this work. Be grateful in the moment, bless the relationship, bless that person who has been with you, wish them well, no guilt, and move on. Because the best is yet to be. For more information, you may like: You Are Enough Audio Lessons